Society says you must date and marry, but everyone is single: here’s why!

Everyone’s Single: Here’s Why

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Everyone is single because everyone is born single. Everyone dies single. It does not matter if you date or marry. You may have some relationships between birth and death. Everyone is, first and foremost, an individual.

You are two separate people. Even if you are dating or married. Each person must deal with unique wants, needs, and problems. That fact does not go away no matter what society may tell you.

It is up to you to make the most of your time on earth as an individual. You can choose to let life go by or be a person of action. It is up to every single person to decide how they want to live their life.

You will also die alone. If you are lucky, you may die with some loved ones beside you. You cannot take the things you have in this world, including any loved ones. From dust, you were made, and to dust, you shall return.

For these reasons, making the most of every day is critical.

Carpe Diem (Seize The Day)

Since you are born single and die single, you can begin to seize the day. You can live by starting to capture every moment of every day. The best way to start this is to practice self-discipline, learn time management skills, and work to achieve your life goals.

It is up to you to take control of your life and realize your goals. No one else will do it for you. You must practice self-discipline, accept self-responsibility, and learn time management skills to get what you want.


You can start by taking action rather than watching life go by. That will require you to practice self-discipline. You do not have a schedule for your day when you are undisciplined or have plans for your life. This is why self-discipline is critical. You can start small until discipline becomes a habit. Some small ways to practice self-discipline include: writing down three to ten tasks you want to get down each day, going to bed and waking up at consistent times, writing down goals you want to achieve, and coming up with a plan to realize your goals.

There is an overlap between self-discipline and time management. The first example will be explained further below.


You can then start to take self-responsibility for your life. Society wants to make people dependent upon “authorities,” “leaders,” and “experts.” They do what other people tell them to do. This makes people think that they do not need to accept responsibility. They can go through life without any consequences.

You can start to take responsibility for your life. When you start to take accountability, you will start to surprise yourself with what you can do. You will begin reaching the goals you wrote down but forgot about. You will eventually start to be able to do the things you want to do. You will begin to become creative rather than doing what you are told. Some things which can come from starting to trust in yourself are:

  • Find ways to create passive income.
  • Lose weight and reach your gym goals.
  • Decide to eliminate toxic and negative people and surround yourself with people who share your interests and values.
  • Start to focus on internal validation.
  • Practice self-control to help you to reach your goals.

Time Management

Time management is also vital since we have the same twenty-four hours a day and three-hundred-and-sixty-five days a year. It is up to you to decide how to use your precious seconds of every day. You can use your time to improve yourself or remain stuck where you are.

An excellent strategy to better use your time is to list daily tasks. This will help you to follow a schedule. You can start small by aiming to achieve three goals during your day. You could begin by waking up earlier, working on something that will improve your life in some way (find ways to increase your income, regularly exercise, et cetera), and running any errands you may have to do. Waking up earlier and going to bed later will give you more hours in your day, allowing you to get more tasks done. You can make your schedule of things to do each day. You can then also break your time into seven categories:

  • Top three priorities for tomorrow (feel free to add more).
  • Tasks for me to do tomorrow.
  • Your to-do list with everything that you need to get done.
  • Tasks that I need to do soon.
  • It’s unimportant and can be done when I get to it.
  • Your shopping list.
  • You can write down any notes which will help you.

Memento Mori (Remember You Will Die)

It is also critical for you to remember that you are mortal. One of my favorite reflections is memento mori which translates to “Remember you will die.” You do not know when you will die. It could be today, tonight, tomorrow, or sometime in the future. You do not know.

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It is natural to be single, and this is because everyone is, first and foremost, an individual. You do have relationships with people in your daily life, from acquaintances to family, but you are the one who is responsible for making decisions. Your choices will directly affect you.

That is why it is vital to begin to value your time, practice self-discipline, and self-responsibility to help you to achieve your goals.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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James Bollen is the Founder and President of Secure Single. He is an entrepreneur and a content creator with the goal of helping all different types of singles to learn to thrive as a single person.
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