Most people fear the “Friendzone” when they’re interested in someone romantically.

There are 5 reasons why you need the friendzone before, during and after any relationship. 

Take it from someone who has had her ups and downs with friends and romantic partners. I’ve pissed people off, lost good friends and great boyfriends because my friendzone wasn’t strong enough. You want to have a huge friendzone area (A small one is good too!) because this is where you will go for support. When you don’t have friends your life won’t feel as fun either. 

The people you have in your friendzone are the people who are more likely to stick by you when things in your life are rough. And here we are— Humans on planet earth and sometimes things in life feel really hard. Having at least a couple people in your friendzone can help you get through when you’re sick,  have a bad date or your new hairdresser just “ruined your life.” 


If You Have People In The Friendzone You Won’t Mind Being Single

Keep your friends close and prioritize them in your daily or weekly life. There was a study in the journal, “Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,” that showed people with weak social ties doubled their chance of having high blood pressure. Yikes. Keep yourself chillaxed with a few people in your friendzone. 

When you’re single and dating your blood pressure may go up a time or two when someone upsets you or stands you up. You want to make your friendzone important. Call the main people in your friendzone often, meet them for coffee and please get the main ones a birthday present. Little things mean a lot to your friends. Do the things that keep your friends as friends.


Your Friendzone Will Help You Deal With Rejection

You know part of being in the dating pool is good old rejection. It happens to even the hottest, richest and coolest people on the planet. Look at Taylor Swift. Even she’s had her fair share of relationship woes.

Rejection sucks. Another study in Developmental Psychobiology showed that kids who were picked on or rejected by their peers had lower levels of cortisol in their saliva. Cortisol is a stress hormone that spikes when you feel under stress. Keep your friends close and your cortisol levels will plummet. 


Talking Things Out With Someone In The Friendzone Will Make You Feel Better

If you’ve had one bad date or fifty, having a friend to confide in will raise your oxytocin (the feel-good hormone) in women. According to Medical News Today, voles (social mammals who love the company of other voles)  separated from their pack and given oxytocin had lowered depression, anxiety, and cardiac stress.

Chatting about things that you’re having a hard time with (but not dwelling on them for eternity), can help you feel physically, mentally and emotionally better. Be like the vole and stay in the friendzone. 


When You’re In The Friendzone First You’ll See The Real Person

Being friends with someone is one of the most valuable things you can have in your life.

Jeremy Nicholson, M.S.W., Ph.D. said in Elite Daily,  in a good relationship there has to be a balance of desiring and liking. If you don’t have a balance of both of these it’s hard to put in any effort if you don’t actually like someone and only desire them. You’ve got to be in the friendzone to have a juicy relationship. 


If You Want A Long-Term Relationship Put Your Dates In The Friendzone

A Study at Purdue University surveyed 184 people who were in committed relationships for more than 16 months. According to psychologists conducting the study, they said finding a mate who was “first and foremost a friend” was a bonus precursor to lasting long term.

When you care for a person as a friend and not just a lover, it’s easier for both of you to put in effort when you or your partner needs it.

Before you get hitched up, when you’re in the friend zone with your buddies they will support you during the hard times. While you’re on the path of looking for love there will probably be some bumps in the road and, and you’ll want to keep the peeps in your friendzone close.

Lots of Love,

Dina Colada


Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.


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Dina has been mostly single for much of her adult life with lots of dating in between some short, yet growth-centered relationships. She has devoted most of her time to helping singles thrive while on the path to love. She is multi-passionate and loves to connect with other entrepreneurs— Especially ones that are single!
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