According to KBS World Radio, there’s a survey that shows that women get married even if they have negative thoughts about the whole “I do” establishment. There are lots of reasons why women also marry if they’re not feeling it in their heart. Let’s get into the feelings and thoughts women have around this first.
Why do people have the question in their heads about why should a woman get married?
Many women get married because they feel like they should. They’re supposed to. They’ve been told it’s the way to find happiness. Since women were little girls, they’ve heard things from their family, church, Disney movies, and society in general that getting married is what happens to everyone when you’re a real legit grown-up. The word spinster still hasn’t made it in the sexy word category. However, times are changing a wee bit since the fifties.
In 1960 about 72 percent of women over the age of 18 were married. Compare that to today’s digits. The single ladies not getting hitched was down to 50 percent in 2016, according to the Pew Research Center.
Part of the reason why some women never get married is that they’re getting educated first
There is an education gap expanding when it comes to relationships. But that’s not the only factor. What I’m leading up to is this.
There are more reasons why some women never get married
In 2017 there was a Survey of US adults that say a majority said they haven’t found the right person yet. Others were not financially stable, while others responded they weren’t ready to settle down.
At the Independent, Chris Sherwood, executive the charity Relate (a relationship support organization) said, “Eighty years ago people got married, in part, because society expected them to.”
The pressure of society still exists today in some families, but today people have more choices. You don’t have to graduate High school, marry your High School sweetheart and have babies.
Many people make other things a priority in their lives first. Such as buying a home, getting cultured from traveling experiences, and going to a university.
Being alone isn’t as scary as it used to be
Marriage is a status symbol. Some people wear their diamond rings to prove their happiness. Of course, there are many happily married couples out there (kudos to you!), and I’m not saying married people are unhappy.
Your happiness can be found on your own (with a tribe)
With the support of friends, your community, hobbies groups you’re passionate about you can lead a blissful and joy-filled life.
Feeling like you’re part of something, even if it’s not a marriage can make you feel happy. The most extended adult life study in history from the Harvard Study of Adult Development found personal relationships were the key to longevity and happiness.
So even if you’re single, you don’t have to do it alone. Build a tribe or join one that’s already started. Your tribe can be your spiritual or religious group. A sports fan club, or a business networking group. Your pilates class can be your tribe or even a non-profit organization. Being part of a tribe will help you feel connected, understood and cared for. Your tribe matters!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.