Single women have options for if they get pregnant out of wedlock—
Thanks to apps like Tinder and Bumble, out of wedlock pregnancy from casual sex is on the rise. STI’s/STD’s are also likely to be contracted. If you happen to get pregnant (women), or make one of your partners pregnant (men), the worst thing you can do is panic. Know that you always have options… Here are three ways that those who are single and unmarried can handle getting pregnant and pregnancy outside of marriage.
What to Do If You Are Out of Wedlock And Pregnant
What if… The pregnancy test is positive
Whoopsy, someone just had an oopsy. As a female, you can either have the baby or get an abortion. Before you make a decision, one way or another, you need to write down all the consequences you have. As a male, you really don’t have much choice in the matter. If abortion is on the table, then just be supportive in any way you can (as a man), and as emotionally stable as you can (as a woman). Babies are expensive and can reduce your economic power if you have one at a young age when your income earning capabilities are still developing. Know that having babies is a life-changing decision and if you do have one you have to step it up in a big way, like, growing up in a snap. This is because you would be raising another human. Adoption is also another option.
How will it affect you….
Having an abortion will relieve you of parental duties, and will allow you to save more money in the long run. Having no children is better for your career development. If you do get an abortion, you will not have to worry about co-parenting with a person you don’t really know. On the other hand, having an abortion could affect you emotionally, leaving you wondering… ‘what if’. Some people can deeply be affected by this, especially if you grew up religious and the act of abortion will leave your family upset with your decision. Men, sorry, don’t really have an option in this. For men, just make sure you do your due diligence and support your half of either paying for half of the abortion or half of the childcare.
Should you keep your fling going?
The odds of your hookup turning into marriage are probably less likely than the chance of someone hitting the road and running. Although, there are some cases shotgun weddings do exist.Whatever you decide to pursue after a decision is made (keep baby vs abort baby). Make sure to be moral and take your time to make a decision that best serves you. If things don’t work out the way you planned, remember to be gentle with yourself, and also forgive yourself for anything you feel bad about. It’s your life, and you have the right to make your own decisions and to also be happy with yourself. Sometimes things work out, you never really know till you give it a try.
What happens with an out of wedlock pregnancy after a hookup could result in a lot of different outcomes. Having a baby is not having a baby, pursuing your hookup for a relationship, and dealing with the consequences are all part of a long process that will put you in a decision to decide what is moral, and best for your happiness. Like all major decision in your life, make sure you seek the advice of more than one person, and if you can, a person who is unbiased and emotionally tied to the decisions. Good luck out there, singles!
Danielle E. Brockman is a contributing writer for Secure Single LLC. Danielle has her own blog at eContently and you can connect with Danielle on LinkedIn.
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