Thanks to Tinder— Gone are the days of people writing love letters and courting.
Today is more of a hook-up culture than ever before. as a result of Tinder. Some people love it— A lot. There is another segment of the population who despises it.
How Tinder Ruined Relationships For Singles— Forever
The singles who want to stop Tinder dead in its tracks are those men and women who want to meet “Their one and only.”
I imagine dating is the hardest for people who want to meet the ever-so-rare virgin. To them, it feels like there is more of a likelihood of them spotting a unicorn at the shopping mall then to go on a date with someone who hasn’t given up the booty before marriage.
It’s almost as hard for the singles that want to meet someone special and be exclusive, like yesterday. Those relationship-ready men and women want to get married, buy a house, and have babies.
That’s a tall order in today’s modern Tinder culture of spotting a hottie, meeting up that evening and getting it on like donkey kong on the very first date— Or even the within 10 minutes of a date.
Tinder and sex apps are real, and dating and relationships don’t happen like the good old days.
According to Anajana Rajbhandrary at Thought Catalog, Tinder is the most popular dating app with over 50 million daily users. That’s a lot of choices for an ego-driven “Pick me! Pick me!” instant gratification generation.
The ego boost from getting swiped is more addictive than sugar. I know from personal experience. It feels good to be wanted. Everyone on the planet wants at least a little attention, and most of us think a lot of attention is even better.
Is the massive attention you get in Tinder better than real life?
Yes and no.
Tinder is good for a minute when you get that “high” from an instant notification of getting picked by that guy or gal that you liked.
At HuffPost, according to Julia Spira, an online dating expert, (you go girl!) corroborated with Match.com in their survey of 5000 singles in 2016. These findings were in the data:
22% of millennials feel like technology has made love more difficult.
57% of millennials are lonely.
125% of millennials are more likely to feel addicted to the process of online dating than older generations.
Tinder and sex apps can feel lonely.
54% of women feel burned out on their search for love, while 97% of men have an online dating “addiction.”
Tinder isn’t all bleak and dreary for you if you want real love.
Other statistics that show 53% of single people have created online dating profiles. So if you’re not online, it can take some time to find love online, but it is more than possible! Tinder isn’t all-evil!
25% of single people met their partner through a friend, while 40% of singles met someone they met from an online dating site. So the yes side to the not-always-loved Tinder does have a silver lining.
I’m done bashing Tinder. You can meet the love of your life at a party, at work or in the grocery store— Or even on tinder.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
