Myself, clients and my friends have been in the exact opposite mindset of how to enjoy being single.
Being married is not the end-all-be-all of existence. There is life before marriage and relationships. You can have a mind-blowing experience now— While you’re single. Shocking, I know.
Probably thousands and thousands of women despise being single— And a good man can smell unhappiness from a million miles away.
Men want to be with a woman who is happy— Not a woman who expects him to make her happy.
That’s way too much pressure for anyone.
Like-attracts-like. So enjoy being single now!
Hating being single and not being happy with your life pushes good relationships away. If you’re not satisfied where you are today, you’re going to attract someone who isn’t in a good place either.
So if you eventually want to be in a happily ever after relationship, you’ll want to learn how to enjoy being single first.
In fact, learning to enjoy being single is critical to your mental well-being. Putting your focus on a relationship if you’re unhappy can make you act desperate.
I remember a man I’d had the hots for years finally sat next to me in a coffee shop. Instead of enjoying the process of letting him pursue me the first thing that blurted out of my mouth was, “Hey are you single?”
He could feel it in his bones that I was too excited, (possibly desperate), and he could have had me that very second. It took the fun out of it for him immediately.
You can get from being unhappily single to a place where you enjoy being single.
There was a point in my life where I was OK being single, but I wasn’t content with the title of “single woman.” I thought it was a bad thing. I wanted a boyfriend so severely I pushed men away unknowingly.
Desperation to be in a relationship is not attractive to anyone.
There are some steps I’ve followed to learn how to enjoy being single— Fully.
Heck, you can get to the point of being single, and you could care less if you have a boyfriend or not! It might seem crazy to you if you want to partner up now. However, being in a great place called singledom is a fantastic place to be— First!
How to enjoy being single, you need to appreciate where you are right here, right now.
When you are happy with your life as it is— It makes you super attractive. When you happen to meet someone who is interested in you, they feel no pressure from you.
If you want to enjoy being single— Give yourself a break from dating.
What’s the rush? Your life isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Even if you eventually want to get married and have children— You don’t have to have a relationship right now. Wouldn’t you rather wait until you are ready and your future partner is prepared?
Trust me; it’s much better to be single than to be sleeping next to the person that gives you hives every time he walks in the room.
Another trick is reading about ways to love yourself.
You can learn simple steps that will help you enjoy being single. Put down the romance novel and get real. Pick up a book on self-love. “How To Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay is my all-time favorite book on how to love yourself. You can order used copy for less than two bucks right now.
Doing things as she suggests will change your mindset. You can try mirror work and learn to talk nicely to yourself. Doing some minor daily changes will help you create a great life.
When you get to the point of loving yourself fully your life will become more incredible. Also, when the timing is right, and you’re in a good-feeling place— That’s when you’ll attract the partner that is right for you!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.