Giving up on women

It is no secret that men are dating less and that men are giving up on dating women. Single men are giving up on women and giving up trying to please their unrealistic expectations when it comes to dating. There are many reasons for this can include classic fights between the battle of the sexes. However, there are other reasons men have given up on women in the 21st Century and why dating is declining. These are fifteen reasons men are giving up on women and why men are deciding that it is preferable to stay single rather than deal with the hassle of dating and marrying women.

15 Reasons Why Single Men Are Giving Up On Women

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Change Men

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women always trying to change men and making men into their pet project. Once men get into a relationship with men, after a while, the man they are dating becomes their project to change. Women tell men that the changes that they are making are for their benefit and will make them better people to everyone they encounter. Is that true? Possibly. Is that right for them to do? Probably not. Should men put up with it? Only if men see themselves putting up with this person for their lifetime and are willing to compromise who they are for the person. Otherwise, men should not put up with this, which is why men get tired of women.


Make Men Into Their Pet Project

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women making them into pet projects. They didn’t make these changes when they first met or began to date, but once their relationship becomes more serious women want to improve their man by making him their pet project. Men, single or not, should not put up with this and should be upfront that they will not put up with this or draw a compromise line. Bottom line: men are sick of being made into a pet project.


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Not Communicating What They Want

Single men have given up on women because they do not directly communicate what they want and expect men to know by correctly reading body language. Women most often blame men for not communicating enough. Men are tired of always receiving the blame while women get away blame-free.


Decided That Women Are Not Worth Their Time

Single men have given up on women because they have decided that women are not worth their time trying to develop any type of relationship. Women have continually ignored them. Women have not been willing to get to know a guy as a friend. Women have stopped communicating with men when even when men are nice. Men have tried their best to be friendly, nice, and sociable and yet women still act those ways by following the bandwagon fallacy that all men are animals who are not worth their time.


Thought Of As Animals

Single men are giving up on women because they are sick of being thought of as animals. Women characterize men as being lowly animals who have human characteristics and are only necessary to put up with on a daily basis. This treatment implicitly makes women who think this way only view men as animals and damage their relationships with men. Men are tired of being thought of as animals and rightly should not put up with it.


Men Are Disappointing

Single men have giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as a disappointment. If men are friends with women who believe this about men, they will likely not remain friends for long because it is detrimental to their friendship. These types of thoughts, values, and statements hurt men yet it is perfectly acceptable for women to say things like this while if men did something similar, they would be called sexist or misogynist. This is a double standard that is acceptable by society. For women that think this about men, men are tired of hearing these things and putting up with them so it is no surprise that men continue to leave women. Men are sick of it.

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Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as man-children. Women think that men are merely grown, children. It is true that men take longer to mature and for men’s brains to develop than women’s, but that is not why women call men this. This term assumes that men are immature and are incapable of being adults and are still children. Men are tired of being portrayed as only grown children by the media and treated as such by women. If a man said something similar about women, they’d get called out on it. Are you starting to see a pattern and double standard here?

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Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as a loser. Since they are a man-child, they must be a loser too because men must not have a great job or something else that is thought to make men a winner and a real man. Even if men may be smart and tech-savvy and have great jobs for today but lack social skills so they fall into the “never had a girlfriend stigma’, women will still most likely call them losers. Men are tired of this thinking from women.


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Rescue Men

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women believing that they need to rescue men from themselves. Once single men start dating a woman and marry a woman, women think that it is their job to rescue their man from whatever they think is wrong with them. Women like to shape men into their own image. Men can only do their manly things in the “man cave” once they get into the relationship and partner stage. Single men are fed up with having women compartmentalize all men as needing to be rescued. Single men, continue this trend of not dating women. You don’t need to be rescued and formed into someone who you are not by a woman.


All Men Are The Same

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women thinking that all men are the same. Men are only the same in that they share xx chromosomes; beyond that, men have different interests, goals, and views on life. In short, all men are not the same. There are nice men. There are bad men. There are successful men. There are men with traditional values and there are men with progressive values. All men are not the same. This false box that women put men into is yet another reason men have given up on women and do not want to get into a relationship. It’s not their fault. Relationships are two-sided so women need to take a look in the mirror as well.

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Single Men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of and treated as trash. Men are thought of as trash. Enough said. Treat others how you would like to be treated.


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Tired of Being Told There Is Something Wrong With Them

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being told that there is something wrong with them because they are male.


Blamed For Relationships Ending

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of always receiving the blame for when a relationship ends. Relationships are a two-way street. This is true of friendships to marriages, yet men often are the ones who are blamed for a relationship not being successful. Stop blaming others and take responsibility when it is the fault of one or both parties in a relationship.


Their Fault If Women Are Not Happy

Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of it being their fault if women are not happy. If they cannot make women happy or are unhappy for some reason, men receive the blame even if they try to help. Most men don’t have the emotional dynamism that women want men to have that they think will make them be happy in a relationship. Men are sick of these unrealistic expectations and obligations that women believe men must fill in their lives.



Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as the evil gender. This follows from the idea of men being animals, men-children, and trash. Women are thought of as the good and perfect gender while men always are portrayed as the evil and inferior gender. Again, thoughts lead to actions and how people treat others. Men are tired of being thought of this way and treated as such.

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Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of how women characterize, treat, and try to change men from the list above. All Men are not guilt-free, but not all women are guiltless either. It would be more beneficial if women tried to get along with men instead of attacking them. The same can be said to men about their relationships with women. Regardless, single men are learning to enjoy the single life and single women are too. Stay civil singles with each other and learn to work with the other because the world would be really boring if it was only made up of men or women.


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  • Mitch

    Article is pretty much spot on.
    Its when some woman reject men and then complain about being single.

  • Rick


    Online dating is a cesspool because women are too picky. I once spoke to a woman who had got over 600 messages in a month and a half, and she claims that not a SINGLE man was attractive to her. Now, what are the odds that out of over 600 people, NO ONE WOULD BE ATTRACTIVE? How INSANE is that?

    Most of these women think they’re models when in reality most of them are average-looking and with their makeup off they are below average. Many will point to biology for women’s pickiness but the truth is that the pickiness of the modern woman has gone far beyond simple biology. They’ve been indoctrinated so deeply into Disney fantasy that even men who are on their same level or a little above are no longer good enough. They all think they deserve the perfect 10 with all the 6’s (6ft tall, 6 pack abs, 6 figure income), even when the girl herself is fat, has a terrible personality, and has nothing to offer outside of her crummy Gender Studies degree.

    As a man, the best thing you can do is just walk away. They are not going to change, because women would rather die off instead of correct their silliness and create a better situation for everyone. That’s how selfish, self-absorbed, and self-centered they are today.

  • Tim M

    Spot on! My ex wife was a control freak…she was manipulative and knew exactly what I needed or how I should dress etc etc. I was expected to change if our relationship was in trouble, yet she figured she was without faults…sure! I couldn’t take it anymore. She expected me to clean the house and do as she said. I’m like, NOPE! Life is too short, so I divorced her. Dating? My God! What a farce! Online dating is total joke! Women can pick and choose: either ignore you or play head games. No more online dating.

  • Marius

    This is a good article I think if men really articulate all their reasons for staying single it will not be an article but rather a book. I am 39 year old engineer, and never married and no children. I have spent all my time studying and working on my business and paying my own mortgage. Being single I live the good life, not so much women, but friends, massages, dinners at restaurants 4 times a week and go as I please where and when I want and apologize to no one for living my life freely.

    I sometimes wish I could shake some sense into young men when I see them getting married young, get kids and then work the next 21 years as a slave for a family who rejects him with the power of the family courts. Men who love women while women have nothing but contempt and disrespect for men. Any young man today must be wise and learn from millions of men who made these mistakes and learned the hard way. The love women talk about it not guaranteed or virtuous. But you will not regret investing your time, money and efforts into developing yourself instead, no one else will. Its time young men put themselves first as if there future depends on it. Because it really does. Forget the traditions and religions doctrines as those who preach will not take accountability when things are your mess to put up with. Like parents will pressure you to marry an have grand children. But when things goes bad then its your baby to sort out…dont be bullied into it.

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      I appreciate the time you took to write a comment that comes from personal experience but also has good advice for single men. I am currently working on further developing and researching into this area. I would like to write a book about it since I have received quite a bit of positive feedback from this article. I know quite a few men who believe what you articulated in your comment and in the points that I listed in the article. I hope you enjoy the site.



  • Craig Barnes

    Interesting article with some valid points, in my opinion. I am a 70+ year-old disabled Vietnam veteran who has NEVER been married and glad this is the case. To say that modern American women, especially (rabid) feminists in 2018, are extraordinarily “unattractive” is a huge understatement!!

    I have never been and never will be able to stand the hypocrisy, lies, and manipulation that the great majority of American women (of all ages?) practice with increasing frequency. Equality? MUTUAL respect, understanding, and appreciation? No, no, and NO.

    As the Bible says, we – both men AND women – “reap what we sow.” So, if more and more (young) women dish out a steady diet of hate, mistrust, disrespect, and dishonesty towards all men (BUT especially single ones), then I just don’t want to hear another word of complaint or self-pity. For over seven decades now, it has sickened me how toxic an environment WOMEN have successfully striven to create to satisfy their own sexist agendas. Enough already. Please leave us alone.

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