Graduating from high school and going to college for the first time can be both a scary and an exciting time in life. You are going to school on your own. You are responsible for your own schedule; to study or not to study. You make new friends. College is an excellent time for you to take advantage of all the benefits that the single life offers because, although you may not think so at the time, you will have more free time you will ever have in life while attending college.
Top Ten Reasons Why Being Single in College is the Best
1. You have complete independence to go to restaurants, bars, parties, and events on your own.
2. You have more control over your life and you can act as you please.
3. You are responsible for your own self-worth and happiness. Depend on and love yourself. Rely on yourself.
4. You learn who you are as a person and decide which path of life you want for a career, choices, lifestyle, etc.
5. You are only responsible for your own life. You don’t have to worry about dealing with your personal issues and planning your schedule while having to work with another person who also has problems and a life.
6. You are responsible for your schedule and you don’t have to include another person in your schedule.
7. You can go and do as you please. Live life with no regrets!
8. You are able to focus on and to finish your assignments with having to worry about responding to a significant others’ texts or having to deal with emotional drama.
9. You can hang out with whoever you want without having a significant other becoming jealous or worried about you.
10. You can take more risks in your career, life, and with your daily choices that you could not do with a significant other or if you were married.
The short lesson from this list is that being single is the optimal decision in college. You get to learn more about who you are as a person, become the person who you want to be, and learn to value yourself as a person without dealing with the issues and complications that significant others add to life. Enjoy your time as a college student and remember that you get an education both inside and outside of the classroom.
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The school year is about to begin and college supplies, furniture, and deals are at all the stores at students prepare for the fall semester as a Freshman or a Senior. College can both an exciting time and a lonely time, but it is ultimately up to each student to determine which of those two main option college turns out to be. College is the first time that you get to escape your family and experience new thoughts, ideas, and people. College is a time for an individual to grow and make use of the independence, mobility, and autonomy that the single life offers while in school.
In college — unlike high school — you get to decide how much time you want to spend studying, partying, or exploring the world. In a word, you are finally independent. While it is important to study and to do well in your classes, it is also vital to take advantage of the opportunities that the area where your college is located to grow and mature as a person. This requires you getting out of your comfort zone and attending events and being able to discuss ideas and beliefs in a rational and non-confrontational manner with people with whom you may disagree with on issues. You may change your views on certain things after reading, discussing, and experiencing different cultures and places while in college.
As a single person you are able to use the mobility that the single life provides in college to explore the city that you are in and to meet new people and make new friends. Today, it is easier to travel and get around because most major cities now have light rails or subways and there is Uber and Lyft for if you don’t have a car to get you places throughout the city. Mobility, tied to independence, creates the opportunity for you to explore and do the things that may be of interest to you while in college.
As a student, your college may have some rules for dorm hours or for visiting hours along with certain codes of conduct or what your college expects of you in the student handbook. While it is good to know what the handbook says, it is also important that as a (single) college student that you have the freedom to act independently and to grow as a person while in school.
Whether you plan to be a lifelong single or you ultimately want to enter a relationship, you should enjoy the time as a single in college. College is a time is grow as a person by utilizing the independence, mobility, and autonomy that the single life offers you.