Friendships fade over time. Loss of trust in friendship can play a critical role in a relationship ending.
On The Loss Of Trust In Friendship
Trust Is The Foundation Of Any Relationship
Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines trust as an “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength or truth or someone or something.”
Trust is the foundation of any relationship. It is earned. Trust can be easily lost and never recovered.
It does not matter if it is with a friend, family member, or an acquaintance. You have nothing without trust.
Trust is earned by institutions, too. People continue to lose faith in institutions. People and institutions can become toxic.
Signs Of A Toxic Friend
When you are not confident that your friend can help you or wants to spend time with you, there is no reason to stay friends. If a friend shows signs that you are in a toxic relationship. Consider ending your friendship with that person. Some telltale signs of a toxic friendship include:
- You lose self-esteem and self-confidence.
- You feel your friend attacks, demeans, and does not support you.
- You struggle to be yourself around the toxic person.
- You discover that you both bring out the worst in each other.
- The toxic person blames you and never takes responsibility for their actions or choices.
Breach Of Trust
Another issue that may arise with a friend that can lead to losing trust in a friendship is when your friend breaches your trust. They may gossip about you. They may have told a secret to someone. They may have done something you consider unforgivable.
Since trust is so critical to any relationship, and they breached it, it is up to you to decide to end the friendship. You have a few options for ending a friendship:
- You can block them across all your social media.
- You can cut them entirely out of your life.
- You can talk to them to discuss why you want to end the friendship in person or over a phone or Zoom call.
Cut That Friend Out From Your Life
If you identify one or more signs that someone in your life is toxic, cut them out of your life! It does not matter the reasons why you are friends. By being toxic, your friend has made you lose trust in the friendship. Ending a toxic friendship can help you to feel better about yourself.
Natural To Lose Friends As You Mature
There is nothing wrong with losing friendships as you become older. Your interests and skills naturally change. You may be connected and “friends” with people from college, but you never actually talk to them. If you move to another state or country for a new job, you will find new friends to develop a community.
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Conclusion
Contrary to popular thought, there is nothing wrong with ending friendships. That is especially true when you have lost trust in a friend. Make the wise choice. End the friendship. It will save you pain rather than working to keep the friendship going.
James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free.
There are parties (or even Sunday brunches) that don’t seem to start until one of those extroverted flamboyant folks sashay into the room. Then the conversation doesn’t stop. People like this know the tips of how to make anyone like you in an instant.
In this article, you’ll learn the basics of how to make anyone like you. So what are these mystifying things that actually work? By doing these 7 things you’ll build a solid community of friends.
How To Make Anyone Like You In 7 Easy Steps
How to make anyone like you from the first meeting is to ask them questions
People who are genuinely interested in getting to know another person instantly seem like the most interesting person at the party. As humans, we like to talk about our favorite restaurants, gas stations, and hobbies. So when you give someone the prompt to talk about themselves from the beginning— they’ll create your attention.
Another sneaky how to make people want to talk you is to look for similarities
This ties in with the first tip. If you’re a more introverted person, you may have to practice throwing back the word ball — that is following up with things that are tied in with the other person’s speech.
Let’s say a person is telling you about their real estate business. It makes you think of your first home. So you can talk about the great experience you had with your real estate agent. When you let your brain guide you to the next thing you think of, you’re on the right track. Your brain can’t help but connect the dots to something that is related.
Another way to make anyone like you is to practice listening
Talking is a way of connecting with someone on a deeper level and so is listening. Have you ever told someone a story and you just knew they weren’t paying attention? This creates a disconnect. When someone is impatiently waiting to pounce on the conversation with their opinion, it’s obnoxious.
What makes someone like you is also the ability to learn from others
Being a know-it-all doesn’t create a connection. Saying “Yeah I know that” is more offputting that saying something like “That’s so interesting,” or “I didn’t know that,” or even a thoughtful head nod and an “Ohhhh really?” These kinds of works show people that you’re listening.
One of the best psychology tricks to get someone to like you is to mirror back what they say
If someone is explaining something you can say something like this: “So what you’re saying is . . .” or “Do you mean. . .?” This is another way to let the other person know you heard what they are saying and are really paying attention. This doesn’t come quickly for everyone. It does take practice.
How to make people fall in love with you in a friendly way is to offer support
I was co-hosting a party, and one of the guests immediately asked if I needed help with setting up anything. Guess what happened? I had an immediate good vibe toward this person. He was the only person to offer advice early in the evening.
Later another woman started walking around throwing away trash at the end of the party. I fell in love with her too! When you offer support, it makes people see you in a different light. Don’t do it just to be liked because you’re the last single in your group of friends.
Another thing you can do is ask to ask for help
If your friend is an expert at financial, you could pick her brain on what stocks she likes, or how to set up a 401K. People love to talk about what they know. So don’t be afraid to ask people questions (as long as it’s not like an interrogation.
Summary
When you follow these tips, you’ll know how to make anyone like you increase your social circle. Most of all learn how to let loose and connect with all the people around you. The world is here for you to explore.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
There’s a unique phenomenon that single people experience in a friend group. Be it a night out at McGarry’s, night in watching a film in the apartment, or a mimosa-drenched Sunday brunch in Hell’s Kitchen, there is something sinister within the single person’s heart lying just underneath the fun and camaraderie on the surface. Single people in this setting, especially those who have no intention of staying single, can experience a gnawing void in the heart. This void stems from the elephant in the room: the fact, and the awareness thereof, that something (or someone) is missing. This can make even the most fun outing feel incomplete. And this feeling can lead to a bigger problem if it is not addressed. It is important for singles to have a friend group that they can spend time with in their daily lives.
The Importance Of A Friend Group In The Social Lives Of Singles
The temptation to zero in on what you don’t have is extremely strong and difficult to resist. This is especially true for single people today, in an age where PDA is much less openly discouraged. However, no one wants to rain on anyone’s parade, single or not. So if the single person doesn’t outright withdraw inward, they put their game face on and dive head-first into the moment. This is usually an attempt to either fill the void, or at least forget about it long enough to keep it from spoiling a good time. And so the “fun” goes on until it’s time to call it a night. The single person then usually heads home stag to once again face the void, which never left in the first place. Instead, the void has probably only gotten bigger.
Most singles have experienced this to varying degrees with varying frequency. While it’s perfectly natural to experience this occasionally, it can be a sign that the friend group dynamic lacks certain things: support, transparency and accountability.
Friends and friend groups are an essential part of a person’s life, young or old, introverted or extroverted. At their best, they are a dichotomous source of honest transparency and near-unconditional support that appreciate their members as they are and simultaneously challenge them to make the improvements they need to in order to grow, progress, and sometimes even survive in life. At their worst, friend groups are slow-motion quicksand pits that reinforce old vices and enable new ones by encouraging a delusional self-deception rooted in a lack of willingness to face the truths about oneself and his or her friends. The result of this mindset is stagnation, which leads to misery.
Being a part of a friend group carries an assortment of individual and collective responsibilities. Every individual has a unique means of interpreting their surroundings, be it through sense, intuition, or a combination of the two. Each member has an obligation to listen to other members of the group. This means doing your best to detect when a friend might be struggling, then reaching out to them with an attentive and encouraging ear. If you yourself are the struggling one, you have an obligation to speak up to members of the group to hear you out. This is something to be done both for your own health, and for the overall health of the group, because a group is the sum of its parts.
The friend group itself has a collective responsibility to foster a culture of understanding and patience to encourage individuals to be honest with where they are at without fear. In my experience, it doesn’t matter how good your heart is, if you are perceived as unapproachable, then you’ll never know that a problem exists, and will thus be powerless to do anything about it. So be careful what you say and how you respond to any kind of vulnerability. It could mean the difference between success and failure. This sometimes also means resisting the urge to give advice and just listen; letting someone talk or vent.
Summary
Being a part of a friend group means both entrusting a part of your well-being to your friends, and your friends entrusting a part of their well-being to you. So take pride and take part in the unique blessing and opportunity that is a friend group by doing the most difficult and potentially embarrassing things of all; listen up, speak up and step up!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Friends and friendship are undervalued in a society that is infatuated with romantic love, dating, and marriage. While those are good things, the neglect of friendship can lead to not fully realizing the importance of friends and what your friends bring to your life. They will help to shape you as a single, whether or not you are interested in dating and later getting married because you hang out with them and value their opinions. Friends are an important part of developing yourself as an individual and help to shape who you will become in your life. Friends play an integral part in the lives of singles to grow as a person and also help singles fully enjoy life.
Friends help make you into who you are and who you will become in your life. The friends you hang out with the most likely enjoy similar things and share similar views about the world as you. There are many qualities that singles should look for and value in a good friend. A true friend is hard to find, but here are five ways to spot a true friend in your life.
5 Signs Of A True Friend And Of Friendship
Respect
They respect you and likewise you respect them. Respect is the foundation of relationships. Without respect there can be no trust and friendships cannot go deeper. Would you spend time with someone who you don’t respect? Of course not. They respect you for who you are and they want to help you to become the best version of yourself.
Trust
Once respect is used as the foundation, trust is built. Trust leads to strong friendships. Trust requires that both parties in the friendship be clear about what they require to gain their trust. Once that step has been hurdled, the friendship can become something great. You can trust your friend with what you share with them. After trust is established, a strong friendship can be erected between you and your friend. Trust is a beautiful thing.
Listen
A good friend is willing to listen to what you are saying and help you to overcome a problem that you are facing in life. You would do the same for a good friend. The ability to listen is a skill and is best developed and improved between good friends. Listen to what your friend and they will likely listen to you as well.
Time
Time is the only resource that cannot be taken back or made back up. For this reason, it is invaluable. When a friend is willing to give up their time to meet with you or to hang out with you, it most likely means that they are a good friend. Spend the time together doing things that you both enjoy, having conversations, and doing activities that both people appreciate.
Cheer and Encouragement
A good friend will be your biggest cheerleader. They want to see you reach your life goals. They encourage you to become the best version of yourself. If you have someone like this in your life, be sure to keep them around because having a cheerleader in life is valuable.
Summary
These are five of the easiest signs that someone is a good friend. Friendship is vital to life. It is important for singles to value their friends and to know who their good friends are to fully enjoy the single life. Keep a look out for these five marks of a good friend and recognize that a wonderful friendship is meaningful. Pursue great friendships instead of the fanciful soulmate.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
In a world that emphasizes couples and married people have forgotten about the other types of love. The emphasis on romance and erotic love in the search for The One has influenced people to focus on eros when it comes to relationships. Other types of love are lost at the expense of erotic love. The continual search for the mythical One comes at the expense of your friends. Friendships are treated as less important are devalued at the expense to find erotic love. Singles should focus on having a couple of close friends and developing phileo love instead of neglecting their friends in the never-ending search for erotic love.
Why Singles Need To Focus On Phileo Love
It is important for singles to have friends. It is vital to have one or two close friends who you can call a best friend. It can be difficult to find good quality friends, but that should not stop you. In fact, a good friend may be harder to find than finding someone to marry. For that reason, singles should take friendships seriously and should not take their friends for granted.
Singles should cultivate friendships with a few people to sow seeds of friendship with people that they connect with well. Reap the handful of friendships that seem to be going towards being more than causal acquaintances and develop your relationships with those few people. Nurture the friendship with those few people to determine what common interests, values, and goals that you both share and see how committed they are to follow up with things that they say that they will do. Realistically, these few friends will become your good friends while the one or two who you hang out with and connect the best with will become your close friends or best friends.
After you have determined your close friends from your best friends, you can better focus on developing relationships with the one or two people with who you best connect and who share your values. Those one or two people will really be your best friends. Personally, I only have one person who gets the best friend status and a couple of people who get the ranking of close friends in my social circle. Given human nature, time, and the complexity of relationships it will likely be the case for you as well. Focus your most time and energy on your relationship with your best friend and secondarily focus on your relationships with your close friends. Those two groups will be the most important for you to maintain a community and to being able to go out to places that you both enjoy wherever you may live. My close friends, and best friend, share the same interests in trying new restaurants and cocktail lounges for example. Your interests may be different, but most likely the friends with who you are closer share your same interests.
Concentrate on your relationships with your close friends and best friends, your less important friendships will naturally begin to take less of your time. This is healthy and natural. Those friends you spend less time with and most likely don’t share common interests or values. You may still see them from time to time, but they are acquaintances as opposed to good close friends. Those relationships, while important, are less valuable to you in the long term compared to those who you would call your close or best friends. Life happens. It is natural for friends to drift away and for friendships to end. If you have one or two best friends and small number of good friends. You should count yourself lucky in life. Focus on nurturing and developing your relationships with your close and best friends instead of pursuing romance and dating relationships.
Summary
Society places dating and marriage relationships on a pedestal in the name of erotic love, it is important for singles to remember the other types of love that are just as important. Singles should build on and mature their relationships with their close and best friends. Friendships lead to a fuller and healthy life. Friendships also benefit singles in building social skills. Singles should put their energy towards fostering phileo love instead of erotic love.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Being single gets a bad rap from people and society because it is often thought that if you are not dating someone or living with a partner, then you are either anti-social or there is something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with being single, whether you are single by circumstance or single by choice. Despite popular thought, singles are more social than their coupled and married counterparts. Here are five reasons why being single does not mean you are anti-social or not part of a community because the single life provides freedom.
Singles Are Less Insulated Than Their Coupled Friends
The reality of life is that once you start dating someone, and later maybe marry someone, you become more insulated. This is because two people have committed to each other and as a result have moved to be closer to one of the partner’s families. The partner who most often moves closer to their partner’s family is the husband since the wife wants to be closer to family. This is not always the case, but this is very common. The newly married couple now mostly does activities with their family and family’s friends and does not get out as much compared to their single friends.
While those who are coupled up and married become more insulated, those who are single and unmarried are free to explore and make use of the freedom that the single life offers them. Singles are not committed to a person that also makes them a son-in-law or daughter-in-law to someone else’s family that brings additional obligations with marriage. Singles are able to make the most of their life to work on self-discovery, health, and their career. There is nothing wrong with being single and there is no reason why singles should be in a hurry to get hitched. Being single is fucking awesome!
Singles Have More Friends
Singles have a wider network and more friends than their married counterparts because they are able to meet more people and build new relationships. People who are married become more insulated and are unable to meet new people as they start a new family and stay confined within both of their familial network. This results in them having fewer friends and having less of an ability to meet new people compared to their single friends. Singles are able to go out when they want to, during the week or weekend when they want, while couples have to coordinate with their partner and possibly their family before they are able to go out. Singles should make the most of their unmarried life and meet new people to learn about other peoples’ life experiences and worldviews. Go out, meet people, and make friends singles!
Singles Volunteer More Than Their Coupled Friends
Again, since people who are dating or who are married become insulated and they have other priorities and they have less time to volunteer and to help their community. It has been found that singles volunteer more compared to their married friends. This is not surprising. Couples are committed to each other and in helping their partner and family to do well. Singles are often most interested in personal development, self-discovery, and helping to improve their community. For this reason, singles naturally are able to volunteer in their communities from their church, helping students, to political campaigns because there are not restrained by another person. Singles are able to allocate their time and volunteer for a cause they believe in!
Singles Are More Social Than Their Coupled Friends
Because singles are not restrained by a partner or have to work with a partner to do activities, singles are more social. Singles can try out new places where they live and talk to new people where they visit. The result the flexibility that the single life provides singles allows them to attend more events, explore their city, and to meet new people, and develop their personal network. There would be less opportunity for singles to do this if they were in a relationship. Singles should be open to meeting new people and exploring where they live!
Singles Can Build Their Own Community and Network
While couples become more insulated within their extended families and their own family, singles are able to build their own community and network. Singles are able to do this by meeting like-minded people in their community by attending events, volunteering for causes, and networking with professionals in their industry and industries that they are interested in as a professional. Community is important because human connection is part of the hierarchy of needs and it is healthy for singles to have interaction with other people. Singles should also work to build their career, business, and professional network. Networking is an important skill and your network can help you find people for future endeavors that you may have as a single professional.
Summary
There is a myth believed by society and people that if you are single, you are isolated and alone. Nothing is further from the truth. Singles are more social and have a larger community than their married friends. This is a simple list that only explains five simple ways why singles are in fact not isolated, alone, or anti-social but are in fact more involved and have a better social life than their married counterparts. Being single is great and there is no rush for singles to get married and to become restrained by a romantic relationship.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Being single is a universal state that everyone can relate to, because at one point or another everyone has been single. During this holiday season, we all know that if you are in your 20’s and 30’s without a significant other, then people are going to be asking what’s up. The key is to keep calm and carry on. Here are some tips to keep your cool while being a charming guest at any dinner party over the holidays.
Relate Being Single Back to the Person Asking the Question
Feeling singled out for being single? Reverse the question, and ask what your family member or friend enjoyed most about their single times. Make it relate-able. You can keep it light and friendly, there is no need to sweat. I am sure everyone can relate to a time in their life they enjoyed while being single. It is deemed one of the most important times when you make decisions. You might also add in that you enjoy what you have going on at the current moment, and are happy for your fiends and family members who have a significant other. Appreciation goes a long way.
Benefits of the Single Life
Single + Freedom are two words that go together nicely. Not to say that some couples have freedom, it just is easier when you have one person to look out for. Think about the positives: you can live wherever you choose, you can travel where you want, you can change careers, you can freelance and work 12 hour days and not feel guilty about it. You also tend to have a larger group of friends when you are single. Hey, rejoice that your happy about being single! It’s all about focusing on the positives.
Express that You are Taking Time to get to Know Yourself
No person will rightfully make you feel guilty about being single. Perhaps you’ve taken a break to clear some emotional air, and need time to develop your spirituality, your career, and your values. We are all in this together. If your friends are understanding, they will love you no matter what. If they judge you, then hey you might need to find friends that celebrate you. Just be yourself, and let people know where your at. Sometimes people just need an answer, and as the confident single person you are, you can say that you are gearing up to backpack across Europe while you build up your freelance career and find yourself. Wahoo!
Summary
This holiday season don’t have the blues. Remember that you are a fantastic human being and are worthy of love and appreciation. Being single is great, and you should appreciate what you have right now. Life should be an exciting adventure, so live it up, find your passion for career, and take it to the next level. During this time, allow yourself to make discoveries about yourself. When you love and appreciate who you are, and make progress towards accomplishing career and health goals, you might just meet someone in the same walk of life. Enjoy your life, and love what you do, it will make this time being single a lot more fun – and trust me, you are worth it to be able to enjoy your life. Live it up!
Cheers,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Excited about the upcoming December holidays but don’t know what to bring to your friends white elephant party? There is no need to worry, as this gift guide is here to help you find the perfect gift. Before we begin, what is a white elephant gift, and where did this name originate from? The term white elephant refers to an extravagant but burdensome gift that cannot be easily disposed of, based on the legend of the King of Siam giving rare albino elephants to courtiers who had displeased him, that they might be ruined by the animals’ upkeep costs. Fast forwarding to today, the term white elephant just means that a group of people pick a name and anonymously give a gift to the person whose name was drawn or follow another variation of the exchange. The gifts can be useful, silly, or even edible. There is no burdensome gift that is commonly given in today’s holiday exchange. Here are some ideas you’ll like!
5 White Elephant Christmas Present Ideas For Singles
Festive Ugly Christmas Sweater
This is a NOVELTY item everyone should have. You never know when you need one to wear to those end of the year parties. And the best part about giving and Ugly Sweater is that the uglier the better!
Alcohol
Okay, so we are not in middle school anymore. As a responsible adult, we can appreciate a good drink. You may want to check out some seasonal alcohols or gift alcoholic present ideas, and pick up a bottle of rum-infused eggnog. You’ll want to be careful about this gift only if you know one of your friends is an AA member. If your friend likes to party, this gift is perfect!
Cards Against Humanity
This gift is a hilarious card game that involves a group of people. When you get together with friends, pulling this game out is sure to bring laughter around the room. Like the ugly sweater, this is also a novelty item. Take heed – you may find out more about your friends while playing this game! It’s a win-win!
Fruit Cake
I don’t know why, but this is a traditional holiday item I see almost every year. You can either buy this item, or make it yourself with love. This white elephant gift is naughty and nice, because you have the healthy fruit component and the sweet cake side. Your gift is shareable, and your friends will love it. Go for the fruit cake, it’s great! for a white elephant present
Mittens
You can either buy or make mittens, and they are a great seasonal item for those who live in colder climates. You can give your gift knowing it will be put to good use, and your friends hands will be kept warm. It’s a feel good gift for sure, and if you do not know where to purchase mittens, head to a local holiday gift show, they are sure to have them,
Are you still having trouble finding a white elephant gift? This may be a useful guide for you to check out.
Summary
Got your gift, and ready to go? Well then, great work! The nice thing about white elephant parties are that they are great for single people because it is one gift to a group of friends, and when everyone participates it can be a lot of fun because everyone gets a gift. So have fun this holiday season, stay bundled up and warm, and don’t forget to enjoy the experience. Cheers this holiday season!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
In order to live a complete and fulfilled life, it is essential to have strong and deep meaningful relationships with the people who bring us up and bring out the best in us. Millennials are in the constant grind of completing college and getting established in the workforce. It can be a rat race, and our lives can be stressful and lonely. To combat those low-level feelings, we need a team of people we can count on emotionally. Good relationships bounce us backup after we have fallen. It is up to us to nurture and foster a loving environment for our relationships to become deep and meaningful. Here are three ways you can improve your relationships today!
Spend Time With Loved Ones
Time flies by, so spend time with your friends. Make time to be with your friends and plan activities around relaxation, being in nature, and working out. Drinking is nice to do if it’s a special holiday or birthday, but alcohol tends to make things worse if you are working to improve relationships. Be present, be attentive, and stay focused. These are important relationships you need to work, to try your best to be completely present for each person who is special in your life. It’s important, and you need to be emotionally available to help your friends when they need you!
Be Honest About Your Life Experience
Too often, we keep secrets from others because we are afraid of what they will think. Take a moment to meditate on why you do this. Is it because you are afraid others will not like the real you? If so, why are you pretending to be someone else? Come as you are and welcome your authentic, non-ego self into the present. You will feel more comfortable in your skin. By being open and honest about your life experiences, you are being your authentic self. You are being, you! In truth, you will attract the right people if you are yourself, and if you are not being yourself then you will attract people who are not like you and may not ultimately approve of yourself. Be you, do your best, and know that you are a diamond!
Trust Your Friends
Until proven differently, work hard to trust people you care about. It can be hard to trust if you grew up in a household where you weren’t loved, or even had a lover or friend you trusted deeply break that trust. To live complete, begin to trust again. Being hurt is temporary, so learn to let go and focus on what is happening now. Do not worry if you are uncertain of the future, you have absolutely no control over the future, you only have control over the current moment. Holding on to the past or worrying about the future will only keep you from loving and enjoying the present moment. Learn to let go, learn to trust, and learn to love life and enjoy it to the fullest. You are worthy of love and trust, so start today to show your friends you love them by trusting them completely.
Start today by intentionally making an active effort to do your best to improve relationships by being attentive and being your true self. When you open up and trust life, life tends to be there for us. Make sure you do your best every day, show up on time, make things work, and be happy. Every day is a new day for a fresh start. If is your life, so take back control today!