Unconsecrated and consecrated celibacy are two more options for singles to choose from among the single life—
Our society is obsessed with sex. If there is an original G or PG version of something, like a cartoon character, there is probably an XXX-rated version of that somewhere on the Internet. Sex and getting booty is not everything in life. It is not even a basic need. While not everyone wants to or plans to be celibate, involuntarily or voluntarily, there are many reasons why celibacy is beautiful in today’s oversexualized society. Unconsecrated and consecrated celibacy are the two options for those singles who choose to live a celibate life.
Unconsecrated and Consecrated Celibacy
How can Singles Live Out Unconsecrated and Consecrated Celibacy?
Celibacy is beautiful because it is a vocation to serve God and others. Celibacy has been considered a vocation for a long time along with marriage. However, marriage is often thought of as an earthly vocation (or horizontal) while celibacy and the priesthood are thought of as spiritual or religious vocations (vertical). Marriage is considered an earthly vocation because it is concerned with earthly things such as caring for a wife or husband and children which make the nuclear family. It is called the nuclear family because like the nucleus in science, it is the foundation of society as Aristotle observed in his Politics. In contrast, the vocation of celibacy is concerned with matters beyond earthly things such as bringing others to the church, devoting one’s life wholly to God, or to pursue the highest form of some goal. Despite the fact that celibacy often has a religious emphasis, it is not a requirement depending on the reason why singles may choose to be celibate.
For those singles who are curious about or considering celibacy, there are two main options which are the unconsecrated and consecrated celibate life. The unconsecrated celibate life is when someone decides that they want to be celibate compared to a formally consecrated vocation. The consecrated celibate life is when someone decided that they want to formalize their decision and make a formal vow, often in a church or religious organization which recognizes celibacy, to make their life decision official. These are both options for singles, but the unconsecrated celibate life would be the most accessible option since it does not require being part of a religious organization and taking a vow of celibacy.
Celibacy is beautiful because it focuses on helping others from your neighbors, family, to those most in need in society. Augustine wrote that sex, and thereby, romantic relationships are ultimately distractions from more important matters. If you want to achieve your goals and not get distracted by a wife, family, or kids then don’t get married. Celibacy is one of many options for singles to choose from in the single life.
There is nothing wrong with choosing to live a celibate life, it may be temporary or a life choice. In today’s hypersexualized society, singles who choose to remain both single and celibate choose a difficult but worthwhile path to pursue what is beyond the physical world of the senses. This world is ultimately a temporary world and the singles who choose this path choose a difficult, yet respectable, choice given the state of today’s society and natural urges. The single life is worth living and the unconsecrated and consecrated celibate life are options among the choices available which the single life offers to singles.