Most of the people I know, or who I am “friends” with on social media, are dating or are married. I have no interest in dating and I am happily single. While some may think there is an obligation to date from social pressure and from single shaming, I choose to remain happily single. For anyone who asks why I am not dating and are surprised that being single is a good thing, I give them the bird. I am not looking for a relationship and here are ten reasons why I am happily single while everyone else I know is in a relationship.

10 Reasons I Am Happily Single In A Dating World


I have the freedom to do what I want, when I want, where I want, and how I want twenty-four hours a day seven days a week three hundred and-sixty five days a year.


I have the flexibility to make my own schedule around my week and my priorities. I do not have to work around a significant other, or get a significant other’s permission, to do something. The flexibility of the single life also allows me to spend time helping others and to volunteer.


I am a Secure Single. I know that my value does not come from being in a relationship or from marriage. I know that my value as a person is innate and that is true about everyone else too. It does not matter what their relationship status may be.


I have the ability to travel when I want to and to make trips to visit family, friends, or to see the world. Solo travel is really popular now and I am not afraid to travel alone.


I am in my late twenties and I am focused on my career. This requires that I complete graduate school, study for information technology and cybersecurity certifications, and focus on making Secure Single the best that it can be for those who are single and unmarried. I also want to work to improve the poor state of cybersecurity by starting my own cybersecurity company in the future.


There is a diversity among those who are single and unmarried that I need to continue to explore with Secure Single. There are people who are single by circumstance, single again (divorce, partner died, or a romantic relationship ended), single at heart, single by choice, celibate, and for religious reasons. The single life is more complex and diverse than society wants those who are single and unmarried to know. I want to continue to dig deeper into the diversity of the single and unmarried life.


The single life provides the opportunity for me to explore Denver and to explore new things without the restraints of being in a relationship. I would rather explore the world than be confined by a relationship.


I have the ability to direct my life as I see fit unrestrained by a significant other, a partner, or a spouse. I am able to govern myself as I see fit without being influenced by a romantic relationship that requires compromise between two people.


I am able to experiment and try new things from recipes, restaurants, and testing different philosophies. I can experiment, test, and live my best life single.


I am able to happily live my life single because there is so much more to life than dating and marriage. There are many ways to be happily single and unmarried. That will look different for me and it will look different for you. I am happily single because I am focused on my education, career, and I am not interested in dating and getting married at this time. I am happily single and I am currently single by choice.


Being single is fantastic and it is important to be happily single instead of believing that the single life is purgatory between birth, dating, and marriage. The single life is a wonderful life. Being single is awesome. If you are like me and have a majority of friends who are dating or married, choose to be happily single. Enjoy the single life and resist the pressure to date. I choose to improve myself while loving the single life.  Do the same. I am a Secure Single who is happily single in one of the many forms that the single life can look like for singles.

Views expressed in this article are opinions of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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James Bollen is the Founder and President of Secure Single. He is an entrepreneur and a content creator with the goal of helping all different types of singles to learn to thrive as a single person.
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