I have heard many people say that people mature the most during the defining decade of our 20-something years, this is especially true for women. It’s true that a lot of the sharp and rough edges get smoothed out over time, but I feel that in our 20’s, we grow up much more than our awkward teen years. A lot of people struggle with insecurities, not enough money, lack of love, and fear, but it doesn’t always have to be that way. What we want it to push past the shadow of a doubt, and to become our greatest and grandest versions of ourselves. We must do the following things, and more, in order to get a good starting place to become self-respecting women. No one teaches us this, but we have to learn to love ourselves, care for ourselves, lick our wounds, and heal ourselves from past hurts. This can be done with unconditional love. By practicing the following suggestions, you will begin to fill up your unconditional love bucket, which may be empty to become self-respecting women. So give it a shot, and start to fill your bucket.
3 Ways Self-Respecting Women Can Fill A Love Bucket
How To Handle Fear
Fear prevents us from taking action, risk, and growing. When we can learn to let go of fear, we can unleash ourselves and become more powerful than we ever imagined. There is not too much that is different from powerful people and those who are fearful, the thoughts just separate us. Fear is also an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. Whatever is scaring you right now, just know that you are bigger than your fears. By believing you can overcome your fears, you start to fill your unconditional love bucket. Not scaring yourself is an act of love unto yourself.
Get Your Self-Respect Back
If you grew up in a home where you did not learn about self-respect, building this mental muscle can be a challenge. The good news is that you can build your self-respect by setting boundaries with yourself and others. If you do not respect yourself, you will not receive respect from others. It is a two-way street. It is also likely that you will not respect others if you do not respect yourself. To respect yourself, you will need to take care of your body and your mind, the rest will come together. Get plenty of sleep, talk kindly to yourself, make time to work out, make time to read, and set boundaries with friends and families. Taking care of yourself is also an act of love, and helps fill your unconditional love bucket.
Bounce Back After Failures
When we fail, and sometimes make the same mistake twice or three times over, we can let in self-sabotaging thoughts and self-doubt. No self-respecting woman would ever let a failure hold her back. If you fall down, make sure you get up. Getting up after failure shows love and respect for yourself. You want to promise yourself that you can ALWAYS take care of yourself, and be there for yourself. Make note of a failure, take into account what you did right, and what you did wrong. Each failure is not truly a failure, it is feedback. Get up, and stay up. You are strong, so believe it! When you get back up, you show yourself unconditional love. Be persistent and keep moving forward!
Repeat each of these actions and you will continually keep your unconditional love bucket full. You will have more self-respect than you ever thought possible, and it will continue to grow year after year. In our defining decade, we set up the habits that make us strong, beautiful inside and out, and give us the discipline to love and respect ourselves, unconditionally. These are three steps that self-respecting women can follow to become the woman they want to be.
Stay secure with yourself. And remember, unconditional love and self-respect are two of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, so allow yourself to have it today.
Danielle E. Brockman is a contributing writer for Secure Single LLC. Danielle has her own blog at eContently and you can connect with Danielle on LinkedIn.