Do women need men? Of course not. That’s so 1950.
It’s not necessary to have a marriage or a relationship to have good health and happiness according to science. You don’t need a man to bring home the bacon, because you’ve already got some in the fridge. Or maybe you’ve made the empowered choice to not eat bacon and have apples and tempeh instead.
Speaking of bacon, I’m going to get to the meaty science part of being single in more ways than one.
The University of Basel in Switzerland and the Max Planck Institute for Human Development in Germany conducted some research that answered the question . . . “Do Women Need Men?”
Do Women Need Men? Or Do Women Need Women? Or Something Else?
Do women need men? According to the research— Not-so-much.
Especially when it comes to having a healthy body mass index (BMI). What woman doesn’t think about that way more she needs to? Do I need this donut? Or do I need a man? Or do I need either?
You can get you BMI by dividing your weight in kilograms by how tall you are in meters squared. Or you can check out this handy BMI calculator at the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute if you’ve ever wondered if your BMI is a healthy number.
Do women need men? Maybe if women want to gain weight they do!
The Switzerland study showed married couples may eat more healthy food, but they weigh significantly more than their single girlfriends. The single people in this study participate more in being sporty and this equals more fit.
Being a healthy single women is better than being an unhealthy married woman. Being married while having an unhealthy BMI can contribute to the increased chance of heart disease, diabetes, and gallstones.
Too much fat (like in bacon, which I happen to partake in), could also contribute to high BMI. Instead of being hitched to a man, and you’re married to eating a high-cholesterol diet— Whether you’re single or married, you could wake up in the middle of the night with rapid intense pain in your upper abdomen. I’m being dramatic of course, but it could happen.
So if you happen to be a single gal wondering do women need men— You can sleep well at night knowing you don’t need men or cookies—
You can live without both. But you might not want to, as long as it’s a good cookie or a good man.
However, If you happen to be in an unhealthy relationship as opposed to a healthy one, a negative relationships can contribute to problems with your heart that lead to high blood pressure, high blood sugar and obesity. I know because I’ve had unhealthy relationships that made my blood boil and gave me severe panic attacks.
When I was in college I was going to donate plasma, and found out my boyfriend cheated on me. My blood pressure was so high, they wouldn’t let me donate a drop. Usually I was a pretty chilled out bird Not that day.
I would much rather be single than in an unhealthy relationship. I love myself way too much, and I hope you do too.
Your life can be fufilling and healthy and happy right now as a single woman. Of course men and women don’t need each other, but sometimes you might want to have a partner around— Sometimes you don’t. So while you’re single enjoy it.
The question do women need men has a simple answer. No.
If you are choosing the single life, you are lucky to be alive today.
You are a single empowered woman in this amazing time when women can vote, wear short skirts, buy your own condo, be a CEO, and drive in Saudi Arabia. What more could you want? You may eventually want to have a man around, but until this being single is YOUR choice and it can be incredible.
Single women are on a badass trajectory and the curve is never coming down. You have all the power.
So choose to make your life one where you make every day count. Go for the salad bar. Take time every day to meditate or pray. Get that degree you’ve always thought about getting but were too afraid. Share your gifts with the world. Find your tribe that “gets” you. Those women are out there and there are people who will support you on your journey.
Join the single tribe! It’s an incredibly fun and wild ride!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
