Taking a dating break is a good idea because dating burnout is real. Swiping left, swiping right, sending and responding to too many winks, likes and messages can be exhausting. You’d rather shrink down and become a microscopic-sized person and dive into your cafe au lait than listen to another boring date at the coffee shop.
Although the reasons why you need a break might be unclear to you now — You know in your heart the dating madness must end. Instead of being inspiring, it feels like a waste of time.
Even if you are looking for love— Sometimes your heart and your soul need a reboot beforehand. If you don’t even want to comb your hair and brush your teeth before a date— It’s time to lay low.
If you want a girlfriend or a husband down the road, it’s not always the right time to look for love. It is fine to take a break and here are four reasons why singles can benefit from a dating break.
Singles Benefit From A Dating Break
There Are Lots Of Reasons You May Need To Be Taking A Break From Dating
- You may be in a funk.
- Your car needs an alternator— You can’t physically pick up your dates.
- The heartache from your past relationship isn’t over.
- You’ve seen Jim, Stan and Steve on all three dating sites you’re on. Digital marketing is your focus.
- Your three angel children take up too much of your time.
Although it doesn’t matter why you need some space, there are plenty of reasons why taking a break from dating is incredible for you.
It’s Better To Be Alone Than To Wish You Were Alone
Rather than settling for someone who seems OK, but doesn’t meet your criteria for a partner— It’s much better to wait until you find the right person to settle down with instead of settling.
Wait until the time is right and you are ready. What’s the rush? You, the person you are going to meet and the love you’ll share aren’t going anywhere.
Be patient with yourself. Love is infinite.
If you jump into a relationship with the wrong person, according to Psychology Today— If you have past trauma from a previous relationship— A new relationship can re-trigger feelings of disappointment, anxiety or depression.
So if you’re still grieving from the past, it’s smart to not jump into anything too soon.
When you are taking a break from dating you have time to be introspective and change things that don’t serve you.
Taking A Break From Dating Can Help You Stop Bad Habits
If you look at online dating apps because you’re bored, this will give you time to break the addictive pattern of swiping just to do something. You can fill your life with physical action and interaction— Not cyber-action.
Instead of swiping right on people with people you’re not interested in— You can commit the time you would have spent swiping— With yourself.
A Dating Break Is The Perfect Time To Reconnect With You
When was the last time you took time for yourself? One week? Six months? Or seven years? Single time is your time. Enjoy the possibilities.
If you’ve always wanted to go to the Florida keys— Go! You can do it alone and give yourself some sweet toes-in-the-ocean-time. Taking a breather is just what your single-soul ordered. It’s time for you to chill.
Or if you’ve ever dreamed of making pottery, —Sign up for a ceramics class. Get your glaze on and create something that will give you a sense of creativity and accomplishment. While you learn a new skill, you’ll also build your social network.
You can have tea time on Sunday afternoon. While you eat finger sandwiches, you can show off your psychedelic-coffee-beer-stein to your little friends. And that’s not all.
The Dollar Signs In Your Checking Account Will Grow
According to the Washington Post, in 2016 the average single dating American spent $1,596 on their dating life. Yowza. In some cities, it was hundreds of dollars more per year.
The cash spent on dating site fees, coffee bar tabs, restaurants, and rides to meet and pick up your date can take a toll on your wallet.
These are the cash things that are front and center. What about pedicures, visits to the salon, makeup, new clothes for dates and matching accessories? It all adds up.
Take your new found money and add up how much you would have spent if you had five dates this month. I’m guessing you could stash away a few bucks, stock up on socks for the year or have a dinner party with some new friends. Invest in something that will brighten your today or your tomorrow.
Being single is incredible. It’s your time to prove it to yourself!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC.