There are advantages and disadvantages to everything in life. A single life provides many advantages that disappear once you become a parent and have a family. There are three main advantages to being single and not having a family.


Single Life


There are many advantages that come with being single. You can implement the single life values in your daily life. You can work to improve yourself by working on self-development. As a single, you are able to focus on your personal health. You can direct your energy toward exercise. Exercise benefits singles by making you feel happier, weight loss, and to raise your energy levels. You can direct your time and energy towards finding hobbies. There is no spouse or children in your life who you need to care for as a parent. Of course, that is different if you are a single parent. You are able to freely travel. You can do as you please.


Independence and the Single Mindset


No one is dependent on you when you are single. You are childfree. When you are single and childfree you don’t have to worry about supporting a spouse and a family. The average cost estimate to raise a child from birth to 18 is $284,570.That number includes the cost of housing, food, child care, education, transportation,  healthcare, clothing, and other expenses to raise a child. The bottom line is you save money being single.


You are independent as a single. You are able to live your own life. This independence makes you self-reliant. Self-reliance is a strength because you depend on yourself to give meaning and fulfillment to life. Self-reliance is significant to happiness. It leads you to learn the self-concepts: self-acceptance, self-worth, resilience, self-care, and self-love. Self-reliance leads to your independence. Self-reliance and other self-concepts along with the single life values establish the single mindset. Once you master the single mindset, you will fully discover that the single life is a good life and the single life is worth living. You will become independent and free from society’s pressures with the single mindset. The combination of independence and having a single mindset makes you in charge of your life decisions.


In Charge of Your Life Decisions


When you are single you are fully in charge of your own life decisions. You are responsible for every choice that you make as a single. That includes both your good and bad decisions. The freedom that comes from being single allows you to live your life how you choose. This helps you to learn the things that you have control over in your life. It also assists you in learning what things are outside of your control. This will help you find the connections between the knowledge, important things, and what you are able to control in your life.


Once you adopt the single mindset and tie it in with being independent, you can work to unleash your unique talents and skillset to the world. You will no longer be afraid or care, what society or people think about your single status. That is true independence. You are free from what society tells you to think. You escape from groupthink. Baruch Spinoza said, “The highest activity a human being can attain is learning for understanding because to understand is to be free.” To be free, or independent, relates to understanding because you are now able to accept the reality of the world and to free yourself from it. You emerge from the cave. It is now your choice how you choose to use your new freedom in your life. That is true personal responsibility.




There are many advantages to not having a family and being single. These are only three that you can apply in your life. You can utilize the single life values. You are independent and you do not have the numbers of worries that come with having a family. You are free and in charge of your life decisions.  These advantages help you to thrive as a single person!

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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James Bollen is the Founder and President of Secure Single. He is an entrepreneur and a content creator with the goal of helping all different types of singles to learn to thrive as a single person.
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