Everyone has had difficulty forming and keeping good relationships alive, there are friendships that you may have silently or explicitly ended. There are many people out there who struggle with mental health when it comes to connecting with others. At a very young age, someone may have hurt you and made it not okay to be yourself. Adults you work with and converse with suffer from these issues. Here’s how you can turn it around if you have suffered connecting with yourself and others. You can build and keep healthy relationships!

Get To The Root

Whatever happened, you should meditate and think deeply on what caused you to turn in and away from yourself and others. Emotional scars cannot be easily seen, and make it difficult for others to understand us. Buy a journal, and seek counsel from a professional therapist or free support group, and you can begin to uncover the real you. This hidden real you will be unafraid of meaningful connection and long lasting friendships.

Take Baby Steps

It can be frightening to open up thought if you are used to being closed off. You may have heard or encountered people who are mean, closed off, and shut off. These are the people who need human connection the most, and are starved for it. You will need to see if the above resonates with you, and if so, it is time to make positive changes in your life to live a better way. Positive changes in your life will make it easier for others to deal with you, a good characteristic in your personal and professional life. Each person in your life you meet is a reflection of yourself, so when you begin to make meaningful friendships you know that you are headed on the right path.

Let Go

Many people hold onto thoughts, patterns, and habits that do not serve them well in the long term This makes them bitter and unable to forgive others who wronged them in the past. Bad habits can be a defense mechanism people use to protect themselves from being hurt. I noticed this in myself, as I have become recently aware that I am a relationship saboteur and push people away when they get too close. I have began to meditate on what caused me to be this way, and have started to let go of a lot of junk thoughts that no longer serve me. I have a long road to go, but have found I am becoming a happier person though this journey of self discovery. Let old hurt and resentments go, you will begin to feel so much more free, and you will begin to be a happier person.

Human Connection

People are waiting to connect, this is because man is by nature a social animal. There are many friendships awaiting you to enjoy! You’ve got to love yourself, and have a love deep enough to care about fixing yourself. To play a part in this magical place we call the world, you’ve got to learn to connect with others.  

Being single can be hard enough, so learn the skills that will allow you to connect with others in order to be a sociable and happy person. Great social skills lead to building great relationships with friends. They do say, after all, that friendships are the wine of life and make your life experience a more enjoyable way to live. If you are not feeling fulfilled on some level, you need to develop the skills that are going to help you be a social guru. Connection is essential, and you can do it. Open up and have fun with your life.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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Danielle has chosen to be single in her walk of life. She experienced dating in her late teens and early twenties, and had always felt each relationship was unfulfilling. To find more meaning in her life, she broke off to go down a path of self-discovery.
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