Abuse leaves lasting scars that the naked eye cannot see. When we talk about sexual abuse, it is no light matter. The after effects and the trauma that follow take months to years until a person is nearly healed. Therapy or self-medication tend to help a person recover, but therapy is healthier because the person deals with a professional who knows how to help a person fully recover. It becomes difficult to regain identity and feel comfortable with your sexuality. But don’t worry, there is hope. If you have experienced sexual abuse, you have resources available and methods to cope along with these five fast ways to recover from sexual abuse.
Five Fast Ways For Singles To Recover From Sexual Abuse
There is no right way to react to the effects of trauma. You should not feel ashamed if you have been a victim. Each person’s method of recovery and dealing with the issue is different. All survivors take their feelings out in different ways, like writing in a journal, running hardcore, or creating music. Anything in between that takes your mind off the trauma is an effective way to move forward and move on with your life. What happened to a victim of sexual abuse is not their fault. Start to feel better about yourself and take responsibility for your recovery. You cannot change what happened, but you can change how you feel about it.
Talk People You Trust
Not everyone you know will be able to give you the support you need. This is why you need to seek out the help of trusted family and friends. You can succeed if you have the right support group. Talking to people you trust will help you release pent-up energy, and also to feel better about your situation. Trusted family and friends can also share advice with you on how to overcome your trauma. In special cases, if you feel no one is supportive you can seek professional help.
Pay Attention to What Triggers You
Survivors of sexual abuse can have triggers, which are places, events, or things that remind them of the traumatic events. In order to achieve a secure life, eliminating all the experiences that trigger memories of traumatic events will help a person move on. By surrounding yourself with positive influences, you can avoid being triggered. Also, through counseling, you can learn to develop the tools to handle stressful situations that trigger your emotions.
Find What Makes You Feel Safe
Finding a sense of safety and security will help a victims recovery process. Identifying what makes a person feel safe can be as simple as going for a walk, driving around, being alone in bed, or getting a message. Practicing being in moments that make you feel safe will help a person develop a sense of security. It is important to practice this once a day. Feel safe, feel secure, and feel good about yourself.
Say No – And Be Comfortable With It
Saying ‘No!’ has to be one of the most difficult things to do. We want to be there for people, but when we need to heal and involve ourselves in healthy activities, saying ‘No!’ gives you time to do the things that are a priority in your life. You can decline sexual advances, and feel prideful by keeping your body a sacred temple. No one has the right to touch you without your consent. If someone doesn’t respect your word, show them the door. Start by practicing it politely, and gradually work to say it firmly as well. No matter what it is for, being able to say no without having to apologize will make you feel more confident.
When it comes to recovering from something as serious as sexual assault, it is important you do things that make you feel secure and happy. The fastest way to recovery is to know that it was not your fault, talk to friends and family, or seek professional help. Know what triggers you, do what makes you feel safe, and be fearless when you say ‘No!’ Do not give anyone or anything the ability to break you- stay secure, singles!
Danielle E. Brockman is a contributing writer for Secure Single LLC. Danielle has her own blog at eContently and you can connect with Danielle on LinkedIn.