Single People And Sex: Here’s What You Need To Know

Safe Sex 

There used to be a lot of stigma about having sex outside of marriage, or at least having sex outside of a committed relationship. Fast forward to today, the majority of our traditional values are thrown out the window. Why do we have so much sex? Because it’s fun. But we still get judged for it, and because of that those of us that are having sex don’t talk about it. Many issues get swept under the carpet because sex is a very private and intimate act. Though, if you’re not having a lot of sex you should not be pressured to do so.

If you’re reading this right now, you’ve probably already been through Sex Ed – if not, click on this link asap.

If you are single and having casual sex with people, you need to use caution and protect yourself. Seriously, your body is truly a temple and you should take care of it. Here are some quick tips:

Use Birth Control

There are a lot of forms of birth control. Condoms being the most common. It’s awkward for a woman to pull out a condom, so men, please bring condoms with you on all your dates. For casual sex with random people, ALWAYS use a condom. You don’t want to get home from Cabo and have the itch. For women, get an IUD, or take birth control regularly. Most singles want to mingle – don’t tie up your resources and end up a single parent likely to have a fatherless or motherless child. Protect your future and be safe. Don’t have kids unless you really want them and are absolutely ready.

Get Checked for STDs

This should be pretty common knowledge. If you haven’t been checked in a while, head down to the local clinic or gynecologist to be safe. You don’t want to be spreading STD’s if you’ve got something, that would just make you a terrible human. If you’ve got something, take medicine and get that s*** taken care of. #Adulting

Check Your Mental Health

Sex is a very intimate act, and if you’ve had some bad experiences then you need to journal about it and seek professional advice. Having sex should be a joyful part of being human. Though when you are single and having a lot of casual sex, you can feel used. Make sure when you have sex you feel safe with the other person.

Benefits of Having Sex

Studies show that having sex more regularly improves your mood. A recent issue of Social Indicators Research produced an article by sociologist Tim Wadsworth stating that sex is a little like income, the more of it people have, the happier they tend to be. Wadsworth also found that people who have more sex tend to be happier.

Though don’t worry if you’re not having sex, masturbating is also an option. According to Women’s Health, studies shown there are many physical and mental positives to masturbating. The act lowers stress and anxiety and also improves self-esteem and one’s body image.


The truth is everyone has a different sex life story. Some people have a lot of sex while other people have little to no sex. Don’t feel you aren’t up to par or compare yourself with others. The best thing to do is go at your own pace and feel comfortable with yourself when having (or not having) sex. For information on the sex lives of other people, check out these slides.

Now that you’re armed with knowledge, go have safe sex!

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!


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Danielle has chosen to be single in her walk of life. She experienced dating in her late teens and early twenties, and had always felt each relationship was unfulfilling. To find more meaning in her life, she broke off to go down a path of self-discovery.
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