Whether you’re an introvert or not, everyone at one point or another have experienced moments of solitude to themselves. Understanding that spending time with yourself in moderate amounts is a form of relaxation and not a form of isolation.  

In fact, spending time alone allows you to unwind and recharge your mental and physical batteries. In an article written in the New York Post, society views people who are successful as those who are masters at multi-tasking. When we book our calendars full of meetings, there is no time to relax. The constant stress resulting from lack of downtime can be an addiction a downward spiral in one’s mental and physical health.

Contrary to popular belief, there are a lot of psychological health benefits that result from spending time in solitude.

Surprising Benefits Of Spending Time Alone In Solitude

Slow Down And De-Stress 

In a recent article on Oprah, Katrina Kenison states that solitude can cure what ails you. When we move in a fast paced world, all of the stress can build up and result in health impairments. Too much stress can harm our mental health, as well as our body’s well being. When we pause and turn off the noise, we can let ourselves relax. Relaxed people are generally at peace with themselves, and tend to be happier. In fact, studies find that happier people live longer. Life is too short anyhow, so why not lead a happier and less stressed life? Give it a go!

You Have Time Reflect and Redirect Your Life


This is all about reflecting on your life, your relationships, your career, and your health. Are you living the life you want to live? A great way to decompress is to write in a journal. The Huffington Post recently noted in an article that when you write you begin to feel mindfulness, while your stress and frustrations fade into the back. When you journal, you also have the opportunity to write down your goals, which significantly increases the likelihood of accomplishing your goals, in comparison with those who do not write down their goals.

Solitude Allows Time To Schedule and Builds Discipline


When you have to yourself, you can pull out your daily planner and coordinate time to work out, meet with friends, and also incorporate time to yourself. Perhaps you can plan a trip to the mall, schedule a massage, or even a visit to the hair salon for a new look.


Grooming is a great way to pamper yourself, and though you will be around people, you can still go solo. When you make the time each week to plan out your month ahead, you build self-discipline. According to Success Consciousness, self-discipline does not mean being harsh toward yourself or living a limited, restrictive lifestyle; it means that you have self-control, which is a sign of inner strength and control of yourself. Self-discipline gives you the power to stick to your decisions and follow them through, without changing your mind, and is one of the most important requirements for achieving goals.

Good self-control means keeping promises to friends, maintaining a budget, actually saving money, and not eating those cookies after 10 pm at night.


Taking a moment or two to yourself every week will allow you the time to reflect upon your life, de-stress your body, renew and pamper yourself, and get organized on where you want to spend your time. Take back control of your life, and get focused on what really matters. If you’re single, then all the more time you have to dedicate to improving your time as a single person, no matter what length of time you stay single. It’s time to get organized. Let us know your favorite way to decompress in the comments below.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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Danielle has chosen to be single in her walk of life. She experienced dating in her late teens and early twenties, and had always felt each relationship was unfulfilling. To find more meaning in her life, she broke off to go down a path of self-discovery.
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