Getting the skill of handling the pressure of finding a Valentine’s date when you’re single will trickle out into your daily life. If it feels like it’s just too much pressure, there is a step by step thing you can do let off some steam and let it go. Watch out! She’s ready to blow!

Learning how to handle pressure when you’re single isn’t just about having a Valentine’s date, it’s about everything

Especially if your friends and family say things like, “If he’d only find a nice girl,” or “It’s almost that time of the year again.” How about “You poor thing, o you have Valentine’s date yet honey?”

No Valentine’s Date? How To Handle The Pressure When You’re Single

Nope. Uh-uh. Not even close to having a Valentine’s date. Thanks for reminding me

So, whaddya do then? Let the pressure build up until it feels like it’s eating you from the inside out? Or something else? Let’s go with something else. You can learn some simple life skills right now! The first step of how to handle the pressure of not having a Valentine’s date yet is too. . .

Keep calm

I know this is easier said than done, but if you can keep your composure, no matter what happens, it will put you a step above the annoying questions and comments of not having Valentine’s date.

What do you do if you do lose your cool?

If someone triggers you, pisses you off, or makes you feel insecure and emotional, take a step back. This means hanging up the phone, going to the bathroom or even taking a walk around the block.

Don’t allow what someone else’s opinion or what they say to become your truth. You are the ultimate ruler of your world, and how you respond to anything. When you take responsibility for you, and not the other person, your life will become easier.

Put your focus on whatever takes your mind off not having a Valentine’s date

Focus on what you need to do to be satisfied with yourself right now. Because wherever you are is where you’re supposed to be. And if you do want to be dating someone keep your eye on the prize.

Focus on what you do have instead of what you don’t have

This is hard if you’re used to a lack mindset. Instead of thinking about getting married, or having a Valentine’s date this year, be thankful for what you’ve got.

Yes. Be grateful about anything, and be thankful often.

Another trick is to make a list of things you are thankful for right now

It can be a good friend, your cat or even your pillow. It’s not rocket science. Just take a look around you. You have transportation. If you don’t have a car, you probably have a bus, an Uber, a bike or even a mobility scooter. According to the Heart Math Institute, being grateful helps your emotional well-being.

You have lots of things available to you to make your life easier. Many of these things are at your fingertips. Think about your light switch the running water in your faucet, or your smartphone that gives you access to almost anything in an instant.

When you focus on the things that make your life easier, it won’t seem so sorry that you don’t have a Valentine’s date this year. Create a list of what you do have, and it will help you release the pressure bit by bit. You can also get some New Year’s Resolutions ideas here too!

Lots of Love,

Dina Colada

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!