Whether you are are a socialite or a wallflower, one of the most common categories people will inevitably put you in are as follows: Single (check) or in a relationship (…blank).
That is just too broad though… There are actually sub categories within the single status that most people overlook — other than the single cat lady down the street. Looking beyond that, there are quite a few types of singles. Here are a few to give you a taste. Find out which one you are!
- The Fonz
is the fun and frivolous bar hopper, who gets to dance with, kiss, or take home anyone they please. They are the complete opposite of a monogamous person. Though, many people who date have commonly gone through this phase. Some singles, however, say in this stage….
- The Chronic Dater
This is the person who dates, and dates, and dates, but never really commits — verbally. This person is one who appears to be aiding someone, but they deny they are, or don’t comment.We all have a friend like this, don’t we? Anyways, commitment can be a scary thing, especially if you’ve been burned in the past and choose to be securely single.
- The Workaholic
This is probably me. By choice. The Workaholic chose a heavy career over committing to a relationship. This is on the premise of being focused to gain large leaps in the career realm, and become a top performing professional. Some people choose this secure single path as a way to possibly numb some past pain, and direct their energy towards achievement. Though, some people just prefer to work, That is the freedom in life — the ability to choose what you want to do, and to choose the secure single lifestyle. Working 80 hour weeks can be more fulfilling than dating someone — weird, right? We all have our thing. As thoughtcatalog.com kindly puts it, “the Workaholic would try to explain this to you if [he or she] weren’t so busy working on important work things that you’re too human-like to understand.”
- Temporarily Single Person
This person goes from one relationship to the next. Possible cause could be commitment issues. Or the temporarily single person just enjoys the rush of dating a new person every couple of months.
- The Recently Separated Single
This person has a bit of PTSD simply because they may have gotten out of a really long relationship, and are going through the 5 stages of separation and loss. If you have a friend out there who is going through this, you might want to offer them a hand. Take them out for ice cream and break them out of that post-breakup feeling. We all need a supportive friend. If you are going through post-breakup, stop binge watching Netflix in the dark and go hang out with some of your compassionate friends who will help you through this. No reason to go in alone. Go find our happiness and try dating someone new!
- The Chronically Single Person
This person is always chiming in, “Why Am I Single?” They may be super genius and have no clue how to talk to another guy/gal romantically — it’s like a foreign language or something (this was the case for me at my shy teen years starting at 15). The thing is, whether they are just plain shy or they simply moan about being single, they are down right chronically single. Ailments? Join a social club and make some friends. A ransom spark may strike up without you even searching for it. Just trust the process — everything comes to you when you are ready.
Summary
There are many more categories of singles, but hopefully this guide will help you understand your singleness — or perhaps that of a friend. Now, go have fun being single! It can truly be a positive experience. After all, life is meant to be enjoyed!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
