There are many reasons why people are single. Some love being single. Some really just want to be in a relationship. For singles who desire a relationship; but who are currently single, they are single by circumstance. There is nothing wrong with being single and those are single by circumstance should wait until the right person comes along to date again.
Being single is often portrayed as being sad and lonely by the media and society. The single life’s values include independence and flexibility. Those who are single by circumstance can use the single life as a time of personal self-discovery, to learn more about themselves, and to prepare themselves for a future partner. While you are single, learn to take care of yourself and how to do basic home essentials from shopping to cleaning the house. This and other basic life skills that will better prepare you to assist your partner with household chores.
Those who are single by circumstance should take the opportunity of being single to learn more about themselves and go on life journey of self-discovery. The journey of self-discovery will allow singles to learn more about their likes, dislikes, and their life values. After you know what those you, you can determine if you are ready and find a compatible partner and want to no longer be single. This journey of self-discovery will help single prepare to find a compatible partner and they will know more about who they are as a person and mature in preparation for a potential life partner. Embrace your time as a single and prepare yourself for the one. Ultimately “the one” does not exist.
Soulmates are a myth. There are no soulmates. It is best to invest in yourself. If you choose to eventually date and marry, recognize that there is no perfect partner or spouse. “The one” is an illusion.
The single life provides flexibility and freedom. Singles can travel and explore the world while they are single by circumstance. Singles can also save, invest, and develop their professional skills to be able to provide for a partner and possibly a family. The single life is a great time to gain confidence and to build social skills so that you can talk and read nonverbal signals well from potential partners at social events. For those who are single by circumstance, take the opportunity and single life values to grow and mature in preparation for dating and finding a partner.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with being single and singles should not feel pressure to jump back into the dating scene. Those who are single by circumstance should be patient, focus on their career, and develop themselves and enter the dating scene only when they are ready and able to commit to a potential partner. Until that time comes, singles should enjoy the single life and not view being single as a negative life experience. Being single has plenty to offer and those who are single by circumstance can take advantage of all that the single life offers while single.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Core Values of Secure Single
1. Security, as shown by the Anchor.
Everyone needs a solid foundation for their lives. This is essential to peace of mind and genuine flourishing. Knowing who you are how you view the big picture provides a sense of purpose and a confidence for facing life’s challenges. Single people should feel secure that they are fine, and there is nothing wrong with them for being single. Your human worth and dignity are inherent in you as a person, not based on your external circumstances or relationships.
2. Diversity, as shown by the Ocean Life.
There is an immensely broad spectrum of diverse people living as singles. There are numerous reasons why people are single, and the form their singleness takes varies widely among individuals and communities. However, some aspects of single life unite all singles. Likewise, a huge variety of sea creatures thrive in the ocean, be they seahorse, whale, small fish, octopus, and many more. But they all depend on the ocean environment to live their own lives.
3. Autonomy, as shown by the Compass.
Each person is the captain of his or her own ship of life. Singles can chart their own course themselves as they best see fit, according to their own beliefs, values, and preferences. Their own inner compass navigates the way to their personal true north.
4. Flexibility, as shown by the Sails.
Singles have opportunities and choices that are often unavailable to those in other situations. Sails allow the ship’s captain and crew to either go with the flow of the wind or harness the wind to maneuver in a specific direction.