You think the hookup culture is prevalent, do ya? Even though it’s easier than ever before to get some nookie by swiping strangers on Tinder, there are some surprising new data. Believe it or not, people are having less sex.

It’s A Sexual Desert Out There — Why People Are Having Less Sex

People are having less sex. Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

The Washington Post had a social survey in 2018 and compared it to the previous year’s results. Nearly 1 in 4 adults spent the last year going monk style. That is the no sex category.

Celibacy is the new cool to a lot of folks, and there is one major factor

Sex experts say the age is the driving factor of adults sexual activity (or lack of it). It’s known as the Great American Sex Drought. 23 percent of the 18-29 respondents reported having no sex in 2018. This number is doubled from 2008.

On the flip side, the 60 and up sexless group went up from 18 percent in 1996 to 26 percent in 2018. So the youngsters are getting partners later in life according to Jean Twenge professor of psychology at San Diego University. Being a single woman and not having sex also give you more time to do you.

The CDC reported more high school students are saying no to sex. In 1995 the numbers were 53 percent dropped to 41 percent in 2005. This could be a positive trend for teen pregnancy to slow down.

But what do you do if you want to have more sex?

There is a hookup option. The local pub is usually filled with a dynamic mix of guys with scruffy beards (of different lengths and colors) drinking beer. So if you want super casual with no strings, the bar and Tinder are places for a lady to get lucky.

However, women who have one-night stands say things like “I just felt utterly worthless and still do,” and “I lost my dignity,” and “I feel dirty.” So it’s always good to look before you let him leap and think about what you’ll feel like tomorrow.

The next choice is friends with benefits

This is a tricky non-relationship. Because even though you’ve got the label, there will still be feelings involved. When you’re having sex with your “friend” intimacy happens. Emotions grow, and they can often be one-sided.

When feelings develop on only one end of the stick, it can be excruciating. This is especially difficult if you really like someone and are pretending to be cool as friends with benefits.

Then there’s the good old fashioned way of getting some hanky panky

Start dating someone and build a relationship with a person you actually like. If you’re a relationship ready woman, you can have casual spring sex with a guy.

There are a lot of health benefits of sex: exercises your pelvic floor, decreases blood pressure, and lowers stress. But there are also risks. Emotional complications, STDs and unwanted pregnancy (with the wrong person).

Summary

Being an empowered woman is a beautiful thing. And you get to choose your sex or no-sex style. Just ask yourself a simple question, and you’ll know the right job for you. Here it is . . .
What do you really want in your life?

Lots of Love,

Dina Colada

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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Dina has been mostly single for much of her adult life with lots of dating in between some short, yet growth-centered relationships. She has devoted most of her time to helping singles thrive while on the path to love. She is multi-passionate and loves to connect with other entrepreneurs— Especially ones that are single!
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