Everyone knows that Tinder is a completely ruthless hookup app. In our millennial generation, having meaningless-pleasurable sex out of wedlock is super common, and increasingly becoming more popular. There have been rare cases of people finding ‘the one’, but it does happen. If you are just looking to hookup, here is how to honor your emotional boundaries. Tinder is good for bouncing back after breakups, or just getting some goodies if you need it. We live in the insta-now decade, so when in Rome do as the Romans do. Right? Here are five easy ways to use Tinder without getting emotionally involved with someone by learning your boundaries and using the app to find sexual pleasure.
5 Ways Singles Can Use Tinder Emotion Free
No Strings While Traveling
Travelling is something that absolutely necessary. If you have not found a way to travel yet, do so immediately. You need to see as much of the world as possible. So while you are on your travels going solo or in a group, there is no harm in using Tinder to meet other singles on the road. As long as you know this is a one-time instance, go into the initial meeting knowing that you may never see this person again. Be safe and aware of ALL your surroundings. This is a great way to leave no-strings-attached because you are ultimately in a different zip code.
Post-Breakup-Hookup
If you just broke up with your significant other, there is absolutely every reason to be emotionally unavailable. You probably still have needs: company, companionship, physical touch, and sex. You will probably meet other people on Tinder that feel the same. You may even just want revenge sex. After all, the best way to get over someone else is to get on top of another. Forget getting under someone. Get on top. Do what you need to, in a healthy manner, to get over your lover.
Lonely Persons Colonic
If you are a workaholic, then you probably feel lonely from time to time. Work on fulfilling your sexual or companionship desires by using Tinder or other sex websites and apps. You don’t always have to have sex when you go on Tinder to find dates. Sometimes you just need a companion to join you on a simple date. Surrounding yourself with people is a good way to cure any sort of loneliness. Work on serving what serves you and others. Be good company. For moments when you just want to relax and breathe have a conversation with a stranger. This makes Tinder a good way to get connected to new people who may also be looking for a fresh new experience without unnecessary commitments.
Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em
You might just want to sow your wild oats and whey. As long as you are clear with another person what your intentions are, and if their intentions align with yours, no harm will be done. Just know yourself, and work to understand how you will feel after having a sex with a complete stranger. Use protection, always. If you are okay with this sort of behavior, then go forth with confidence. Some people are just wired this way. Make sure you go into the situation with a strong and healthy mental attitude. Sowing your wild oats may just be a phase, so enjoy it and then talk about your wild adventures when you’re older. We all need good campfire stories.
Summary
Think about it in this way, Tinder is quite a useful app! Know yourself, know your worth, and prepare yourself for any situation that may arise. When your values align with who you are, then you can enjoy life more by doing activities that align with who you are. Singles have the opportunity to be emotionally unattached if is a stage in our lives, so enjoy it. Whether you are recovering from break up, wanting to have company, or just need a lot of sex, be clear about your intentions to yourself and your sex partner. Get ready to have fun!
Securely yours,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
