how to handle the pressure with not valentines date

Getting the skill of handling the pressure of finding a Valentine’s date when you’re single will trickle out into your daily life. If it feels like it’s just too much pressure, there is a step by step thing you can do let off some steam and let it go. Watch out! She’s ready to blow!

Learning how to handle pressure when you’re single isn’t just about having a Valentine’s date, it’s about everything

Especially if your friends and family say things like, “If he’d only find a nice girl,” or “It’s almost that time of the year again.” How about “You poor thing, o you have Valentine’s date yet honey?”

Nope. Uh-uh. Not even close to having a Valentine’s date. Thanks for reminding me

So, whaddya do then? Let the pressure build up until it feels like it’s eating you from the inside out? Or something else? Let’s go with something else. You can learn some simple life skills right now! The first step of how to handle the pressure of not having a Valentine’s date yet is too. . .

Keep calm

I know this is easier said than done, but if you can keep your composure, no matter what happens, it will put you a step above the annoying questions and comments of not having Valentine’s date.

What do you do if you do lose your cool?

If someone triggers you, pisses you off, or makes you feel insecure and emotional, take a step back. This means hanging up the phone, going to the bathroom or even taking a walk around the block.

Don’t allow what someone else’s opinion or what they say to become your truth. You are the ultimate ruler of your world, and how you respond to anything. When you take responsibility for you, and not the other person, your life will become easier.

I am grateful heart no valentines date

Put your focus on whatever takes your mind off not having a Valentine’s date

Focus on what you need to do to be satisfied with yourself right now. Because wherever you are is where you’re supposed to be. And if you do want to be dating someone keep your eye on the prize.

Focus on what you do have instead of what you don’t have

This is hard if you’re used to a lack mindset. Instead of thinking about getting married, or having a Valentine’s date this year, be thankful for what you’ve got.

Yes. Be grateful about anything, and be thankful often.

Another trick is to make a list of things you are thankful for right now

It can be a good friend, your cat or even your pillow. It’s not rocket science. Just take a look around you. You have transportation. If you don’t have a car, you probably have a bus, an Uber, a bike or even a mobility scooter. According to the Heart Math Institute, being grateful helps your emotional well-being.

You have lots of things available to you to make your life easier. Many of these things are at your fingertips. Think about your light switch the running water in your faucet, or your smartphone that gives you access to almost anything in an instant.

When you focus on the things that make your life easier, it won’t seem so sorry that you don’t have a Valentine’s date this year. Create a list of what you do have, and it will help you release the pressure bit by bit. You can also get some New Year’s Resolutions ideas here too!

Lots of Love,

Dina Colada


Dina Colada is a contributing author at Secure Single LLC. You can connect with her at for loads of dating advice and profile makeovers or on Instagram.


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Dina has been mostly single for much of her adult life with lots of dating in between some short, yet growth-centered relationships. She has devoted most of her time to helping singles thrive while on the path to love. She is multi-passionate and loves to connect with other entrepreneurs— Especially ones that are single!
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