If you’ve noticed the increasing number of singles, women especially, it is because more often than not women prefer to stay single, rather than get into a time consuming and committed relationship. Single women are on the rise, marriage is on the decline, and it’s because we are focused on our goals.
Sorry, not sorry, the percentage of married couples is on the decline. The reason is that women in this day in age have more freedom than ever, and more opportunity than our past counterparts who paved the way and made these times possible. Women are starting companies and reinventing themselves through education and blazer focused career paths. We, myself included, do not depend on anyone other than ourselves to take care of ourselves. And with that, the world is our oyster, and we can get everything we want with the right attitude and work attitude.
Similar to men, women like the free reign of the single life. It is a walk that 99% of us go through, and some of us stay in. It all breaks down into values. But there is no denying that the independence of women is on the rise. Instead of rearing families, we women now satisfy OURSELVES first. Single women are deciding to put their careers and education first over getting married and having children today.
5 Reasons Why Single Women Are Not Getting Married
Personal Freedom is Everything
The thought of being single, drinking cocktails with the gals, wearing high heels, and having ‘no-strings-attached’ sex is fun. We have more time to ‘play’ and get down to business in our careers by starting a company or two. People in general lead happier lives when we work towards what WE want. This is the formula for a happy life. A securely single woman will make time for herself without feeling obligated to anyone else. Did someone say, Free Bird?
Career-Oriented Single Woman
Many women face the choice between being a career blazer and making well over $100,000K a year salary or raising a family doing thankless tasks. Freedom or slavery? I’ll take the $100,000K freedom 100% of the time. Focus on your goals and get a strong sense of fulfillment through your work. Similar to how men want to focus on their career before getting committed, women can do JUST THE SAME. More power to the V! The importance and reward of hard work should never be underestimated.
Personal Fitness Goals
More and more secure single females want to be able to achieve their personal goals and figure themselves out before they get into a relationship. How often do we hear of mothers ‘letting themselves go‘ to put their families first? Fuck that. You should never ‘let yourself go’. Complaining kids cure? Go for a run. You will get in shape, feel sexy, build mental toughness, and feel EXTREMELY good after you sweat. Everyone respects a person who takes care of themselves. DON’T fall into the ‘I want a family’ trap. Don’t have kids and don’t get married unless you have achieved all your goals. Know yourself, and know your worth. You are capable of SO MUCH. Become independent before you settle down with someone.
Happiness
Some securely single women are not interested in getting married, especially when they are trailblazing. Meeting and exceeding your goals in your career and fitness levels will make you happy because you will feel in control of your life. So many times, I date men that get mad at me for working long hours and not putting them first. Yes, the company is nice, but it is distracting. Cut out everything that distracts you, and don’t put anyone ahead of you. It may sound selfish, but if you do not look out for yourself, NO ONE ELSE WILL.
No Strings Attached Sex
Thanks to the sexual revolution, women can have sex through the dreary and horrible responsibility of raising a child. No offense here, men, but you are not committed enough. There are so many single mothers out there who’ve had men abandon them and their babies. Fuck that. Just have sex without the intent of starting a family. And if the guy turns out to be psycho, you can let him go without a ‘minnie-me!
Summary
To lead a happy life, go forth and focus on accomplishing your career goals, fitness goals, and finance goals. Make your life what you want it, and have fun while doing it. Your life will be less stressful and complicated when you are a secure single woman who is in control of your career, health, and finances. Go and be a badass!
Securely yours,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
