You may notice that while you are walking down the aisles of the grocery store you can see pink and red balloons, candy hearts, and red roses. Looks like it’s almost Valentine’s Day! *Shrug* But who really cares, as a single person? All that lovey-dovey stuff just seems like a bunch of fluff, and can really make a person sick. What we really want is a night out at the bar with friends, or to stay in while wearing our pj’s and watching House of Cards. Really though, when you’re not a participant, it can be very overwhelming to see all this ‘love in the air’. Get ready, cause we’re about to hold our breath! Need help surviving this season? Check out our ultimate Valentine’s Day survival guide for all the single ladies. 

A Single Ladies Valentine’s Day Survival Guide

Step 1. Learn To Tune It Out

When you’re single it’s nice to not have to worry about taking another out for a fancy dinner. In fact, most millennials are single and being single is on the rise. There is so much pressure from our parents and older generations that make us feel like we ‘have-to’ get into a relationship. People act like you’ve got the plague when you tell them you’re single, and simply reply, ‘Oh honey, let me help you!’ The truth of the matter is that some of us don’t really care. We want to do our thing, be independent, and enjoy ourselves while we’re young, wild, and free. So tune out all that garb, and focus on you!

Step 2. Recognize That Love Can Sometimes Equal Lust

Sometimes people who are in-love’ may just only be ‘in-lust’. So if you’re comparing yourself to the Joneses who seem to have a perfect relationship, realize that everyone has issues. Believe me, if we all put our problems on the street collectively, we would see everyone else’s and run to get ours back! Sometimes relationships make everything much harder. There are some people who are in love, which makes you happy that they’ve found happiness, but there are also others who force it and are just in lust. Be glad you don’t have to navigate those waters as a single guy or gal.

Step 3. Celebrate National Singles Awareness Day with Pride!

With everyone posing on social media all the flowers and chocolates from their Valentine, go forward and post a picture with you and your friends for National Singles Awareness Day! This Valentine’s Day survival guide says that you should also enjoy being single! Couples in love may have their spotlight, but you can have yours as well. Be proud of who you are, your single-status, and your job. Keep moving forward in your life. Relationship statuses don’t matter. Work hard to make things happen, and celebrate yourself every step of the way with your family and friends. Move forward and take this. #FriendsSelfie

Step 4. Be With Friends

If you’re celebrating National Singles Awareness Day, and you’re solo, then pick up the phone to dial a friend. What better way to celebrate a holiday than just to be with your amazing friends who build you up? I would say that’s a pretty good trade. Friendships enrich our lives.

Step 5. Get Ready for Bigger Things

Life is an amazing adventure. When you think bigger, and believe in yourself, you can bring some pretty incredible experiences into your life. Think about what you want to do in your career, with your friendships, and where you want to travel. One step you can do today, is to take a piece of paper out and begin to write out what you want your life to look like. Everything in our lives is a creation of our thoughts, so you want to make sure you are going for bigger and better things. Think big!


It does not matter what kind of single you are, whether recently broken up or a longtime proponent, Valentine’s Day can seem like a lot of fluff. This holiday season, be prepared to focus on other things and get out with your friends. There is more to life than romance, so go find beauty where you can and take your friends with you. Be the best you can be this Valentine’s Day, er I mean, National Singles Awareness Day! Hope this Valentine’s Day survival guide helps you to make the most of the holiday. Treat yourself to good times with friends, Netflix, and candy. Stay secure singles! 



Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
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Danielle has chosen to be single in her walk of life. She experienced dating in her late teens and early twenties, and had always felt each relationship was unfulfilling. To find more meaning in her life, she broke off to go down a path of self-discovery.
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