If you hate being single, and you feel like it’s a condition that you want to banish for eternity, you might change your mind after reading this. If you’re one of those people, who are happiest in a relationship, it can be really frustrating and lonely at times. But there are ways you can turn your singleness into something magical instead of a crummy sob story.
If you hate being single, well . . . it’s better than getting struck by lighting
You’re single. Your status doesn’t need to be repaired. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been single for years or even just a couple weeks. If you’re looking for that perfect partner, sometimes the lies you tell yourself can bog down your energy and hold you back from what you want.
Saying things to yourself like “I’m more likely to get struck by lightning than I am to find a boyfriend,” it’s not true. It’s a lot easier to find a partner unless you want to go out into the field with
If you live in the U.S., according to National Geographic, only one and seven hundred thousand people are struck by lightning. I’m pretty sure that in that group of 700,000 people you could find someone to partner up with. Dogs go down a little bit during your lifetime with a 1 in 3000 chance to get struck by lightning. Between 1959 and 2003 there were 3696 recorded deaths by this electric and rare wonder in the U.S.
Want to know the odds of you getting married?
At Business Insider they analyzed data from the U.S. Census Bureau’s Population Survey of all U.S. households. It investigated different social and economic areas of people’s lives. In their article that used a public microdata sample created from the Minnesota Population Center.
By analyzing the estimated amount of people who were married, divorced, widowed, and separated at different ages. In 2016 it was found at 53.3% of those who were 30 years old had been married. On the flip side in 1962, 50% of 21-year-olds have been married. And 90% of the thirty-year-olds have been married.
So if you’re not married yet and you’re over 30, don’t worry about it because the trends are dropping in the marriage department, until later in life. You are not alone. There are plenty of singles out there in your age bracket. In fact, there are loads!
If you hate being single but do want to get married someday, there are a few simple steps you need to take to make it happen.
Make yourself happy first
Being a happy person helps attract other happy people into your life. If you’re down in the dumps, would you want to meet someone who feels like you? Probably not. So do whatever it takes to feel good.
Tell yourself a different story
Instead of saying, “I hate being single but I hate dating,” change the wording around just a little bit. Start with something small. Shift the sentence to “I like being single, and I like dating.” so much of what we say affects our outer world. So start saying more positive things. You don’t have to love being single and you don’t have to enjoy dating, but you might actually get to that point.
Keep an open mind
Of course, you want your needs to be met. But you might have specifics and your perfect partner list that aren’t important. Things like hair color, having a specific job, height, and eye color. Sure you might love tall blondes with blue eyes. What happens when the right woman Comes Your Way who’s 5 foot 2 curvy and brunette? What would happen, then? If you just walked away from a woman because she wasn’t your perfect 10?
Don’t sit around
Take action today. Do whatever it takes to make your life happy and fulfilled where you are right now. Take a trip to New York City. Join some clubs, engage with friends and family, or go to the dog park and get some of that furry unconditional love from other people’s dogs if you don’t have one. Learn about your love language and get your love tank filled.
Being single when you don’t want to be can hold you back — only if you have the wrong mindset. You are the only person who can change the way you think, and that will change your life. If want something different in your life, you’ve just got to go after it!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.