First off, I’m going to be real about how to make the most of being an apex single.
We’ve all been there at one time or another. None of your married friends were born with a perfect partner. Here are four life hacks to make you an apex single!
Many people of the human race long to love and be loved. Most of us make plenty of bad decisions in their search to find “the one,” and we end up being with the wrong partner instead. It’s all just because you want to be with someone. Any old person will do.
But anyone won’t do— And you definitely shouldn’t “do” them.
You deserve to be with the right person when it’s the best time. When you’re both ready, willing and able and you’re a good fit.
However, relationships, even the failed ones, make the world go around— Or at least make your head spin— And that in itself is never boring.
Learning how to make the most of being single is an incredible journey if you let yourself enjoy it.
There are people who are embarrassed to admit their singleness to any of their acquaintances. If you are one of those people you need a few simple hacks to make the most of being in the single zone.
You can be like Gretchen Rubin and start your own “Happiness Project.” Ask yourself the question, “Do I want to be happy?” I hope you say yes!
How to make the most of being single hack #1—Is to never sell yourself short.
Being single is much better than being co-dependent and “settling” for the wrong partner. I was mega-guilty of wearing the “I must have a boyfriend right this instant” medal in my early twenties.
I’ve had boyfriends since I was 5 years old and always loved the opposite sex for some primal reason. I love to love. And when I wasn’t feeling good enough on the inside, codependency was real for me and I thought I needed someone else to love me because I hated myself.
Thankfully I’ve thrown out my codependent tendencies for the single life for long enough to figure out who I am, what I want and learn to love being single.
Back in my younger days when I was single, I would feel like something was wrong with me. Becuase I should find a “nice boy” and settle down. Even though my internal essence was fighting it every step of the way.
Therefore, I’ve had plenty of dysfunctional “learning” relationships. Since the trial and error of trying on different relationships— I now love being alone— So can you. There are some simple hacks you can tap into to make the most of your singledom.
How to make the most of being single hack #2 is to appreciate being alone— Instead of wishing you were alone.
I know you’ve been there with the partner, husband or wife who did terrible or annoying things that you couldn’t stop complaining about. They made your life a living hell.
- The woman who yelled at you if you were five minutes late.
- Stinky socks on the floor were an everyday occurrence with your ex.
- Your buttons were pushed daily by that old boyfriend that made you feel like you were going crazy.
- Adult friend finder was brought up one too many times, and you hated the idea of it. Your boyfriend was a perv.
You settled for good enough when you shouldn’t have. Now you must suffer the consequences of being in a relationship with the absolute wrong person. Be an apex single instead of settling for good enough.
Aren’t you happy that you’re not with “that guy” or “that woman” anymore? Isn’t your life more peaceful and amazing? You have taken the first step towards being an apex single!
How to make the most of being single hack #3 is to let the past be the past.
Let it go and appreciate the things you’ve learned from your massive amount of exciting dates and interesting relationships.
We both know you’ll never forget the one guy or gal who made you feel like you were a real-life rom-com. The chemistry with your ex-was so mind-blowing you thought you would lose your mind if they were out of your site for one tiny second.
But you didn’t die from losing them. You made it through that dark night of the soul, and you came out of it a more street smart and savvy person full of soul and experience that evolved into you being much more wise and beautiful on the inside.
After I went through my divorce, I went from feeling like a girl who didn’t know herself— Into a breathing feeling woman.
Actually, after all, I’ve been through I feel more like Wonder Woman. If I could make it through hellish relationships and breakups, I could make it through anything that blocked my path.
How to make the most of being single hack #4 is to focus on what makes your life more fulfilled.
Since you’re single, I know you’ve got more time on your hands than if you had to think about a significant other. You have time to do you! Take up knitting if you feel like it. Become a boxer.
Enjoy your independence and take time to look in the mirror and say to yourself, “I love you. I really really do.” These are some the keys to being happily single. Be an apex single today!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.