Sometimes you feel like you’ve got the sun shining its brilliant golden light on your every move. This is when you’re tapped into the juiciness of life and have embraced the art of being single. The single life experiment is a time to leave everything behind that society tells singles about pursuing romantic relationships in life. After all, there is more to life than romantic relationships singles! 

Then there is there are the times when you’re unskillfully stumbling around like a drunken monkey— Wondering “What the hell am I doing and how did I end up single?” My friends tell me I’m awesome. Something has gone seriously wrong here.

Experts say that relationships are complicated— So is being single. Especially if you’re clueless. I want to be frank with you. Nobody really knows what they’re doing— Even me. Because living the single life is just one big experiment. Embrace the single life experiment singles! 

Singles And The Single Life Experiment

There Are Twists And Turns In The Single Life Experiment

Part of the windy roads is to actually be single. Another part is to be in dating limbo before you get hitched up.

One thing that I’ve learned has saved me more than once in my life of singledom. I promise I’ll share it soon. But first, I want to talk about the dark times— When you’re feeling confused as hell, have lost love, or feel like you’ve completely lost your mind.

Losing Your Mind Is Part Of The Art Of Being Single Process

Life on the single side of things is a confusing place to be— Especially if you’re friends are all hitched up and you feel like the third piece of rye on a club sandwich. The single life experiment, nonetheless, is an important part of life.

Or you’re dating and you seem to be spinning your wheels and only meeting losers.

Maybe you’re going through depression, anxiety, or you’re feeling chubby.

You’ve started talking to someone you really like— And you don’t know if they like you back.

The new guy you’re dating seems serious, but you’re not totally sure.

These are all hard places to be for a single person. Yet there is a simple solution to integrate into your life when you’re unsure of yourself and you haven’t grasped the art of being single yet.

Mandy Hale in her book “The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash Of Sass” said, “Single is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” So stop apologizing and start living.

You can switch your thoughts of desperation, confusion or feelings of apathy or any other weirdo feelings by doing one simple thing.

This one trick will help you to allow life to flow through you instead of fretting and trying to control everything that you have no control over. The single life experiment can save you from bad relationships that you may otherwise fall into from pressure from family, friends, and society. 

You can tell yourself a simple phrase. Make this your mantra:

I embrace the unknown— Because the unknown has wicked beautiful things in store for me.

It’s true. Even if you don’t believe it.

There Is No Time Like The Present To Embrace The Art Of Being Single

Because never is there a time of relationship unknowns that are more complicated than the single times. So the best thing you can do is to make the best of it.

Whether you want a relationship, don’t want a relationship or don’t know what the hell you want. You are exactly where you’re supposed to be. There is no wrong path only different paths.


Living the single life isn’t a perfect science. That is why it is called the single life experiment. Being single is more like the twinkles in Vincent van Gogh’s Starry Night painting. Single life is full of twists and turns. It has it’s dark moments and can be confusing but is simply beautiful.

Lots of Love,

Dina Colada

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!


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Dina has been mostly single for much of her adult life with lots of dating in between some short, yet growth-centered relationships. She has devoted most of her time to helping singles thrive while on the path to love. She is multi-passionate and loves to connect with other entrepreneurs— Especially ones that are single!
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