There are parties (or even Sunday brunches) that don’t seem to start until one of those extroverted flamboyant folks sashay into the room. Then the conversation doesn’t stop. People like this know the tips of how to make anyone like you in an instant.
In this article, you’ll learn the basics of how to make anyone like you. So what are these mystifying things that actually work? By doing these 7 things you’ll build a solid community of friends.
How to make anyone like you from the first meeting is to ask them questions
People who are genuinely interested in getting to know another person instantly seem like the most interesting person at the party. As humans, we like to talk about our favorite restaurants, gas stations, and hobbies. So when you give someone the prompt to talk about themselves from the beginning— they’ll create your attention.
Another sneaky how to make people want to talk you is to look for similarities
This ties in with the first tip. If you’re a more introverted person, you may have to practice throwing back the word ball — that is following up with things that are tied in with the other person’s speech.
Let’s say a person is telling you about their real estate business. It makes you think of your first home. So you can talk about the great experience you had with your real estate agent. When you let your brain guide you to the next thing you think of, you’re on the right track. Your brain can’t help but connect the dots to something that is related.
Another way to make anyone like you is to practice listening
Talking is a way of connecting with someone on a deeper level and so is listening. Have you ever told someone a story and you just knew they weren’t paying attention? This creates a disconnect. When someone is impatiently waiting to pounce on the conversation with their opinion, it’s obnoxious.
What makes someone like you is also the ability to learn from others
Being a know-it-all doesn’t create a connection. Saying “Yeah I know that” is more offputting that saying something like “That’s so interesting,” or “I didn’t know that,” or even a thoughtful head nod and an “Ohhhh really?” These kinds of works show people that you’re listening.
One of the best psychology tricks to get someone to like you is to mirror back what they say
If someone is explaining something you can say something like this: “So what you’re saying is . . .” or “Do you mean. . .?” This is another way to let the other person know you heard what they are saying and are really paying attention. This doesn’t come quickly for everyone. It does take practice.
How to make people fall in love with you in a friendly way is to offer support
I was co-hosting a party, and one of the guests immediately asked if I needed help with setting up anything. Guess what happened? I had an immediate good vibe toward this person. He was the only person to offer advice early in the evening.
Later another woman started walking around throwing away trash at the end of the party. I fell in love with her too! When you offer support, it makes people see you in a different light. Don’t do it just to be liked because you’re the last single in your group of friends.
Another thing you can do is ask to ask for help
If your friend is an expert at financial, you could pick her brain on what stocks she likes, or how to set up a 401K. People love to talk about what they know. So don’t be afraid to ask people questions (as long as it’s not like an interrogation.
When you follow these tips, you’ll know how to make anyone like you increase your social circle. Most of all learn how to let loose and connect with all the people around you. The world is here for you to explore.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.