Society emphasizes romantic relationships and not internal validation. Single people must deal with this problem. How can you live your best life single? You have come to the right place! Here is how to be single in 2023!

How To Be Single In 2023

Secure In Yourself

You want to be secure in yourself. The worst thing you can be is insecure. Insecurity shows others that you lack confidence, are unsure of yourself, and are susceptible to being manipulated by others.

There are different ways that you can be secure in yourself. You can be emotionally secure. You can be financially secure. You can be prepared for a disaster.

You can become emotionally secure by understanding your emotions. The six common emotions that people experience are happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger, and surprise. You can learn to handle your emotions. The more you allow your emotions to direct your life, the less control you will have in reaching your goals. It would be best if you learned to handle your emotions.

You want to learn the basics of personal finance. Financial education is not taught to most people. This is a problem. The fact that many families do not understand or teach their children this is an issue. You deal with finances every day. You go to the grocery store. You buy something online.

You also want to spend time to learn how the financial system works. Understanding how the financial system works can help you better understand money. You can then follow the basic steps of money management.

You can also prepare for a disaster. You do not need to become a prepper, but you can do some basic things to give you peace of mind. You can have at least one to three months’ supply of canned or emergency food stores where you live. There is nothing wrong with being prepared. It does not mean that you are paranoid. It can help you feel more secure since you are ready for things beyond your control to protect yourself while other people are not.

Focus On Yourself

It would be best if you learned to focus on yourself. Society tells people to focus on other people and things. You are often told to work in groups. This is common in college classes and group work projects. The problem with always doing things in a group setting is that it implicitly teaches you to put others in a group before yourself. You can then expound this to caring about the community and society instead of caring first about yourself.

A group, community, society, and country are abstract concepts. You, as a single individual, are concrete. They are external outside of oneself.

The more you listen to what other people tell you about what you must do to get a job, be a good person, or be successful, the less you focus on yourself. You are the only person who knows yourself. You can learn from people, but you are a unique individual with different skill sets.

You want to learn your strengths, weaknesses, and what you are passionate about. You then want to find a way to make money from it.

For the longest time, I believed you must go to college to get a good job. I misdirected my focus because I thought the lie about the higher education system. Rather than focusing on my strengths, I was worried about attaining the right expensive pieces of paper. My strengths are writing, synthesizing information, and understanding how a website works (especially search engine optimization).

Granted, that was not presented as a viable career option since the knowledge and content economy was still starting when I was in college. There are many ways to make money online once you put in the hard work, pay attention to your skills, and be creative. Work hard and smart to escape the nine-to-five job that you may hate to become your own boss. The Internet gives you options to create passive income streams.

Financial Literacy

Being single is a time to learn to be financially literate. The schools and the higher education system do not teach students financial education. Many parents do not teach their children because they are often financially illiterate. Yet, you use money every day.

The basics of financial literacy are not to have any debt, to save money, and to invest money.

Debt is the financial equivalent of slavery. This is because you become subjected to high-interest rates and may eventually reach a point where you can never pay off your debt. If you have debt of any type, from student loans to credit cards, you must first pay off your debt.

You then want to save money. Savings accounts continue to pay low rates of interest. For this reason, it is best to find a high-interest savings or money market account. You can then start to save a percentage of every paycheck into your savings account. This will help you to build wealth over time slowly. Once you have enough money saved to cover a year’s worth of your fixed expenses, you can start to invest.

There are different types of investment. You could invest in the stock market. You could invest in real estate. You could invest in commodities. You could start a business—the more risk you take with investing, the higher your potential return. The stock market is on the lower end of the risk-taking g spectrum. Starting your own business is on the high-risk side of the risk range.

Tell People ‘No!’

You must learn to tell people ‘No’! The longer you continue to say to people ‘Yes’ to things you are not interested in or do not want to do, the more you waste your valuable time and attention. You cannot please everybody. You do not need to please anyone.

Your greatest competition is with yourself, not with other people. The sooner you realize this, the better your life will be. Your competition is not your friend, co-worker, or another business. It is with yourself.

The sooner you recognize that you can turn down people, the more you will get your time back. You can then direct your time and attention to bettering yourself.

Go Your Own Way

It is not selfish to look out for yourself and go your way. Self-interest is natural. You naturally want to improve yourself. There is nothing wrong with wanting to improve yourself, from how you look to your interpersonal relationships to your financial situation. But sometimes, to do that, you must turn inward.

When you focus inward, you begin to learn about yourself. If you do not know yourself, other people will easily use you. You can start to stand up for yourself. You can work on yourself. You can work to reach your goals. You can take responsibility for your life. You can go your own way.

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Society is full of distractions. You are tempted to direct your time, attention, and resources toward others, not yourself. The best thing you can do is to focus and invest in yourself. Make a point to learn to manage your money and become financially literate. Do not be afraid to tell people ‘No’ and to go your own way.

You are the one who is responsible for your choices and future. No one else is. It would be best to acknowledge that reality or continue believing in society’s narrative that focuses on external validation.

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James Bollen is the Founder and President of Secure Single. He is an entrepreneur and a content creator with the goal of helping all different types of singles to learn to thrive as a single person.
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