We all know being dumped is one of the most excruciatingly painful things a person can go through. If you’re in the thick of it, you especially know what I mean. Even after years of getting dumped the memories can bring tears to your eyes and make your heart hurt physically and emotionally.
If you’re not a happy camper about getting dumped, there are a few things to know that will make you feel better— Eventually. There are some simple things you can do to survive a breakup.
Bad feelings never last forever— Even after being dumped
Good feelings don’t last forever either. There will be ups and downs in your life— Always. So being able to accept being dumped and not clinging on to what used to be is a great place to start.
Make your own rules after being dumped
There are pressures from society, your family and even the things you tell yourself that people are only happy if they’re in a relationship. If you feel like you always “need” a relationship, it can help keep you stuck.
Coping with a breakup is never easy, but there is good news about them. According to a study called “Marriage: The Good the Bad, and the Greedy” showed that marriage can be oppressive and keeps couples from having healthy socialization. There are tons of activities for singles that can get you out there to have some fun!
Single people also have less debt, and this is something you can jump for joy about
There was a 2001 survey in the Journal of Finance and Accountancy that showed a significant difference in debt with single people vs. married couples. 21 percent of singles were shown to have credit card debt. 27 percent of married couples had, and married couples with children had the most debt coming in at 36 percent.
One of the best things about being single is that you are in charge of your money and nobody else can get their grubby hands on it unless you’re paying alimony. Even alimony doesn’t last forever.
After being dumped is the best time to learn about yourself
People often hide away in relationships to escape from their inner thoughts. If you’re a busy body, or always surrounding yourself with other people (which is a good thing sometimes!), you may not have had the time to do any inner work.
When you’re single, this is the best time to get to really know who you are because the crack in your heart will leave enough space for new brilliant things to come into your life that you enjoy.
After being dumped make your purpose to focus on the good things in your life
In the Law Of Attraction like attracts like. So do what you need to do to keep your eye on the real prize. When you focus on being dumped or being single, you keep yourself in a not-so-good place.
When you put your attention on things you appreciate in your life— Your life will flourish and only get better. Being engrossed in the gruesome details of your breakup will keep you feeling depressed and lonely.
After you’ve had a bad breakup— cry it out
If sadness pops up— Be mindful of the way you feel. Let any sad feelings process. Don’t hold it in. Get it out. Tears can also be healing and don’t beat yourself up for any distressing feelings. Just remember— No feelings last forever.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.