Single mother families are on the rise!
A study conducted by the US Census Bureau stated a majority of the 73.7 million children 0-18 years old are living in two-parent families. With divorce rates skyrocketing it’s at a surprisingly high 69 percent in November 2017. Does being a single mother compare?
This is probably with second marriages in the mix as well. Family trees are much more complicated than they used to be. The simple life is a thing of the past, but were things ever simple? Being a single mom is definitely never boring!
Children 18 and under living with a single mother are number two on the list.
Single mom households come in at 23 percent. I’m one of the women in this demographic, and I happen to like being a single mom, it’s part of the planet’s evolution. Single women coming into their power.
I may not be single forever, but for now— It’s heaven. Being part of the single mother statistic has its benefits. Especially when you’re a part-time mamma. This is my current status, and it can’t be beaten. At least not according to the life of Dina.
Single mother life gives you an opportunity not had by many women.
When you’re a single mother you get to be selfish with your kid time.
You’ve maybe lived the married or coupled up life and been a single mother. It’s got qualities that are as unique as your children.
My son and I have a F-A-N-T-A-S-T-I-C single mother-only child relationship. It’s one that would make most parents jealous. We look out for each other, and it wouldn’t have been the same if I was still married. Our connection is deep.
I’m not saying married women don’t have a deep connection with their children. It’s just different as a single mother.
My friend Arthur grew up in a single mother household, and he said he would watch out for him mom— No matter what. If you treat your children as people and respect them as you want them to respect you, then you will get this kind of relationship.
Another added benefit of being a single mother gives you time to spend with just you and your children.
You can enjoy one on one time without anyone else butting their heads in if you don’t’ want them to.
You may gladly invite special people into the moment with them, but they’ve got to earn that right. At least in my home, maybe yours is different.
When you’re a single mother, you get to choose what is best for you and your kids.
Nobody can tell you what to do. I LOVE this! Your ex might try to tell you how to raise your kids, but when you live alone— Life is on YOUR terms.
Being part of a single parent family has problems of course,— Like paying all the bills alone, but the challenges of being a single mom household lead me and probably you to get creative with everything— Especially in the making money department.
You are lucky to be a single mom because you get the opportunity to be creative.
Women are built for creation. You created a human child, and now you get to inspire them, and mold them to become (hopefully) amazing and grown-up human beings.
When you’re a single mother, you’ll also get to create a new you.
Before running a single parent home, I was severely co-dependent. Now I’m independent. Independence is a great skill to learn especially when you always felt the need that had to have a man around. You don’t.
You learn how to be an independent woman when you’re a single mom— Because you have to.
This is a good thing. You will also learn the art of having good boundaries.
When you’re a single mother, it will teach you to say NO in the correct time and never be a doormat.
When you’re a single mom you don’t have time to do things you don’t want to do.
You will also learn how to accept support when its available too and say YES! When it’s the right time.
Having a little help from your friends never hurts. If a friend offers to open the door or buy you dinner— Say yes! It takes practice to say yes to help when you’re used being good at everything and used to doing it all.
Life as a single mother gives you more freedom also to say “No” when something doesn’t feel right. When you’re supporting a family by yourself, it teaches you that your time is super valuable. If your friends invite you to a party and your tired— Give them a thank you, then a no thank you.
Being a single mother will teach you about balance because it’s the only way.
We’ve all got our ups and downs, and when you learn to accept the light with the dark, you will become much lighter and so much more fulfilling.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.