I admit it. I am a workaholic. It’s my addiction. I’ve been so terrible at relationships so I thought I’d put my energy into building business in this great country. I love what I do and having the opportunity to build a better life by serving people to the best of my ability. Working towards the good life takes all your focus and energy, but it is totally worth it if you value capitalism. Being single allows  me to work more hours and prepare myself for a better life and future. This is a principle I think everyone should follow: do today what will prepare you for a better and more fulfilling future. Be a workaholic, and relentlessly go after your goals.

Getting Focused

Sometimes it takes making a lot of stupid mistakes to realize you’ve got to change yourself and the self-sabotaging behaviors you have conducted that no longer serves you. Everything is a choice. When you become aware of yourself and things that you want to change, you can begin to make the shift and change the course of your life. Getting to where you want is all about focusing on what you want. As a friend of mine once said, you have to put your blinders on. There are so many distractions out there today, so being focused can be a key factor in achieving the goals you set out for yourself. You’ve got to put in the work to see the results.

Being Single Helps Me Develop My Career

I am not focused on having a family right now. A family is the farthest thing from my mind. I hope that one day I will meet someone special who really gets me and complements my life, but right now, I really want to get straight with my career and pound the rubber to the road. I want to hit my targets in business, and being a well rounded and savvy woman. Being single allows me more time and freedom to stay up late, drive across town, and take on a second or third job to fund my capital accounts. Being single also allows me the opportunity to travel, move, and be where ever I like. Putting in the time and effort now will greatly increase your chance at a better life in the future. Get focused on your career, because hitting goals and targets that you aspire to will make you happy, tying your happiness to a person will not.

How Can You Still Get Love

I’m all about the hustle, and proud to be a workaholic. You still will need love though, because those shiny black cars can’t love you back. Here’s how you can still be a workaholic and get love. Take your planner and schedule time throughout the week to spend meaningful time with the people who love and care about you. Show some love to your family, your friends, and your community. The more you give, the more you get. Feeling loved is one of the best feelings in the world, and can stabilize your mood and enhance your mental health. Dating is just out of the question, and so are friends with benefits. The reason why is that, for me, I’ve seemed to screw up every relationship by putting up walls and running away because I am fearful of intimacy. Meaningless hookups make you feel empty inside, and initially hurt your self-worth and confidence. When you are established as a Secure Single, you may then have the chance to be whole and complete with another person who is also whole and complete. In the meanwhile, find love and give love to your family, friends, and community. Most will understand your workaholic way, and most lovers won’t.


For all the single women out there, now is the time. We have more economic opportunity and power now thanks to the women who came before us. Make an impact, and go for the gold. Work hard to get what you want and accept nothing less than your best. Develop the life you want through building a career that will empower you and inspire you. You can have it all, it takes work. Develop the made of a workaholic, and be relentless in the pursuit of your goals. We have so much opportunity today to make an impact thanks to the work our sisters did throughout history.  There is opportunity everywhere for single women to reach their full potential. When you have time, thank a woman in power who has lead the way for you. You can have it all!

Serve to Survive

I confess that being a workaholic makes my life pretty busy and intense, but it provides me with more opportunities that I ever dreamt of, and we’re just getting started. I believe that because I am single I have more time to do what I want, when I want, and where I want. Being single will allow you more time to focus on developing your career. Go for the gold, and work your butt off. You are worth it to make the most of yourself. Ask not what the world can do for you but what you can do for the world. Become a workaholic and make the best of your world. Create the life you love.  

Securely a single workaholic,


Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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Danielle has chosen to be single in her walk of life. She experienced dating in her late teens and early twenties, and had always felt each relationship was unfulfilling. To find more meaning in her life, she broke off to go down a path of self-discovery.
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