Do you need to have Thanksgiving with friends or family? No! You can have a solo Thanksgiving! If you are unsure how to have a solo Thanksgiving, some essential recipes are below to help you get started!
Solo Thanksgiving
You can have a solo Thanksgiving and enjoy the holidays by yourself. There is nothing wrong with celebrating holidays solo. You can use it as a time to learn to enjoy solitude.
Related – What Is The Difference? Solitude Versus Loneliness
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Frozen Meals
The stereotype of people having holiday meals alone is often eating frozen microwave dinners. You can buck this stereotype by cooking your own Thanksgiving Dinner. After all, you want it to taste good. It will also be healthier. You can visit your local grocery store or butcher to see if they sell individual turkey legs, wings, breasts, and thighs so that you don’t have to cook a whole turkey. Since it is just for you, you can choose your favorite Thanksgiving dinner meal items.
Solo Thanksgiving Recipes
Roasted Turkey Leg
Are you a dark-meat person? Here is a slightly modified version of a roasted turkey leg recipe for one:
Ingredients
- 1 celery stalk, cut into thirds
- 1 turkey leg
- 2 tablespoons of butter
- Salt to taste
- ¼ cup of water, or as needed
Directions
- Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Rinse the turkey legs and pat dry.
- Stand the turkey legs upright (as if the turkey were standing). Press a knife down into the deep tissue, creating 2 or 3 long pockets. Press a piece of celery into each opening. Pull back the skin on the legs, rub it with butter, and season with a bit of salt. Put the skin back into place, rub with more butter, and season lightly with salt. Lay the turkey legs in a roasting pan.
- Roast uncovered for 1 1/2 to 2 hours until the legs are golden brown and the internal temperature is 180 degrees F (82 degrees C) when taken with a meat thermometer. Add more water if needed while roasting, and occasionally baste with the juices or butter.
- Roast until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the turkey leg meat reaches 165 degrees F (74 degrees C), about 1 hour. Cooking time may vary depending on the size of your turkey leg.
Easy-Baked Turkey Wing
Do you prefer wings to legs? Here is an easy-backed turkey wing recipe modified for one portion:
Ingredients
- 1 turkey wing
- ¼ quarter of a small onion, chopped (optional)
- ¼ teaspoon season salt
- ¼ teaspoon poultry seasoning
- ¼ teaspoon ground black pepper or, to taste
- ¼ teaspoon minced garlic
- ½ cups water
- 2 ounces can of cream of mushroom soup
Directions
- Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
- Place turkey wing and onion in a casserole dish; sprinkle with seasoned salt, poultry seasoning, black pepper, and garlic on both sides of the wing. Pour ¼ cup water into the casserole dish and cover.
- Bake in the preheated oven until browned, about 1 hour.
- Stir cream of mushroom soup and ¼ cup water together in a bowl (or follow the directions on the can); pour over turkey wing in the casserole dish and return to the oven, uncovered.
- Continue baking until brown and tender, about 1 more hour.
- Roast until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the turkey wing reaches 165 degrees F (74 degrees C), about 1 hour. Cooking time may vary depending on the size of your turkey wing.
Oven-Roasted Turkey Breast
Are you more of a breast person? Here is an oven-roasted turkey breast recipe modified for one portion:
Ingredients
- ½ cup softened butter
- ½ clove garlic, minced
- ½ teaspoon paprika
- ½ teaspoon
- Italian seasoning
- ¼ teaspoon salt-free garlic and herb seasoning blend (such as Dash®)
- Salt and ground pepper to taste
- 1 turkey breast with skin
- ½ teaspoon minced shallot
- ½ tablespoon butter
- 1 splash of dry white wine
- ½ cup chicken stock
- 5 tablespoons all-purpose flour
- 1 tablespoon half-and-half (optional)
Directions
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
- Mix 1/4 cup butter, garlic, paprika, Italian seasoning, garlic and herb seasoning, salt, and black pepper in a bowl. Place turkey breast with skin side up into a roasting pan. Loosen the skin with your fingers; brush half the butter mixture over the turkey breast and underneath the skin. Reserve the remaining butter mixture. Tent turkey breast loosely with aluminum foil.
- Roast in the preheated oven for 1 hour; baste the turkey breast with the remaining butter mixture. Return to oven and roast until the juices run clear, and an instant-read meat thermometer inserted into the thickest part of the breast, not touching bone, reads 165 degrees F (65 degrees C), about 30 more minutes. Let turkey breast rest for 10 to 15 minutes before serving.
- While the turkey is resting, transfer the pan drippings to a skillet. Skim off excess grease, leaving about 1 tablespoon in the skillet. Place skillet over low heat; cook and stir shallot in turkey grease until opaque, about 5 minutes.
- Melt 1 tablespoon butter in a skillet with shallot and whisk in white wine, scraping any browned bits of food from the skillet. Whisk in chicken stock and flour until smooth. Bring to a simmer, constantly whisking, until thickened. For a creamier, lighter gravy, whisk in half-and-half.
- Roast until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the turkey breast meat reaches 165 degrees F (74 degrees C), about 1 hour. Cooking time may vary depending on the size of your turkey breast.
Stunningly Succulent Turkey Thigh
Do you prefer thighs? You can follow this adjusted turkey thigh recipe for one person:
Ingredients
- 1 large heat-resistant nylon oven bag (such as Reynolds® Oven Bags)
- ¼ tablespoon all-purpose flour
- ¼ onion, cut into 1-inch pieces
- ½ a celery stalk, cut into 1-inch pieces
- ¼ of a large carrot, cut into 1-inch pieces
- 1 turkey thigh
- ¼ tablespoon olive oil
- ½ teaspoon seasoned salt, or to taste
Directions
- Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Sprinkle flour into an oven bag and place it in a 9×11-inch pan.
- Spread onion, celery, and carrot pieces on the bottom of the bag. Rinse turkey thigh and pat dry with paper towels. Rub olive oil under the skin and on the outside of the thighs.
- Sprinkle seasoned salt liberally on the turkey thigh and rub it under the skin. Arrange thighs on top of vegetables. Close the bag with the tie. Make six slits in the top of the bag with a sharp paring knife. Place the pan in the oven, ensuring the oven bag does not touch the top heating element.
- Roast until an instant-read thermometer inserted into the turkey thigh meat reaches 165 degrees F (74 degrees C), about 1 hour. Cooking time may vary depending on the size of your turkey thigh.
Basic Mashed Potatoes
A popular Thanksgiving side is mashed potatoes. You can use instant mashed potatoes, or you can make your own. If you use instant mashed potatoes, you can follow the instruction on the box and adjust the positions. Below is an adjusted mashed potatoes recipe for one person:
Ingredients
- 1/4 pound baking potatoes, peeled and quartered
- 3/4 clove garlic, peeled, or to taste (Optional)
- 1/4 cup of milk
- 1/2 tablespoon of butter
- salt and ground black pepper to taste
Directions
- Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add potatoes and garlic, lower heat to medium, and simmer until potatoes are tender, about 15 to 20 minutes.
- When the potatoes are almost finished, heat milk and butter in a small saucepan over low heat until the butter is melted.
- Drain potatoes and return to the pot. Slowly add warm milk mixture, blending it with a potato masher or electric mixer until the potatoes are smooth and creamy. Season the potatoes with salt and pepper to taste.
Best Green Bean Casserole
Love it or hate it, green bean casserole is a classic Thanksgiving dish. Below is an adjusted green bean casserole recipe for one person:
Ingredients
- 1/2 a can of green beans, drained
- 2 ounces of condensed cream of mushroom soup
- 1/6 cup shredded Cheddar cheese, divided
- 1 ounce of can French-fried onions
Directions
- Preheat the oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C).
- Mix green beans and condensed soup in a large microwave-safe bowl until well combined. Microwave on high until warm, about 3 to 5 minutes.
- Stir 1/6 cup of Cheddar cheese into the green bean mixture. Microwave on high for 2 to 3 minutes.
- Transfer the mixture to a casserole dish and spread it evenly over the bottom. Sprinkle French-fried onions over the top, then sprinkle with remaining Cheddar.
- Bake in the preheated oven until the cheese is melted and the onions are just turning brown, about 10 minutes.
Pick Up Your Favorite Dessert
You could bake a pie, but buying your favorite dessert from your favorite grocery store or local bakery is easier. Stop by your local grocery store or bakery and pick up a pumpkin, pecan, apple pie, or minced meat pie. Whatever happens to be your favorite Thanksgiving pie!
Conclusion
There is no need to have a frozen dinner. You can follow any of these simple solo Thanksgiving recipes to enjoy your Thanksgiving as a single person!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
MeToo is often viewed as the best thing to happen to women since feminism. The negatives of MeToo are often neglected in how it affects the interpersonal relationships between men and women. Here are seven ways how MeToo ruined dating and relationships between men and women.
How MeToo Ruined Dating
What is Gynocentrism?
To understand what led to MeToo, you first must be aware of gynocentrism. Gynocentrism is the foundation of feminism. It is the foundation of modern western culture.
“[Gynocentrism] is a worldview based on the implicit or explicit belief that the world revolves around women. It is therefore the counterpart of androcentrism, a worldview based on the implicit or explicit belief that the world revolves around men. Our point was that gynocentrism has become de rigueur behind the scenes in law courts and government bureaucracies, which has resulted in systemic discrimination against men.” [p. 309] (Katherine K. Young and Paul Nathanson, Legalizing Misandry, 2006)
In brief, gynocentrism is the belief that men must sacrifice themselves for women. Of course, that will look different for each man, but it will require men to sacrifice their manhood, jobs, careers, and masculinity at the altar of the gynocentric social order. It is vital to understand gynocentrism and what a gynocentric society is since single men now live in a society that has built a worldview around gynocentrism.
Related – The Myth of Toxic Masculinity in a Gynocentric Social Order
7 Ways How MeToo Ruined Dating
For singles who may be interested in dating, here are seven ways how MeToo has ruined dating.
Dysfunctional Male And Female Relationships
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Feminism has further divided men and women. MeToo was a way to get rid of trial by jury. Instead of having a fair trial under the law, people were told to trust women. It has negatively affected relationships between men and women. If a man said something or did anything that may come across as wrong, he would be MeTooed. It would not be tried with evidence to see if the story that was told happened by looking at the evidence. This negatively affects due process and the rule of law. It is no wonder some men avoid women in the United States. It is directly a result of feminism and MeToo. It has destroyed the relationships between men and women.
Made Men Not Want To Approach Women
MeToo has made it so that men do not want to approach women any more. Today, a man can be called “creepy” simply for smiling at a woman. Smiling is simply body language signaling that someone is happy and not dangerous. If something as passive as a smile is now taken to mean that a man has bad intentions by women, then men won’t take more active actions like buying a drink at a bar.
Women may find it curious why men are no longer approaching them but are now avoiding them. It is because they are aware of the message that society says about men now that some women believe. Men will not take unnecessary risks when even doing something nice for a woman could result in a false allegation against them. MeToo ruined dating.
False Allegations
With MeToo and the advent of ‘Believe Women,” it is now guilty until proven innocent rather than innocent until proven guilty under the law. The counterpart to “Believe Women” is “disbelieve men?” It is because it was always about women. It is a gynocentric worldview and narrative.
It now goes against the feminist narrative if someone says they did not do what they were alleged to do. If they want to go to court, it is seen as covering up what they supposedly are being blamed for, even when they have not been convicted. These false allegations are allowed since they encourage and prop up the narrative of MeToo. It is now the court of public opinion rather than the rule of law.
Destroyed The Rule Of Law
MeToo has also done away with the rule of law. The rule of law is more important than the court of public opinion. Public opinion can change from day to day. It can vary depending on what propaganda the mainstream media is pushing and telling people to believe. The rule of law is supposed to be objective and protect people’s rights. This is no longer due process. There is no longer a rule of law. There is now only the court of public opinion.
It was innocent until proven guilty. It is now guilty until proven innocent, as with MeToo. It is no longer a fair trial before a court. It is now an emotional trial in the court of public opinion.
Related – 15 Legitimate Reasons Why Single Men Are Choosing To Stay Single And Are Giving Up On Women
Ruin Men’s Careers
MeToo has been used as a way to ruin men’s careers. All it takes is one false allegation from a woman to say the man did something to destroy someone’s career. This can be done now through the court of public opinion over social media, which is different from the rule of law. But, if enough eyeballs see it and enough people believe it, then it must be true.
If it makes women feel validated and get their fifteen seconds of fame and the expense of ruining a man’s career, they will have no problem doing it.
Women may be wondering why men are cautious around them. Men are aware that women can destroy their careers with an allegation that may or may not be accurate. These false accusations have even led some men to kill themselves because women destroyed their careers. They can do it without due process. This is a consequence of MeToo.
Ruin Men’s Lives
When men lose their careers, which they often value the most, they will often have nothing else to live for. Most men get their value from their work. MeToo women have no problem ruining men’s lives. This could result in men having or committing trauma or suicide. MeToo has no problem going after men, even if it will affect their careers. By trying them in the court of public opinion, they put allegations in the spotlight without proof—just someone’s word and the assumption that they are being honest.
In 2018, Genpact India’s assistant vice-president committed suicide after he was suspended on allegations of sexual harassment. Mike Tunison was added to the Shitty Media Men List, lost his career, and contemplated suicide after the false allegations against him. It seems women don’t have any problems ruining men’s lives if it will get them in the limelight for their fifteen seconds of fame.
Feminism Makes Women Stay Single
One of feminism’s goals is to make women equal to men in everything. In doing that, women gave up viewing their femininity as a positive. Women want to work their way up in their careers just like men. Western women are no longer interested in embracing their femininity. In wanting to become equal to men, they indirectly became men by making men their ideal. Feminism has made women unfeminine.
In choosing to go along with feminism, they lost what made women, well, women. They have given up on the female virtues. It is now looked down upon for a woman to want to be a mother and be able to take care of the house, children, and be a mother.
Women stay single longer because they don’t know how to do the basic things that make them attractive to men. The most basic is being feminine. Next is not knowing how to take care of the house and children while the husband works (if they can, but it has become more difficult to work one job by design). The Federal Reserve has intentionally destroyed the middle class.
Conclusion
MeToo has ruined dating. It has also destroyed relationships between men and women. In wanting complete equality and wanting to have their cake and eat it, too, feminists eradicated things as simple as non-verbal communication to something as complex as the legal system. Women should not be surprised if men choose to avoid them. As a result, feminism contributes to men and women staying single longer because it has portrayed men as monsters.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why are people staying single longer? A recent demographic survey found that more single people are now in the United States than last year! Singles are a rising demographic in 2022. There are five reasons people stay single longer.
Single Demographics 2022
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Society portrays being single as a bad time of life. Society says that single is a dirty word. The reality is that being single is wonderful. It does not matter why you may be single. There is nothing wrong with being single! Singles are a rising demographic! According to the United States Census Bureau, singles were nearly 50% of adults in the United States in 2022. That equals roughly 127 million people! Singles are a rising demographic. People are staying single longer.
What Could Be The Reasons Why People Are Staying Single Longer?
What are some of the main reasons people stay single longer? While people may be single for many different reasons, here are five reasons that could make people stay single longer.
Debt
America has a debt-based financial system. Younger generations, from Millennials to younger generations, have gone into debt for things previous generations took for granted. An example is a college education. Millennials were encouraged to go to college. This only put most of them into debt. They get used to being in debt. They accept it as normal. The education system does not teach people the basics of money. Most people need to learn the basics of money so they don’t end up in debt.
They then get into debt which affects other areas of their lives. Common types of unsecured debt that most Americans have include credit cards, medical bills, personal loans, car loans, and student loans. Unsecured debt is a type of debt that is not backed by an asset. In contrast, secured debt is backed by an asset such as a house. These two types of debt may be referred to as good and bad debt. When money must go towards paying off debt, that is less money you can save or invest.
Rising Cost Of Living
The cost of living continues to go up from groceries to real estate. It is now becoming expensive to live, let alone to consider living with another person and potentially starting a family. Add to this the rising costs from inflation that the Federal Reserve says decreased to 7.7% in October. Shadow Stats estimates inflation to be closer to 17.15%. That is the highest in 75 years!
Homeownership is the gateway for how people traditionally begin to build wealth. For most people, most of their wealth is in their house. Millennials and younger generations have been priced out of being able to afford a home. The rising interest rates are making it more difficult to afford a mortgage.
Groceries are becoming more expensive. Rents continue to rise. Utilities continue are continuing to rise. Gas and diesel are continuing to get more expensive. Gas and diesel are input costs that directly affect the prices of goods and services since it is needed to deliver them to stores. The bottom line is that the cost of living continues to rise in the United States.
Related – 12 Causes Of Millennial Burnout
Wage Stagnation
Wages have stagnated since the 1970s. Americans continue to lose purchasing power. Even a small raise will not beat the current inflation rate if employees get a raise. Combine wage stagnation with the rising cost of living, inflation, and it is becoming tough to keep up. It also makes it hard to get ahead. If someone has difficulty providing for themselves, they won’t want to consider providing for another person or want to have a family.
Dysfunctional Male And Female Relationships
Feminism has further divided men and women. MeToo was a way to get rid of trial by jury. Instead of having a fair trial under the law, people were told to trust women. It has negatively affected relationships between men and women. If a man said something or did anything that may come across as wrong, he would be MeTooed. It would not be tried with evidence to see if the story that was told happened by looking at the evidence. This negatively affects due process and the rule of law.
Related – 7 Ways How MeToo Ruined Dating
The rule of law is more important than the court of public opinion. Public opinion can change from day to day. It can vary depending on what propaganda the mainstream media is pushing and telling people to believe. The rule of law is supposed to be objective and protect people’s rights.
It was innocent until proven guilty. It is now guilty until proven innocent, as with MeToo. It is no longer a fair trial before a court. It is now an emotional trial in the court of public opinion.
Women may be wondering why men are cautious around them. Men are aware that women can now destroy their careers with an allegation that may or may not be accurate. These types of false accusations have even led some men to kill themselves because women destroyed their careers. They can do it without due process. This is a consequence of MeToo.
MeToo destroyed dating. Men know that if they look at a woman wrong or even smile at a woman, they may be accused of sexual harassment. Some men may not risk approaching women when they know that a woman can ruin their reputation, career, and entire life if a woman accuses them of sexual harassment.
It is no wonder some men now avoid women in the United States. It is directly a result of feminism and MeToo. It has destroyed the relationships between men and women.
Related – What Is Gynocentrism?
Related – The Myth Of Toxic Masculinity In A Gynocentric Social Order
Related – 15 Legitimate Reasons Why Single Men Are Choosing To Stay Single And Are Giving Up On Women
Fueling The Flames Of Division
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It is no longer the United States of America. It is now the Divided States of America. It has become more challenging to have a rational conversation with someone on topics you may or may not agree on. Emotions have become more important than logic. This has led to an overly emotional society. Rationality is gone. Today, you are either on one side of an issue or viewed as an enemy. This is dangerous. America is now a divided country.
Isms and ists rule the day. If someone does not agree with you, they will label you with the popular ism or ist of the day. Popular ad hominem labels include sexist, misogynist, racist, and bigot. This only creates further division among people.
Since no one will ever fully agree with another person on every issue, meeting and getting along with people is becoming more difficult. People have become more politically polarized because of identity politics. People are naturally tribal, but this polarization fuels the flames of division.
Conclusion
These are the five main reasons why people stay single. Economic breakdown, financial instability, broken relationships between men and women, broken social fabric, and the rule of law have become unstable in the United States. Without certainty, people will look after themselves first. Self-interest and self-preservation are natural human instincts. This negatively impacts singles who may want to date or marry. This creates uncertainty which may make people choose to be single longer. After all, why plan for your future if you can’t afford a house or cannot move up in society?
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Do you get frustrated trying to figure out how to organize a budget? You can set up and manage a budget in many ways. One of the most popular methods is called the 50/30/20 budget. Here is an overview of the 50/30/20 budget for singles.
The 50/30/20 Budget For Singles
What Is The 50/30/20 Budget?
The 50/3020 budget is a popular budgeting rule. The 50/30/20 budget allocates fifty percent of your income towards your needs, thirty percent towards your wants, and then the final twenty percent you save.
How Singles Can Use The 50/30/20 Budget
50% For Needs
The first fifty percent of your income goes towards your needs. Your needs are things that are required for you to live. Your needs will include rent, electricity, natural gas, water, maintenance costs, HOA fees, property taxes, and food. Some other expenses that may be classified as needs could be healthcare, depending on your age and health status. If you have any debt, paying that off as soon as possible would also go under the needs category.
30% For Wants
The second part of your budget, you allocate thirty percent of your income toward things you want. Wants could include buying new clothes, subscribing to a streaming service, going out to eat, or purchasing something you like. You can live without wants, but wants can make life more enjoyable.
20% You Save
The final twenty percent you save. You want to begin to put money each month into your savings account. This will allow you to start to build up savings to cover any emergencies that may come up or to save so you can make a big purchase. Common big purchases are buying a house or a car. You could eventually choose to invest some of your saved money into various investments.
4 Types Of Savings Accounts
There are four main savings accounts to be aware of when you begin to learn about money.
Basic Savings Account
When you open a checking account with your bank, you will likely have the option to choose to open a savings account as well. Investopedia explains that “a savings account is an interest-bearing account held at a bank or other financial institution.” These savings accounts typically pay you a low to modest interest rate so that you get a low rate of return to keep your money in the bank. There may be certain limitations to how much money or how many times you can withdraw your money each month from the bank. You will need to check with your bank to understand the bank’s terms when opening a savings account.
High-Interest Savings Account
Some banks will offer a high-interest savings account. This type of savings account will provide you with a higher interest rate than a standard savings account. Online banks will most often offer these types of accounts. You can research online to find which banks offer high-interest savings accounts and the ones with the highest interest rate.
Certificate Of Deposit (CD)
Another option is to put money into a certificate of deposit (CD) account. Investopedia explains that a “certificate of deposit (CD) is a savings product that earns interest on a lump sum for a fixed period of time… CDs usually have higher interest rates than savings accounts for an incentive for lost liquidity.” You can look around at different banks to compare their CD rates.
Money Market Account (MMA)
The fourth type of savings account is a money market account or a money market savings account, depending on your bank. Investopedia says the “term money market account (MMA) refers to an interest-bearing account at a bank or credit union… Most money market accounts pay a higher interest rate than regular (passbook savings accounts and often include check writing and debit card privileges.” An MMA account may be an option if you want an account that pays you a higher interest rate while letting you use a debit card to make purchases. A money market account combines a savings account and a checking account.
Once You Save Money, You Begin To Invest
Once you have saved enough money in a savings account, you can begin to find ways to invest it. Here are four ways how you can decide to invest your money once you have saved enough over time.
Precious Metals
You can put a certain percentage of your money into precious metals. You have two main options when investing in precious metals: stocks or physical. You will be holding the metals in paper forms via the stock market when you hold stocks. If you decide to buy physical gold or silver, you will use the metals to save money outside the fiat monetary system. Gold has been used throughout history to preserve wealth and pass it down through generations. Silver is often used more for bartering or buying goods and services. Silver may become more valuable since it is used in solar panels and electric cars.
Gold and silver are also commodities. Commodities, particularly gold and silver, have a tangible store of value. This is referred to as commodity money.
Cryptocurrencies
You could also decide to invest a certain percentage of your income into cryptocurrencies. The most well-known cryptocurrency is Bitcoin. There are also privacy coins that you can invest in if you are more privacy conscience. The most well-known privacy coin is Monero. As with anything, you must do your due diligence when deciding what cryptocurrency to invest in. There are meme coins, just as there are meme stocks. Cryptocurrencies provide a decentralized solution to the traditional fiat system.
Invest In The Stock Market
Another option is to invest in the stock market. The two main types of stocks you can buy in the stock market are value and growth stocks. Value stocks are companies that have a consistent long-term track record of doing well as companies. Value stocks will often pay you a dividend for holding shares in a company. Dividends are one way how you can begin to make passive income.
Growth stocks are another option. Wallstreet Mojo defines growth stocks as “stocks of a company’s shares with a high price-to-earnings ratio but yield capital gains in the long term for an investor, higher than the market average. Such stocks reflect those companies in a portfolio that generate higher sales and earnings for its investors but do not pay dividends.” In short, growth stocks have the potential to give you a higher return on your investment compared to value stocks, but you have a higher risk that a company may not perform well to beat the market average. You must also sell the stock at a higher position in the market than when you purchased it.
Start An Online Business
Your final option is to use the money you have saved to start an online business. A business will give you the highest return on investment, but it also has the most risk compared to the previous options. Today, the cost of starting a business is drastically lower due to the Internet. You only need to be able to start a website. You can then find creative ways to make money by selling products and services to making money from advertisements and affiliate programs. Your only limit is your imagination.
Conclusion
The 50/30/20 budget is an easy starting place for singles to start who want to begin to follow a budget. After you have saved enough money, you can then begin saving money in different savings accounts. You can later start to invest in building up your net worth and preserve the capital you have built over time.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why do you need to be aware of gynocentrism when it has become accepted as the prevailing view in modern society? It can help you better understand how current society functions and operates. This can help you to make better decisions and choices when dealing with others while navigating your way through modern society.
What Is Gynocentrism?
What is Gynocentrism? Gynocentrism (noun) is the “Dominant or exclusive focus on women in theory or practice; or to the advocacy of this. Sometimes practiced to the detriment of non-females.” Gynocentric (adjective) is “Anything can be considered gynocentric when it is concerned exclusively with a female (or specifically a feminist) point of view.” In sociology, Gynocentrism is “A pervasive cultural complex geared to prioritizing women and their interests.” The Oxford English Dictionary defines gynocentric (adjective) as “Centered on or concerned exclusively with women; taking a female (or specifically a feminist) point of view.”
“[Gynocentrism] is a worldview based on the implicit or explicit belief that the world revolves around women. It is, therefore, the counterpart of androcentrism, a worldview based on the implicit or explicit belief that the world revolves around men. Our point was that Gynocentrism has become de rigueur behind the scenes in law courts and government bureaucracies, which has resulted in systemic discrimination against men.” [p. 309] (Katherine K. Young and Paul Nathanson, Legalizing Misandry, 2006)
This worldview leads to gynocentric feminism. It creates a gynocentric social order.
In brief, gynocentrism is the belief that men must sacrifice themselves for women. Of course, that will look different for each man. Gynocentrism requires men to sacrifice their manhood, jobs, careers, and masculinity at the altar of the gynocentric social order. It is vital to understand Gynocentrism and what a gynocentric society is since single men find themselves now living in a society today that is built on the gynocentric worldview.
Related – 15 Legitimate Reasons Why Men Are Choosing To Stay Single Longer And Are Giving Up On Women
5 Problems With Gynocentrism
Women Must Be Able To Do Everything Men Can Do
Gynocentrism pushes women to go into all areas of life, especially where men have often been prominent. It is now looked down upon for a woman to want to become a wife or want to stay home if she may get married. It is better to work their way up in a career than men. Women can do everything a man can do. They can do anything and everything better than men! This view makes women compare themselves to men. There can be no differences between men and women. Men and women cannot have unique strengths or weaknesses in modern society. Men and women cannot have different roles in society. Women must be equal to men in every way.
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Changes The Values Of A Society
The values of a society change from emphasizing what have been more male virtues of courage, strength, risk, and honor to feminine values of cooperation and tolerance. A society based upon cooperation and tolerance places equality above all else. A society that only continues to make everyone equal will eventually become a poor society. Each person is innately different, coming from a unique background and offering different sets of skills. Yet, gynocentrism wants to make everyone equal, which means that some people can’t have a nicer house, work a better-paying job, or live what is perceived as a better job. Everyone must be equal, which means they must be equally poor.
Women place a priority on safety over taking risks. There is nothing wrong with that, but risk leads to innovation. Suppose a culture is a risk-averse culture. In that case, it will remain stagnant and fall behind other countries that do not have problems with risk. Those countries recognize that is how the next discovery or invention is made.
Instead of tension between the natural masculine and feminine natures within society, modern society pressures people to embrace feminism and everything that goes along with it. If someone does not embrace feminism or disagrees with aspects of it, they are automatically labeled as a misogynist or said they are an enemy of progress. This further breaks down society because people can no longer have disagreements or different views on issues. If someone disagrees about something, they are automatically attacked rather than being able to have a rational discussion on or about a topic. That is what we see today with identity politics.
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Changes The Structure Of Society
Women wanted to do everything that men were required to do. In the past, men were required to provide for their families. Now, women can do that themselves. Women can now do that by going to college as men can. Women now outnumber men in college admissions. The majors that colleges now emphasize are usually what has been associated with being of interest to women. The degrees women get from colleges are most often in soft majors, not hard majors like STEM studies, compared to men. The majors that women most often choose are the ones that have a lower earning potential. Men are now losing interest in college and were estimated to “represent only 41 percent of college enrollees” by 2020.
Creates An Emotional Society
A society that is built around gynocentrism will become an emotional society. This is because women are more emotional than men. Two main reasons are biologically related to hormones, and women’s brains differ from men’s. Men use the left side of their brains more, while women have a stronger corpus callosum than men.
If a society becomes built around women and emphasizes all things woman, it will become a more emotional society. It will place empathy, compassion, and feelings over becoming the best at something. This has implications related to areas such as military and national defense. Society will then normalize that people can be whatever they want to identify with because that is how they feel. Biology does not matter. Emotions control society and all areas of life.
Creates A Victim Mentality Within Society
As emotion and equality reign supreme over logic and hard work, people in society begin to adopt a victim mentality. Instead of thinking that they must work for what they want or have, they start to believe that it is unfair that they don’t have what others have. They then want to find ways to deal with this natural inequality by asking the government to tax successful people and redistribute their money and give it to them.
A victim mentality makes someone remain stuck. It does not allow people to grow and develop into a better version of themselves. They will blame others or things for where they are in life instead of accepting personal responsibility for their actions and choices.
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Conclusion
Gynocentrism is the predominant worldview of modern society. If a man, or even a woman, says anything negative about feminism or that there are differences between men and women, they will likely get canceled. Modern society has become emotional. This can be traced back to gynocentrism which encompasses every aspect and area of modern society today.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why would someone be single by choice? There are many different reasons why a person could be single. This article will answer the question, what does it mean to be single by choice?
What Does It Mean To Be Single By Choice?
Single by choice means that someone has decided to be single. They enjoy being single and everything that comes with the single life.
Why Would Someone Be Single By Choice?
Someone who is single by choice could have decided they prefer being single instead of being involved in romantic relationships. They have decided that they like the single life instead of dating, living with a partner, or making the decision to get married.
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Is There Anything Wrong With Being Single By Choice?
No, there is nothing wrong with someone deciding to be single by choice.
Are There Any Negative Views Of People Who Are Single By Choice?
The negative views of people who are single by choice are from society. Society pushes the narrative that everyone must date, marry, have two and a half kids, and then get a house with a white picket fence. Those who are single by choice go against that societal narrative, so they are presented as being less than people who are dating, living with a partner, married, or have children.
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Where Can Someone Who Is Single By Choice Be From?
Someone who single by choice can be from anywhere in the world.
Who Can Be Single By Choice?
Both men and women can be single by choice. They only need to decide that they prefer being single and have no interest in pursuing romantic relationships.
When Can Someone Be Single By Choice?
It can be a decision that can be made at any time in life. Some could have gotten out of a bad romantic relationship and decided they don’t want to be involved anymore, so they want to remain single. Another person may have always enjoyed being single and made the decision sometime in their life to be single by choice.
How Can Someone Make The Most Of Being Single By Choice?
For someone who is single by choice, there are four main areas they can focus on developing to make the most of being single.
Relationships
People are naturally social creatures, which makes relationships important. However, not all relationships are romantic. You can focus on four types of relationships as a single.
Intrapersonal
The most important relationship is the one with yourself. You can work to develop self-confidence. You can work to get your self-worth from your accomplishments. The sooner you can learn your strengths, weaknesses, and what you are passionate about, the quicker you will be able to get to where you want to be.
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Friends
You can work to develop quality friendships with people. You can have a range of friendships, from acquaintances to best friends. The acquaintances will be people you may casually see or meet going to bars or restaurants. You may have some closer friends you know better because you have similar interests or values. You may even have a best friend.
If you can find a best friend, then consider yourself lucky. Many people do not have a close or a best friend. You likely share many things in common with that person who may be a best friend from common values, shared worldview, and have known the friend for a long time. You have been able to maintain and deepen that friendship over time.
Family
You can also spend time with your family. It could be with your parents or siblings if they live nearby. Of course, not all families get along. Family is a built-in natural social connection that you can utilize to be social. You could do weekly, or monthly Skype calls. You could go over to your parents’ or siblings’ house for dinner once a month.
Community
You can also work to find a community where you live. A good starting place to find a community to get involved in today is Meetup. You can find a Meetup group around one of the main interests in your area. You can then find a group and meet new people.
Another way is to get involved by doing activities around your core interests. You may enjoy exercising, so you could meet people at the gym or in a yoga class. You may be spiritual or religious, so that you could meet people on a spiritual retreat or at a local church.
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Health
You will also have more time to focus on your health when you are single. You can focus on three main areas of health.
Diet
You can figure out a diet that fits your lifestyle. There are a variety of diets available today that you can try. You can pick the one that works best with your lifestyle and the health goals you want to achieve. Popular diets include the Mediterranean Diet, Carnivore Diet, Keto Diet, Vegetarian Diet, Vegan Diet, and Paleo Diet. You can consistently exercise to help you reach your health and fitness goals.
Exercise
You can regularly exercise. You could go for a walk each day. You could go on a hike. You could go to the gym for more serious workouts. Exercise, along with following a diet, will help you to lose weight and look your best. It can also help lower blood pressure. When you exercise consistently, you will begin to feel and look better.
Gym
You can build your own gym or join a gym near you. A gym can provide a form of community when you begin recognizing regulars at your gym. If you want to improve your form when lifting weights or work to reach a specific goal, you could consider working with a personal trainer. You can also go to the gym regularly to work to meet different goals, such as losing weight, getting ripped, or wanting to get lean.
Solo Travel
There are many ways that you could solo travel. Here are two simple options when it comes to solo travel.
Explore Your Area
You can begin by exploring the area where you live. This could be the town or city where you live. You could try different bars and restaurants and attend events in your area. Once you have become familiar with your area, you could expand and explore further by traveling to another city or state and throughout your country.
Travel To A Different Country
Is there a country that you have always wanted to explore? You can also travel to a country. You could figure out a country that sounds interesting to you. You can then research the requirements to visit the country. Then you can get your passport and necessary travel documents in order. You can then plan your trip by going through a travel agency or booking your flights, hotel or Airbnb to stay at, and sites that you want to see on your trip.
Money
Money makes the world go round. It is also needed to live. Here are four ways to begin to manage and grow your money.
Save Money
You can save a percentage of your monthly paycheck or yearly income. You can save a minimum of ten percent. You could also follow the 50/30/20 budgeting rule that says to have fifty percent of your income go towards your needs like rent and food. Then thirty percent goes towards your wants like entertainment. The final twenty percent goes into your savings account. Once you have enough money saved, you can invest or start your own venture. A good starting number to aim for is to save $30,000. That can then be your emergency or FU Fund.
Find Side Hustles
You can find side hustles to work alongside your full-time job to earn extra money. You could potentially turn this into your full-time thing once it gets going enough to replace your current job. Some common side hustles include Uber and GrubHub. You could also do some freelancing on the side through UpWork or Fiverr to earn extra money. You could be a virtual assistant, write articles, copywriting, analytics, and anything else that you may enjoy or have skills at to make extra money. Your side hustle could later turn into your full-time gig. You could also start your own website or YouTube Channel.
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Build Up Your Net Worth
You want to continually find ways to build up your net worth. You could invest in the stock market. You could learn about value and growth stocks. You could learn about cryptocurrency. You could invest in real estate. You could also start your own business. Today, a business does not need to be a brick-and-mortar physical business; you could start an online business.
Find Ways To Create Multiple Passive Income Streams
In the Internet Age, there are many ways to create passive income streams. The problem with relying on one employer’s income stream is that it can vanish anytime. That is why it is a good idea to find ways to make passive income streams. You can make money today from advertisements, affiliate programs, self-publishing a book, creating and selling digital products, consulting, and your imagination is your only limit. The only thing stopping you is you.
Conclusion
Single by choice is only one of many reasons why a person could be single. The person who is single by choice has just decided that they enjoy being single. They enjoy the single life the most and feel that dating and getting married is not for them. There is nothing wrong with that.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Is it possible for you to have a thriving social life as a single? Absolutely yes! It will take some work, but you can have a social life as a single. You can develop a relationship with friends, people in your community, and the most important relationship, which is with yourself.
15 Ways To Have A Thriving Social Life As A Single
Rising Single Demographics
Contrary to how society portrays being single, it is not a dirty word. There is nothing wrong with being single! In fact, singles are a rising demographic! Currently, nearly 50% of adults in the United States are single. That roughly equals 127 million people! With that many people single, you can surely meet other people to have a thriving social life!
How You Can Have A Thriving Social Life As A Single
You have more time available to figure out where and how you want to spend your time as a single. Here are fifteen ways to have a thriving social life as a single.
Find A Hobby
You can explore a hobby. Explore a hobby. You can use your time single to try new things, including new hobbies. You could learn to knit. You could learn to build your computer. You could find new ways to make passive income. It should be something that you enjoy doing. A hobby should not be a source of stress. You can then use your hobby as a way to meet other people who also enjoy that hobby.
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Try New Things
Don’t be afraid to try new things. After all, this is how you figure out whether you like something. You can meet others who share the same interests and hobbies, share your same values, or share your same ambitions and goals. You can go to events in your area to meet new people. You could go to a bar, restaurant, or social event that sounds fun. You could go to a museum, see a ballet, or go to a concert. You could join a book club. You have many options. Just don’t be afraid to try new things. That is how you learn.
Find Likeminded People
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You can spend time with like-minded people. These will be people who share similar interests, beliefs, values, and worldviews. They will likely have similar views as you regarding politics, economics, and philosophy. They will probably be working towards similar life goals as you. You want to surround yourself with like-minded people who share your values and want to achieve the same things in life as you.
Nurture Quality Friendships
As you find like-minded people, you can start to nurture quality friendships. These are friendships that are important to you. You will likely want to nurture friendships with people who think and have similar values and goals as you. Your five closest friends are a reflection of you. Choose your friends wisely and ensure you are not friends with superficial people.
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Find A Mentor
Find a mentor in whatever it is that you may be interested in. It could be a business mentor. It could be a spiritual mentor. It could be a mentor from whom you can learn life lessons since a mentor is often older than the mentee. If you can find a mentor, it can save you lots of time and potentially save you from making horrible life decisions. The problem is that most people don’t have time to mentor someone because they have their problems to worry about.
Develop A Community
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You can go to many places to begin building a community. A community will help you to make connections with people. Here are seven ways to begin to build a community around you.
Health Community
These are people who are interested in all things around health. They could be interested in naturopathy, Western medicine, Chinese medicine, or herbal remedies. If you enjoy these types of topics and discussions, you can look to find where these types of people meet.
Mental Health Community
You could also develop a mental health community. These are people who enjoy topics related to mental health. It could be therapy. It could be strategies to deal with mental health problems. They may also be interested in solutions to deal with mental health.
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Exercise Community
These are people who enjoy exercising and staying fit. They are interested in health as it relates to exercise. You could meet these people at your gym. You could meet them going out on a hike. You could also meet them during a yoga class.
Volunteer Community
Another way to meet people is by volunteering. You could volunteer for a non-profit. You could volunteer for a political campaign. You could volunteer at a church. You could also help your neighbor who lives next door or is in your neighborhood. Volunteering is another way to meet people.
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Spiritual Or Religious Community
If you are spiritual or religious, this is another way to get involved in your community. You can find a religious organization or church with groups you want to be a part of. You could help by seeing if they need any volunteers, or you could start your own group within the religious organization to meet other people.
Professional Community
Networking is vital to professional development. You can get involved with the professional community where you live. You can find Meetup networking events in your area. You could also go to the types of places that people with your professional background may be known to hang out at. You can also use online tools like LinkedIn to network with other professionals in your field. Networking is important.
Online Community
You can also build an online community. While an online community is not as beneficial to health as meeting people in person, there are still reasons to have an online community. You can make an online community by finding Facebook Groups where people who share your interests are a part of you. You can also find online professional groups on LinkedIn. In those groups, you can learn things from others or find information that may be useful to you. If you can, try to meet some of these people in these online groups in real life if any of them live near you.
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Get To Know The People You Rely On For Food
You can also get to know the people you rely on for food. You could meet people at your local farmer’s market. You could get to know farmers in your area. You could also get to know ranchers near or around where you live. This can help you get locally sourced food while making relationships with your local farmers, ranchers, and food producers. These types of relationships can help you become less reliant on big grocery store chains in case of supply chain issues.
For example, you could buy a whole or half of a cow from a local rancher and split the cost between your friends. You could then store the meat in your freezer. You may even get it at a lower price than your big chain grocery store because you bought it in bulk from a rancher.
Local Harvest has a search bar on its website to help you find and connect with your local farmers, ranchers, and farmers’ market in your area.
Learn To Enjoy Solitude
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Ultimately, the most important relationship is the one with yourself. If you cannot spend time alone in solitude, you may want to try to learn to enjoy it. Solitude can help with creativity. It can make you more productive. It can free you from distractions. You will find yourself achieving your goals when you spend time in solitude. This is because you are not constantly spending time with other people. When you spend more time in solitude then, you will begin to accomplish your goals because you are focusing on yourself.
Focus On Yourself
Learn to focus on yourself. Always be looking to find ways to improve yourself. It could be learning new skills or continuing to hone a skill you have already mastered. It could also be finding ways to build new revenue streams, from starting a side hustle to finding creative ways to make passive income. It could be moving to a less expensive state or even a less expensive country if you have the income and mobility to do so. You can do more than society tells you that you can do. It would help if you focused on your goals. You can begin to focus on yourself to achieve what you want in life.
Conclusion
You have many different options for how you can have a thriving social life as a single person. You can make friends with like-minded people. You can find ways to get involved with your local community. You can also work on developing an intrapersonal relationship by spending time in solitude and focusing on yourself.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why do people continue to vote when they complain and get frustrated by politicians? I originally got a political science degree because I thought politics made a difference. After a few election cycles, I have concluded that my vote does not matter. Here are fifteen reasons why I no longer vote.
15 Reasons Why I No Longer Vote
Statistically Insignificant
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Political campaigns market to their constituents by saying things like “you’re vote matters” and “one vote makes all the difference.” But is that really true? If you look statistically at the data. Their argument does not hold up. A vote may make a difference between three friends deciding where to go for dinner. Each person has an opportunity to become a swing vote to decide where to go out to dinner. It is less statistically significant when your vote is one among thousands or millions of votes cast for an election.
In 2020, 61% of Americans voted in the Presidential Election. The current American population is just over 335 million. That breaks down to 21,350,000 people voted in 2020. One vote gets lost among the millions of votes cast. It even gets lost among the thousands to millions of votes that may be cast in local-to-state elections. That is what I mean when I say voting is statistically insignificant.
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External Distraction
Politics is an external distraction. It is a way to distract the masses from choosing a political side. This is a clever strategy to keep people from focusing on improving themselves. They instead want a politician to solve their issues. Politicians only make things worse for the common person.
Political Theater
Politics is another form of theater. It is more entertaining to watch than movies or television. The titles of the bills usually pass do the opposite of what they are marketed to the people as doing. Case in point, the Inflation Reduction Act will do precisely the opposite. It is merely an excuse for the government to print more money, creating inflation! The ridiculous things politicians get away with saying are worse than badly written soap operas.
Are Politicians Idiots Or Evil? Pick Your Poison
After 2020, more people should be asking themselves a straightforward question. Are politicians idiots or evil? Politicians and government agencies like the CDC caused economic and financial terrorism by forcing small businesses to shut down and people to remain in their homes. At the same time, multinational corporations like Amazon were able to stay open. Never forget the lives, incomes lost, businesses destroyed, and the mental health of everyday people that politicians ruined in the name of “15 days to slow the spread.” On top of that, politicians of both parties like Ted Cruz, Dr. Deborah Birx, Governor Newsom, Austin Mayor Steve Adler, and other politicians broke their covid restrictions to do something that you or I were told not to do. But are they rules when there are two sets of rules? There is one set of rules for politicians and the ruling class. There is then a second set of rules for common people.
Personality Type That Goes Into To Politics
Politics attracts a particular personality type. The actions by politicians over the last two years should not be a surprise. I know this on a close level because I had a former friend who was involved in politics. He helped a campaign for a 2016 political candidate. He seemed to have connections with people who were a few degrees away from key political players and people in political news. He told me that behind closed doors, all the people who put up a friendly façade for people have some type of vice that, if it were found, people would lose respect for them. He then told me that if it was found out that he told me about this, he wasn’t sure what would happen to him. Sounds like House of Cards to me.
Politicians, at the end of the day, only care about getting reelected. This means they only care about power. They have no problem crushing the ordinary person to maintain and keep their power.
While politicians don’t produce anything, they can get away with insider trading. Glenn Greenwald found that Nancy and Paul Pelosi were making millions in stock trades in companies she actively regulated. Don’t worry. Republicans like Dan Crenshaw and Austin Scott play the same insider trading games. If we did that, we’d be thrown in jail. It’s OK for politicians to do. The public accepts it as normal behavior too!
The bottom line is that the bigger government gets the personality, it will attract those who only care about power. That means that politics naturally attracts sociopaths and psychopaths.
Politicians Don’t Produce Anything
Politicians don’t produce anything of value, yet people are in awe of politicians. Politicians don’t produce any goods or services that better the lives of people. They only write and argue over passing laws that make people’s lives worse.
Waste Of Time
It is a waste of my time to look into each political candidate. It wastes my time to figure out their position on issues. Once a politician is elected, I can’t control how they vote or why they voted a certain way. They vote on issues or problems I don’t have any control over. It is not worth my time to worry about it.
Can’t Control The Outcome
Since I can’t control how a politician is, I can’t control the political outcome. I can’t control the outcome of whom people vote for, so there is no point for me in using my time to fill out a ballot. It is out of my control.
Can’t Control Politicians
I also am unable to control the politician. I can’t handle what politician does after getting elected behind open or closed doors to pass laws and regulations. I can’t hold who a politician meets with. I can’t control who will influence a politician’s decision. It will likely be from a special interest group or a lobbyist. It will have more influence than your vote in deciding the outcome of a bill that politicians are trying to pass or kill. There is a revolving door between politicians and big business. The nicer, more politically correct term thrown around today calls it a public-private partnership between the government and private businesses. The real name for that is fascism. Welcome to America!
The Myth Of The Greater Good
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Politicians push the lie of the greater good. The greater good is a fallacy. The myth enables them to pull the wool over people’s eyes. It sounds good to think there is a greater good if people all work together towards something, but that is not reality. There is always more than one option that politicians present to voters.
The Myth Of Politicians As Public Servants
Politicians are not public servants. They will always look out for themselves and put their self-interest first, just like anyone else, to get ahead and get what they want. For American politics, that will mean amassing fortunes without producing anything while also working to gain ever more political power. Self-interest is natural to humans. To think that a politician would not let go of self-interest for the “common good” or to help their political constituents is childish thinking.
Voting Is A Vote To Support The Current System
In its most basic form, voting means accepting the current system. It also says that you acknowledge that you are okay with there being a ruling class over you. Who is this ruling class? It is made up of politicians, bureaucrats, and unelected officials in government agencies. Politicians of either party always like to say that the United States will end if the other party gets elected. I admit that I am bearish in the United States, but I don’t see a political solution to solving the problems in the United States. America is a declining and collapsing empire. Remember, Rome did not fall in a night. It took time.
Casting A Vote Means You Support Having Someone Rule Over You
When you cast a vote for a politician, you support being ruled over by another person. It does not matter what the party affiliation is of the politician. I refuse to let someone rule over me. The current economic and political system has already made it difficult enough for young people to be able to get ahead and become successful.
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Passing Off Your Responsibility To Someone Else
When you think that your vote matters and that politicians make a difference, you pass off your responsibility to someone else. You are then hoping they will be able to make a big enough difference within the bloated political system of elected and unelected officials.
Focus On What I Can Control
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Ultimately, politics is a distraction that takes me away from the things I have control over. I cannot control if the taxes will go up or down. I cannot control if they will vote this way or that way on a social issue. Instead of filling out a ballot or listening to what a politician is saying at a rally, I would rather spend that time working to improve myself. That means working to better myself by being healthy, exercising, improving my social skills, and finding ways to build up my net worth. Anything that takes away from those things, especially politics, wastes my time. If more people had thought like this, they would have vastly improved their own lives and the lives of others instead of waiting on politicians for solutions.
Conclusion
Politicians do not deserve my respect. They are the last people I trust to get a job done successfully. They are professional liars. Politicians only make things worse by creating more laws, regulations, and rules that people must try not to break. They make it harder for small business owners to allocate capital by passing new tax regulations. Politicians are the last people I want to spend time with, get a drink with, or do anything with because they make my life more complex and the life of the everyday person more difficult.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why does society make people feel frustrated about being single? Can you be happy single? Yes, you can be happy single! Here are thirty ways you can be happy single!
30 Ways To Be Happy Single!
Mindset Shift
Mindset is everything! If you have a poor mindset, you remain stuck where you are. Her are three types of mindsets to be aware of.
Change How You Think About Being Single
You can work to shift your mindset regarding how you view being single. Society presents being single in a negative light.
It will ultimately depend on you if you can change your mindset regarding how you think about being single. How do you view being single? Once you shift your perspective, your life changes for the better.
Fixed Mindset
A fixed mindset limits your options. It makes you stay where you are because you believe you can’t do things. A fixed mindset uses statements such as “I can’t do x” or “I’m unable to do x because of [insert excuse].” Another problem with a fixed mindset is that a person with a fixed mindset often believes that skills and knowledge are set from birth. This means that they must naturally be talented at something to become successful. They are unable to improve themselves through development or growth.
Growth Mindset
In contrast to the fixed mindset is the growth mindset. A growth mindset uses statements such as “I can do something” or “I can do it. I need to learn how.” A growth mindset recognizes that skills and talent can be learned. When you have a growth mindset, you continually work to improve yourself in different areas of your life.
Solo Travel
One of the many benefits of being single is having the freedom of a single life. You can enjoy your space as a single person by traveling! It could mean traveling to a nearby city. It could mean visiting another state. It could mean traveling to another country. Don’t be afraid to travel or to talk to a stranger because you never know what could happen.
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Life Experiences
Traveling is a great way to gain valuable life experience. It may mean going on a trip to another country and creating memories you remember for the rest of your life. Another way could be going out to talk to people at a bar, lounger, or restaurant so that you can also have engaging life experiences. Your life experiences set you apart from your peers more than a college degree.
Life Lessons
You learn vital essential life lessons. Whether driving to a nearby town, going on a solo trip, or from people you meet in the city where you live. If you pay attention to what people tell you, especially those older, you can learn from their mistakes and become successful in life sooner.
Learn From Others
You can learn from others when you talk to someone online, at a bar, or when you meet someone on a trip abroad. You can learn from another country’s culture and traditions when you travel abroad that are different from your home country. You can also learn from others you meet by having a conversation with other people whom you meet. They may tell you stories that you can learn from. They may say to you precisely what they regret doing in their life. They may also teach you valuable skills that you may later use in life. It is up to you whether you want to heed the life lessons and learn from others or to learn things the hard way by learning things on your own.
Relationships
Romantic relationships get the most attention, but there are both positive and negative relationships to be aware of on your journey to being happy single.
External Validation
Relationships, no matter the type, are a form of external validation. Most people have friends so that they can do things that they don’t have to be alone. People seem to think that there is a problem with spending time alone. When you get validation from others, you may find yourself over-socializing. This will result in you spending less time learning hard skills and working on yourself.
Relationship With Yourself
The most complicated relationship to have is with yourself. You know all your weaknesses, shortcomings, and regrets. If you cannot accept yourself, you continue to be hard on yourself. You continue to be your own worst enemy.
Once you shift the mindset to accepting yourself and having a relationship with yourself by knowing yourself, you begin to succeed. You can start to have a more positive outlook on life. You begin to feel better about yourself. You also start to feel less stressed about not being in a romantic relationship and embrace being single—a mindset in everything. Until you truly know and accept yourself, you remain stuck.
Friends
Friends are the family you can choose. It depends on whether they are good or bad friends. You want to surround yourself with people who share similar values and goals. This is harder because it requires time to build new relationships with people. It then takes time to maintain a relationship with friends.
Family
Family is a naturally built-in social connection that you have. While no family is perfect, it is often easier to have conversations with your family than to spend time getting to make a new friend.
Community
You can also find ways to get involved in your community. Community is not as fixed as friendship or family because what community means and looks like depends on each individual. For some, it may mean making some casual friends out at their favorite bar, and for others, volunteering for political campaigns or a non-profit organization and spending time at the park or gym. An individual is responsible for finding, building, and choosing their community. It is then up to them how much they want to be involved or dedicate to it.
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Negative Relationships
While there are positive relationships, you can also have negative relationships with people Here are two types of negative relationships to be aware of.
Toxic People
Toxic people can be friends, family, coworkers, or people who make you feel bad about yourself. Examples of toxic people include narcissists, drama kings or queens, and people who think they are always right. It is essential to be able to identify toxic people. You then want to remove them from your life. They only hold you back.
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Superficial Friends
While friends are good to have, you need to be aware of superficial friends. Superficial friends are shallow people. They do not add any value to your life. You find yourself going out to a bar or restaurant with them only to discover yourself repeatedly having the same conversation. It gets boring. It is also a waste of time and money to stay friends with a superficial person. Superficial friends may not necessarily be toxic, but they are time wasters. Similar to toxic people, you may want to consider ending your superficial friendships.
Health
One of the ways that you can begin to feel better about yourself is to focus on your health. Here are three main ways to focus on your health.
Diet
A healthy diet is vital in helping you feel and look your best. A balanced diet helps to give your body the fuel it needs to work effectively. You will be more susceptible to illnesses if you don’t consume a well-balanced diet. There are many popular diets that you can choose from depending on your lifestyle and dietary restrictions. Here are some popular diets: carnivore, vegan, vegetarian, Keto, and the Mediterranean diet.
Exercise
Along with following a healthy diet, exercising regularly is also essential. Exercise helps you to lose weight, get the blood flowing in your body, and makes you feel better. Some ways to get exercise are to go for daily walks, ride a bike instead of driving, go on a hike, or go to the gym.
Gym
You can join a gym which will give you access to more types of weights, machines, and cardio equipment. Access to more equipment will provide you with more options and make it easier to work towards your health goal. It could be losing weight, getting fit, or building muscle. You can then consistently go to the gym to begin to work to meet your personal health goal. Going to the gym is also a good way to teach yourself self-discipline since you will start to see results for your consistency over time.
Money
Money makes the world go round. It also is needed to live. You can learn money basics before moving on to more advanced money practices. Here are four fundamental things to work on when managing and growing money.
Budget
You can begin to follow a budget. A budget helps you manage and grow your money over time. A popular budget to mind is the 50/30/20 budget. The 50/30/20 budget works by allocating fifty percent of your income to your needs, thirty percent to your wants, and twenty percent to automatically go into your savings account. Your needs include paying rent, utility bills, and groceries every month. Your wants would be going to a bar or restaurant, a subscription to an entertainment service, or buying new clothes you may want but don’t need. You then put the final twenty percent of your monthly income into your savings account to save for a rainy day or build your FU Treasure Chest.
Savings
As you begin to save money each month, you can start to build up your savings account. While a savings account doesn’t give you high-interest today, it is still a good starting point until you become more sophisticated. Once you have enough money in your savings account to cover a year’s worth of expenses, you can begin to put some of the money from your savings into a high-interest savings account, certificate of deposit, and a money market account. These are low-risk ways to earn more interest without taking on many risks.
Investing
Once you have enough money saved and invest in basic low-risk accounts, you can start to learn about investing. You can begin to learn about the stock market, cryptocurrency, and real estate and even consider starting your own business. There are different types of stocks that you can buy. Two common types are dividend-paying stocks and growth stocks. You can also consider cryptocurrency as a way to get outside the financial system. Another option is to invest in precious metals like gold, silver, and platinum as a tool for wealth preservation. You can also consider investing in real estate. Real estate is a way to generate passive income from a tenant.
The final option is to start your own business. Today you have two options when it comes to starting a business. You can have a physical business or an online business. You may have fewer risks and encounter fewer startup costs than a physical business. There are many creative ways to create income streams for an online business today. You can also make money from advertisements on websites or from a YouTube Channel. One of the great benefits of having an online business is that you can work from anywhere in the world, so you can decide to live in a less expensive country.
Develop In-Demand Skills
You can work to develop skills that are in demand. You could learn tech skills. You may want to learn a trade skill. You may even like to learn business skills to become an entrepreneur to start your own business.
Tech skills in demand are cybersecurity, data analytics, digital marketing, computer programming, and artificial intelligence. In-demand trade skills include plumbing, construction, painting, human resource specialist, and electrician. Business skills are not really able to be taught. They must be learned over time, but some of the key skills that an entrepreneur must have are being able to manage people, creative and critical thinking skills, and an understanding of finances to find ways to grow a business.
Build Up Your Net Worth
You want to always find ways to build up your net worth. In the traditional employee model, you are stuck on a fixed source of income. Your boss could fire you at any time. Today, you can discover ways to make passive income streams online. You can also work side hustles alongside a job to earn extra money. Never stop working on improving yourself. Never stop working to find ways to increase your net worth.
Financial Freedom
Financial freedom merely means living without having to worry about money. It looks different for each person. It depends on what type of lifestyle someone expects to want to live. At the bare minimum, it means not having any debt. It could mean that someone else has a mansion in an expensive state and makes seven figures a year. Today, it is easier to attain with the Internet because you can create multiple passive income streams.
Personal Development
Self-development plays a vital role in the life of singles. Without it, they remain stagnant. Here are eight ways singles can focus on personal development.
Self-Discipline
If you want to succeed in anything, you must learn self-discipline. Self-discipline is required for freedom. Consistency is the first step to being to develop self-discipline. You can then begin to build better habits, such as going to bed and waking up at a consistent time, working each day toward your goals, and becoming more organized. When you become more organized, you become more efficient.
Self-Love
Self-love means that you accept yourself and you love yourself for who you are as an individual. It is a type of love that is not often talked about. Romantic and erotic love receive the most attention from society. If you cannot love yourself, then you may never be able to be happy. You may then be unable to develop self-confidence. This may result in your having low self-esteem and self-worth.
Self-Worth
Your self-worth as a person is innate to you as an individual. However, society pressures people to get their self-worth externally from others or things like buying and having the latest gadget. When you begin to care about yourself and treat yourself better, you begin to experience your self-worth go up. You can also build up your self-worth and self-confidence by working to achieve your goals.
Self-Sufficiency
Self-sufficiency is relying on the system as little as you can. It could mean keeping the minimum amount of money in the banks. It could mean growing your food or relationships with local farmers in your area instead of always buying from a large grocery store chain. It could also look like having a few months’ supplies of emergency foods in case of an SHTF scenario. It could also mean working to build your own business so that you are no longer reliant on an employer for income.
Self-Reliance
You can also work to develop self-reliance. You can become more self-reliant by starting to pay off any debt you may have. You can find creative ways to increase your income and build multiple income streams to become financially independent. You don’t want to rely solely on a single paycheck from one employer. What happens if they decide to fire you? What happens if they choose to replace you with robots or technology? You can also become self-reliant by growing your own garden, raising your own animals, and getting to know your local farmers in your area. Another way to develop self-reliance is to be out of the financial system as much as possible by holding precious metals and cryptocurrencies.
Escape From The System
The system is working precisely as intended. It is meant to keep you down. It is designed to keep you living paycheck to paycheck. It wants you to be unhappy. It wants you to remain stuck. It creates conflict by making people fight against each other over things that don’t matter. Such as politics. What they may or may not have between their legs. The color of someone’s skin. What someone may or may not wear on their face. What someone may or may not have put into their bodies. Divide and conquer is how the system works to keep people confused and keep you from successfully reaching your goals.
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Internal Validation
Internal validation is the process of how you vindicate yourself. You prove to yourself that you can do something. When you prove to yourself that you can do something you have set as a goal for yourself. You also develop self-confidence. As you become more confident and accomplish more of your goals, you begin to improve yourself each day steadily. Rather than getting validation from others, you can get it from yourself by completing your life goals.
Think For Yourself
In a society that wants to tell you how to think from the news, entertainment, politicians, and the education system, your neighbor wants to tell you what to think. It is critical to be able to think for yourself. It just requires being able to question authority. Stand for your principles. Don’t immediately make decisions but take time to think. Don’t be afraid to question everything!
The education system does not teach you how to think because the education system, from kindergarten to higher education, is intended to indoctrinate people. It does not want critical thinkers. It is designed to create employees and citizens who do not question. The mainstream media is used to keep you in a state of fear. The entertainment industry is meant to ensure that you continue wasting your time watching meaningful entertainment instead of working to improve yourself and reach your goals.
Think for yourself. Question authority. Question everything.
Conclusion
It is up to you to change your mindset. It is up to you to stop believing the lie that society tells you that there is something wrong with being single. It is up to you to improve your relationships, health, and financial situation. You can be happy single!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Why are people single? People may be single for a variety of reasons. One type of single is a relationship-oriented single.
What Does It Mean To Be A Relationship-Oriented Single?
A relationship-oriented single is someone who currently may be single but wants to be in a romantic relationship. This type of single places a higher priority on getting into a romantic relationship. It could be dating. It could mean eventually getting married.
Is It Bad To Be A Relationship-Oriented Single?
People may be single for many different reasons if someone wants to ultimately be in a romantic relationship, dating or getting married, instead of enjoying the single life. There is nothing wrong with that. Relationship-oriented singles place romantic relationships and romantic love higher than being single.
Where Are Relationship-Oriented Singles From?
A relationship-oriented single can be from anywhere in the world. The only requirement is for someone single to want to date and be more interested in finding a romantic partner instead of learning to enjoy being single.
When Can Someone Be A Relationship-Oriented Single?
Someone could be a relationship-oriented single if they have always wanted a romantic relationship. They could also be perpetually single, always wanting a romantic relationship but never being able to find one for whatever reason.
Who Can Be A Relationship-Oriented Single?
Both men and women can be relationship-oriented singles.
Why Would Someone Be A Relationship-Oriented Single?
They would rather be in a romantic relationship instead of be single. In some cases, they may do anything they can to stop being single. This could turn a relationship-oriented single into a serial dater until they get into a steady romantic relationship or eventually marry.
How Can A Relationship-Oriented Single Make The Most Of Being Single?
There are many ways that a relationship-oriented single can make the most of being single. Instead of always pursuing romantic relationships, they can instead start to better themselves. This will help their lives while making them more attractive to potential romantic partners. There are three main ways to focus on yourself: relationships, health, and finances.
3 Main Ways To Make The Most Of Being Single
Relationships
There are three main types of relationships that singles can work to build that are not romantic.
Friends
You don’t have to spend all of your time trying to find a romantic relationship when you are single, even if that is what you may want. When you have the right friends around you, you can surround yourself with friends who share common values and goals. They will challenge you to become a better and more interesting person. Your friends will likely have similar interests as you.
Family
You can spend it with your family. While no family is perfect, family is a natural community. You can do things with your family. It could be a weekly dinner. It could be a monthly phone or Skype call.
Community
Community is good to have, but most of the people you may know in your neighborhood may not be friends. They will more likely be acquaintances. You can find it by going to places that you enjoy going to. It could be going to restaurants, bars, the gym, or small group events at a church. You can build a community around you built around your interests and values. However, most people you know in your community will not know you as well as your friends are family.
Health
You can spend time focusing on your health. This will make you more attractive to a prospective partner. You can do simple things like exercising, going to the gym, and following a diet. When you focus on your health, you will feel better. You will also look better. This will make you more attractive to a prospective partner.
Finances
You can work to improve your financial situation. There are always ways to find ways to make extra money. You can work a side hustle. A side hustle could eventually become your main thing so you can leave your employer. Some examples of side hustles could be driving for Uber or Lyft or delivering food for UberEasts or GrubHub. You could also work to build your website and YouTube Channel.
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You can also transition work from your current job to a job that pays better by improving your skill set. You could learn in-demand tech skills or trade skills. It could mean taking some time to take a course online, not necessarily through a university, to learn the skills. Learning a more technical skill or a skill that is in demand that employers are willing to pay more for will help to increase what you are paid. It will also make you more competitive in the marketplace.
Conclusion
A relationship-oriented single is primarily focused on finding a romantic relationship. This is only one of many reasons why people may be single.