People may think that being in a relationship is the only way to be happy. They believe the dating advice they give to their single friends is the end-all-be-all answer to their prayers.
Is all this dating advice helpful? It only works for a single person if they want a relationship, and they are ready, willing and able to do what it takes to have a great relationship— And your advice is actually good.
So how do you handle your well-meaning friends that give you dating advice you don’t want— Tactfully, or not.
You can choose snarky or enlightened responses. I like to mix it up and offer a little bit of both.
If you were looking for a partner and were asking for help you would want to hear it, but you’re not— So you don’t.
Don’t take lousy dating advice your friends give you personally.
They do think they are helpful.
I’m single, and I’m also guilty of giving people dating advice.
That’s what being a dating coach is all about. It’s what I do. But is there a fine line between being annoying and being helpful to my friends?
I’m curious about your thoughts on the whole thing. I try to give people advice who I think want to hear it— But someone I may cross the line.
I’m like a labrador retriever who wants someone to throw me the dating advice ball so that I can chase it again and again.
The things that I tell my clients about dating well . . . They’re happy to listen. My thoughts are taken to heart, and they find what I say useful— Becuase they want to hear it.
When I write their profiles, these men and women are thrilled when it’s finished so they can put their best foot forward—
But when your friends give you dating advice, you don’t want to hear— You want to stick your foot where the sun doesn’t shine.
How do you deal with that issue? You need to know what to say when they are telling you what to do again.
Here are some things you can say to tried and true advice that you probably hear all the damn time.
‘You just need to find someone— Then you’ll be happy.’
These friends think you need someone to be happy— Becuase they need someone to be satisfied.
You know the ones. The people who don’t feel satisfied until they’re in a relationship— Even if it’s a bad one.
Dating advice comeback:
When you stop giving me dating advice— Then I’ll finally be happy. (Don’t actually say this, just think it).
Here’s what you can say.
I’m already happy. I don’t live in a fear bubble when I’m alone because I’m single. I like spending time with myself, and I’ve chosen this lifestyle on purpose. It’s lovely.
‘You should lower your standards.’
Dating advice comeback:
You should raise yours. (Just kidding). Say this instead:
Are you kidding me? I will never lower my standards. I would instead take a vow of celibacy than date someone who’s not on my level.
‘You should dress up more—Then you’d meet someone.’
You should take me shopping. This one is OK, but here’s the more evolved:
Dating advice comeback:
I wear what I like and don’t need to impress anyone. I’m not trying to lure in some sugar daddy. I feel beautiful just the way I am.
‘You should get on Tinder.’
Tinder makes me want to go on a bender. This one is actually pretty fun to use.
But then again, this one is more “adult”— Or not!
Dating advice comeback:
Tinder isn’t my bag. If I wanted a hookup, I’d go to the local pub up the street. I like convenience.
Maybe your friends think you’re crazy for being single. But I sure don’t. It’s much better to be alone than to be with someone who’s not up to your standards.
You do you. That is all!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at DinaColada.com for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.
