What is the most crucial relationship that you can have? Is it with someone else? Is it a romantic relationship? No! The most important relationship that you can have is the one with yourself. This is called an intrapersonal relationship.


What Is An Intrapersonal Relationship?

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According to Dictionary, intrapersonal is “existing or occurring within the self or within one’s mind.” The Dictionary says, “People with high intrapersonal intelligence are aware of their strengths and weaknesses. Intrapersonal conflict can lead to emotional stress.”


An intrapersonal relationship is a relationship that you have with yourself. It can be within yourself. It can be within your mind. The most important relationship that you can have is the relationship with yourself. To have a relationship with yourself, you must first know yourself.


3 Ways How To Know Yourself


You can start to know yourself by learning about your likes and dislikes. You can learn about your strengths. You can learn about your weaknesses. You must take time take time to figure out what your skills are. You can also figure out what you are passionate about. The final way is to find a way to monetize your strengths, skills, and what you are passionate about.


Know Your Interests


You can spend time figuring out what your interests are. You may be interested in computers. You could be interested in the trades. You could be interested in business. You could be interested in many different things. If you always focus on multiple items, you will never become a subject matter expert or known in your niche. That is because you constantly distract yourself from learning the skills you must know. You will need to learn to focus on one thing. You can add to your primary skills once you have masted your critical skills.


Learn Your Strengths


You can also take time to learn your strengths. It will also help you to know your weaknesses. This will help you to understand what you could improve at.


You will want to spend the most time developing your strengths. This will help you to stand out among your peers. Rather than focusing on your weaknesses or getting distracted by bread and circuses, you chose to focus on your strengths. You can then figure out ways to monetize your strengths.


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Monetize Your Skills


Life is expensive. You will need to find a way to pay the bills. Ideally, you would want to do it doing something that you enjoy rather than doing something that you hate. You can find ways to monetize your skills.


You can work a traditional in-person job, a remote position, or go into business for yourself. You want to make enough money to cover your monthly costs, then have enough left to save. If you can, you want to learn about investing. You can work to generate passive income streams. You want to find ways to make your money work for you.



4 Options To Monetize Your Skills


You can monetize your skills and knowledge in many ways today. You have four main options when it comes to making money, according to the ESBI Model.  You can always work for an employer, but you could also work for yourself. You could be self-employed. You could also start your business. You can also invest your money or reinvest the profits from your business into another venture or in real assets.


Employee Model


In the employee model, you trade your time for money. You can be fired or replaced at any time. You will not get paid if you do not work a shift or are laid off. You have no control over your income in this model.


Self-Employment Model


 In the self-employment model, you work for yourself, but if you stop working at any time, your income may stop coming in. Your time is still tied to your money, but you own your own business.


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Business Model


Today with the Internet, you can start an online business for much less than it costs to start a brick-and-mortar business. A business is the ultimate real financial asset. You own a system. You have people who work for you in the business model. It is up to you to maximize your business’s full potential. Once you have money coming into your business, you can start to invest it.


Investor Model


In the investor model, you make money work for you by investing money into income-producing assets. You trade your money for more money. Income-producing assets are often hard assets like businesses, real estate, and stock market investments. Once you have enough money from your investments, you can also speculate in the markets. Speculation is an art.


“The ladder of success is best climbed by stepping on the rungs of opportunity.” – Ayn Rand


Know Your Values


You want to figure out your interests, values, and principles. These will be your guiding light. Your values will help you to make friends. It will help you to build a community around you. It is essential to surround yourself with like-minded people.


Society Does Not Want You To Succeed


The reality is that society does not want you to succeed. Society teaches you all the wrong things. It wants you to be weak, helpless, and dependent on others. Society does not want you to be able to provide for yourself. Here are three ways society works to prevent you from succeeding.


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Financial System


The American financial system is debt-based. The system relies on people being in debt. The system requires various types of debt to maintain the system. The best thing you can do is not to be in debt.

Education System


The education system does not teach you hard skills that will benefit you. The education system instead focuses on soft skills and teaches skills that won’t help you get employed by learning things like gender studies. If you must go to college, study a STEM field. Otherwise, the last person you want to learn from is a professor. The best thing you can do is to learn to think for yourself, question authority and to self-educate yourself.


Mainstream Media


The mainstream media does not tell you the news. It only tells you what it wants you to be aware of.  The tole of the mainstream media, both on the left and the right, is to feed you a narrative to make you go along with the following current thing or agenda.


The mainstream media wants you to remain in a fearful state. The best thing you can do is turn off your television or news network on your phone, tablet, or computer.




Society does not want you to learn to have an intrapersonal relationship with yourself. It wants you to remain distracted, fearful, and in debt. You can learn to know yourself. You can begin to have an intrapersonal relationship with yourself. The most important relationship you can have is with yourself. You do not need a significant other to be happy.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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James Bollen is the Founder and President of Secure Single. He is an entrepreneur and a content creator with the goal of helping all different types of singles to learn to thrive as a single person.
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