If you see yourself as a default single person and want to be happy being single— There are a few easy steps you can take.
Part of this method requires you to take some action. I promise you won’t want to stop once you get started if you are a default single!
If You Want To Date And Stop Being A Default Single Do This . . .
Do what you’ve got to do to make yourself happy being single first.
“How are you supposed to do this?” You might ask.
Remember things that have made you happy in the past and do them. Was it camping in the wilderness? Going to the movies or riding a roller coaster?
Figure out what makes your heart sing and do it often. While you think about your passions, think about your friends and invite them along.
Get Into The Friend Zone To Be Happy Being A Default Single
This friend zone is not what you think. You want to be in the friend zone at least once a week. According to the Mayo Clinic having friends is good for your health.
When you’re single for a long time life can feel lonely. Keeping people you care for close, will make you feel more connected. When you feel cared for and loved it will help you open your heart.
There are three easy steps to get into the friend zone.
- Call old friends and make plans to meet.
- Connect with acquaintances.
- Make new friends and extend your social circle.
When You Want To Be Happy Being A Default Single Figure Out What You Like
If evenings spent binging on Game Of Thrones is your normal, it’s time to get off the couch that seems to suck you in like a black hole. If your friends wonder where you’ve been it’s time to change it up.
Have A Pot-Luck Dinner
Tell your friends to invite their single friends. Create a Facebook Event for your dinner and send out invites. You’ll meet new people and hopefully get some incredible recipes to boot.
After the first party, your friends will be begging to have one at their house. Less for you to clean up. The intimacy of sharing food with old and new friends will give you a wonderful “Food tribe.”
Do Something Daring If You Want To Be Happy Being Single
It’s time to get out of your comfort zone. Take a new class. Go to a different gas station. Hit up the grocery store twice a week instead of every Sunday at 8 pm.
If you’re feeling really frisky go to a meetup group where you know no one. You’ll have to talk to strangers and it will be refreshing.
Get A Bigger Bookshelf To Be Happy Being Single
So many people get cornered into old habits that keep them stuck. My old chiropractor said, “People’s minds are like bookshelves.”
Some people have 10 books on their mental shelf, a different group has 30, others only have one book. The one book people can’t see outside of one way of thinking.
The one book mindset is the trickiest to get past. Because you’ve been telling yourself you’re single “Just because that’s how I am and there’s nothing I can do about it,” You start to believe it.
Being Single: This seems like the only book you’ve ever read from the way your mind thinks.
You get the “One book mentality” even though there are millions of books and thoughts you can add to your bookshelf.
People like me have 100 plus books on my shelf literally and figuratively. My mind is open and I know that I’m not a default single. Single is a choice.
I’m happy being single, and I hope you get to that place too.
Another Happy Being Single Technique Is To Become A Sponge
An information sponge. Turn off the television and go to the library. If you’ve got a few extra bucks you can buy some books on Amazon or listen to audiobooks on your way to work.
Scour online for something you want to change in your life— Like how to be a good partner, or how to flirt with men.
There will be a self-help book about the particular thing you want to change. There is power in your mind and you can easily change your thoughts by reading something that points your brain in the right direction to where you want to go.
When you’re single and you want to learn how to be single and happy there are so many ways to become peachy keen on a regular basis. I mean it. Happiness is your birthright even if you’re not hitched up right now.
Being happy as a single may not happen overnight, but you can change where you are mentally and in real life. But you have to believe that you have the power to change. The choice is in your hands.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.