Things can become tricky when you want to know how to be friends with a guy—
But he wants to jump your bones, put a ring on it, or be your seductive servant for the next few months. Here’s how to be friends with a guy.
What’s a girl to do?
Girlfriend, you’ve got to stick him in the friend zone. ASAP.
I’ve talked about the friendzone before, and how it’s an excellent place to be. I’m going to take a wild guess that he likes you because you bring value to his life.
He brings value to your life too, right? If he didn’t, you wouldn’t care to keep him around.
For him, being in your friendzone is better than not having you in his world at all. You like each other, so keep things friendly.
I want you to know precisely how to be friends with a guy when he’s interested in more than your current platonic status.
Let’s say you friend Chad (he could even be your bestie), gives you googly eyes every time you’re in his vicinity. According to eharmony, there are subtle ways you can tell if a guy likes you. If you figure out the signs and you’re not interested in him— Keep reading!
How To Be Friends With A Guy When He Wants To Date
He hasn’t asked you out on a date, but you have a deep feeling in your bones that he’s into you. There are three things you can do with Chad (or any other guy friend) to keep him in your life, and out of your pants.
How to be friends with a guy when he’s letting you know with his eyes that he likes you
Bring up other guys you’re interested in dating. Be open about your active dating life and don’t hide it. If you keep talking about Jim, or Jermaine or Ali, he’ll eventually get the hint.
I’ve talked about dates with guy friends (who I’m pretty sure wanted more than friends), and they’ve stopped me mid-sentence because I was divulging too much information. Cutting you off before you talk about intimate details is a sign that a guy is into you.
There are more things you can do if a guy is digging on you as well.
How to be friends with a guy when he asks you on a date
Say no to a one-on-one kind of thing if you don’t want to lead a guy on romantically. If you like his company, do invite him to your backyard barbecue or a night out with other friends.
Keeping him in your life with other people around will keep the pressure off of you. When you have group outings with friends, do ask single girlfriends to join you. If you have a dinner party, make place cards and make sure he’s got a single gal on either side of him. Make sure you let him know you only want the best woman for him.
How to be friends with a guy when he tries to put the moves on you
When this happens, you can laugh out loud (this will push him far far away). It’s not the smoothest move however or the most polite, but it works. But I don’t recommend it.
He will be so embarrassed you probably won’t hear from him for weeks— Or months.
So if you want him to stick around in your friendzone, don’t laugh at him if he tries to make a move.
Instead, be straight up with him. Tell him you like him in your life, but not “that way.” He won’t like it, but he’ll have to deal with it because he won’t have a choice if he wants you in his life.
Dangling your beautiful self in front of him may make him crazy, but if he cares about you, he’ll keep you as a friend. He’ll probably get a girlfriend someday— So enjoy his company while you can.
Navigating close friendships isn’t always easy, but when you can work through the rough patches, keeping your friends close is always worth it.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.