Everyone knows that Tinder is a completely ruthless hookup app. In our millennial generation, having meaningless-pleasurable sex out of wedlock is super common, and increasingly becoming more popular. There have been rare cases of people finding ‘the one’, but it does happen. If you are just looking to hookup, here is how to honor your emotional boundaries. Tinder is good for bouncing back after breakups, or just getting some goodies if you need it. We live in the insta-now decade, so when in Rome do as the Romans do. Right? Here are five easy ways to use Tinder without getting emotionally involved with someone by learning your boundaries and using the app to find sexual pleasure.
5 Ways Singles Can Use Tinder Emotion Free
No Strings While Traveling
Travelling is something that absolutely necessary. If you have not found a way to travel yet, do so immediately. You need to see as much of the world as possible. So while you are on your travels going solo or in a group, there is no harm in using Tinder to meet other singles on the road. As long as you know this is a one-time instance, go into the initial meeting knowing that you may never see this person again. Be safe and aware of ALL your surroundings. This is a great way to leave no-strings-attached because you are ultimately in a different zip code.
Post-Breakup-Hookup
If you just broke up with your significant other, there is absolutely every reason to be emotionally unavailable. You probably still have needs: company, companionship, physical touch, and sex. You will probably meet other people on Tinder that feel the same. You may even just want revenge sex. After all, the best way to get over someone else is to get on top of another. Forget getting under someone. Get on top. Do what you need to, in a healthy manner, to get over your lover.
Lonely Persons Colonic
If you are a workaholic, then you probably feel lonely from time to time. Work on fulfilling your sexual or companionship desires by using Tinder or other sex websites and apps. You don’t always have to have sex when you go on Tinder to find dates. Sometimes you just need a companion to join you on a simple date. Surrounding yourself with people is a good way to cure any sort of loneliness. Work on serving what serves you and others. Be good company. For moments when you just want to relax and breathe have a conversation with a stranger. This makes Tinder a good way to get connected to new people who may also be looking for a fresh new experience without unnecessary commitments.
Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em
You might just want to sow your wild oats and whey. As long as you are clear with another person what your intentions are, and if their intentions align with yours, no harm will be done. Just know yourself, and work to understand how you will feel after having a sex with a complete stranger. Use protection, always. If you are okay with this sort of behavior, then go forth with confidence. Some people are just wired this way. Make sure you go into the situation with a strong and healthy mental attitude. Sowing your wild oats may just be a phase, so enjoy it and then talk about your wild adventures when you’re older. We all need good campfire stories.
Summary
Think about it in this way, Tinder is quite a useful app! Know yourself, know your worth, and prepare yourself for any situation that may arise. When your values align with who you are, then you can enjoy life more by doing activities that align with who you are. Singles have the opportunity to be emotionally unattached if is a stage in our lives, so enjoy it. Whether you are recovering from break up, wanting to have company, or just need a lot of sex, be clear about your intentions to yourself and your sex partner. Get ready to have fun!
Securely yours,
Danielle
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As someone who is studying cybersecurity and who enjoys technology, I have noticed the rise of technosexuality from software apps to the evolution of more realistic looking sex dolls with artificial intelligence. While each of these offer interesting topics as they relate to developing technology, the connection between technosexuality is of interest in a society that is increasingly becoming more single. There are some concerns that relationship professionals have presented about these increasingly human looking robots, but these same professionals also recognize some of the positive aspects that these dolls can give to people who are lonely and socially isolated. Technosexuality provides singles with an option to have an artificially intelligent robot that they can interact with on multiple levels. Sex tech is on the rise and this is an introduction for singles about sex tech.
The Technosexual Era And The Rise Of Technosexuality: An Introduction
Who is a technosexual and what is technosexuality? A technosexual is usually defined as someone who loves technology over an actual romantic human relationship. The term technosexual is often used to insult someone who enjoys technology, but does not have a romantic partner. Technosexuality, or robosexuality, combines “techno” and “sexuality” denoting a sexual attraction to technology. People who are technosexual are commonly stereotyped are being unattractive, socially unintelligent, and lonely men by society. This stereotype demeans an individual because they really enjoy technology and like to talk about on a level that society believes is only reserved for talking about love, romance, and sex. The stigma attached to technosexuals is similar to those that society places on singles. Both technosexuals and singles do not fit a culture where one must be in a romantic relationship or married to be fully accepted by society in order to fit in.
However, sex technology comes in many different types that can used by both men and women. This breaks down the stereotype that society has constructed that single lonely men are the main users of sex technology. There are many more specialized sex technology devices that are aimed at women. These different devices come in a range of technology from hardware, software, virtual reality, and artificial intelligence to meet the preferences of the user.
The many types of technology components from hardware to hardware to artificial intelligence allows the user to customize the type of experience that they want with their sex tech. The software variety are often apps that help the user to find a friend or a sexual partner such as Tinder, Android After Dark, or MiKandi to only name a few popular mobile applications. In terms of hardware, these are amped up smart version of vibrators and dildos. These virtual reality devices typically combine hardware with software to create a virtual reality experience for the user of their choice. Finally, there is artificial intelligence, that is a machine that is able to learn the preferences of the user or have setting that have realistic reactions to a sexual encounter. The two main examples of the artificial intelligence — which combines hardware, software, virtual reality, and artificial intelligence – are VR Tenga and RealDoll.
Technosexuality presents a range of concerns as well as positive attributes to the human sexual experience according to some relationship experts. The concerns tend to enter the dystopian science fiction realm that humans will become attracted to these robots and humanity will end. However, these relationship experts also recognize that sex tech can make sex more interesting between couples or allow individuals who are single, and maybe lonely, to have an artificially intelligent robot that they can talk to or have a range of relations with to form a human-robot connection. This human-robot relationship has opened up interesting questions that will be explored in the context of singles in this series on technosexulity by Secure Single.