The real Sex And The City changed people’s lives through their fun, crazy and real relationship dramas that we all understand.
The Real Sex And The City aired between 1998-2004
People on Reddit and Twitter are still talking about it— Because the show was that good. Every woman on the planet can see aspects of herself in at least one of the characters: Carrie Bradshaw, Samantha Jones, Charlotte York, and Miranda Hobbes— I know I did.
I saw myself as Carrie (a writer, of course!) in my real Sex And The City
I had a tumultuous thing with my very own Mr. Big. My Mr. Big relationship didn’t manifest any wedding bells, bubbles or our friends and family throwing birdseed around us while the doves of love were released.
Relationship trauma helped me become the woman I am today
We did, however, have more than our share of ups and downs. I felt pain just like Carrie, and she helped me become a stronger person even through the agony of heartbreak. I stumbled along with her as I watched the show. Her life was just like mine.
Seeing the characters in the real Sex And The City grow— Helped me do some growing up while I watched
My style developed as everyone’s does with dark nights of the soul (which most people go through).
Heartbreak (No matter how many times you go through it) can help you become a more profound, much wiser person. Just knowing you will come out better, in the end, can help you carry on through the tough times.
Putting yourself in Carrie’s Louboutins will let you know you’re not alone
Even great relationships are hard. Many of the marriages you think are the good ones end up in divorce. The Sunday Times conducted a survey and they reported that single ladies are “much happier” after their divorce. The average age of these now-single-ladies is called the real “Sex And The City” generation because they relate as being strong independent women who don’t need a man.
Being able to take care of yourself and buy as many shoes as you want is the most empowering things a single woman can do
Sometimes life is more comfortable without having a guy around. You can do what you want when you want with who you want. Living life like Samantha certainly has its perks. There are no questions, and no rules made by anyone but yourself.
The main reason people in the survey were unhappy in their relationships was that their partner had “changed as a person.” Second runner-up was because they were “unhappy.”
Being in a relationship doesn’t mean life is great
One of the loneliest and unhappiest times in my life was when I was married (sorry ex-hubby!). Even though I was married, I felt misunderstood and alone, and unsupported emotionally.
This wasn’t all my ex-husband’s fault either. As the saying goes— It takes two Tango, and neither of us was good at the relationship dance. In fact, I was terrible at it. I was a master communicator with just about everyone— Except my husband.
Intimacy can be scary— Learn who you are first!
Being alone and reminiscing, healing and getting over the past will make you an even more fantastic woman! You now know things that are good for you because you’ve already experienced plenty of things that aren’t good for you.
Setting clear boundaries (because of the learning from your past mistakes) is one of the things you can have in your toolbox to keep yourself feeling fabulous.
When you have time to spend time alone, you can get more in tune with your Hell yeah! So when your body tells you Hell no!— You learn to hear it loud and clear. When you’re single, you will learn to trust your instincts, and you can live your life and nobody else’s!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.