When you have rose colored sun shades on, it’s easy to fall for someone who is tall, dark, and handsome Looking at the bigger picture is difficult when you feel you’ve met the one. Sadly, when you’re caught up on how attractive and perfect another person is, you can miss a lot of those big red flags that can literally derail you from a trailblazing career. Your 20’s matter, each and every second, and a quick decision to date someone who is a complete dream boat could mean the loss of time and productivity. Personally, you should probably wait until your 30’s to date someone seriously because you may not know what you are looking for in a mate and people are generally fully matured by their 30’s. Besides, by the time you reach your 30’s, you’ve gotten most of your wild partying out, right? Here are 5 of the top reasons to stay single in your 20’s.
There is nothing more unattractive in dating someone who doesn’t seem to have the motivation and zest for life that you do. According to Men’s Fitness, 72% of women and 60% of men can’t stand a lazy partner. When you are working hard to learn more in order to earn more, dating a lazy and unmotivated person will seriously bring you down. Like the old adage goes, you are the summarization of the people you surround yourself with. As a word to the wise, you will need to be careful who you date, and if at all, go solo. No one really knows what they want in their 20s – we live to be at least 100 years old, so why make the mistake of dating someone long term and have to deal with them the rest of your life? Focus on making a living and establishing yourself first. Your 20s decade is a very critical time period in your life.
Dating Multiple Partners
Psychology Today deems one of the deal breakers in relationships or rather budding relationships, is when their partner is dating multiple people. Romance can be confusing enough, so when you dip your toes into the dating pool, it can be very overwhelming.
If you are dating, you may be on the fence with your partner on how serious or not you actually are in the relationship. There is a likely percentage of either point of seriousness occurring. The odds of you finding the ‘right one’, meaning mentally and physically compatible, is very slim simply because each person is so unique. When you date multiple people, drama can arise, especially when the one you like is dating multiple partners as well. The solution is threefold: hang in there, stay single, and be completely transparent. The 100% safety zone is staying single. It will alleviate potential stress, though there is no risk of finding ‘the one.’
When you are dating, your partner may be more or less fit than you. If you take your health seriously, then you don’t mess around when it comes to morning schedules, gym workouts, and routine runs. It can be difficult or hindering when your partner doesn’t promote you. When you find someone who loves to work out as much as you do, then great! A team can accomplish much more than a person driving solo. Going back to how you become the people you surround yourself with, your health will be affected. Surround yourself with people who will build you up. Drop your partner if they’re not willing to take the steps to take care of themselves. Dating someone who does work out makes you healthier. Build up friendships with the people you go to the gym with, and go get buff!
All the decisions you make in your 20’s will seriously affect the rest of your life, more so than decisions in your 30’s, 40’s, and so on. Even if you’re single, live your life with a zest. Enjoy life, and love all that there is to offer. Surround yourself with smart and kind people. Invest in your education, invest in perfecting your craft at work, and save all the money you can for investing. You can make it through your 20’s alive and successful. Take the steps today!
Danielle E. Brockman is a contributing writer for Secure Single LLC.