The fall and winter seasons are a time when singles are expected to find a significant other. This time is called cuffing season. It is called cuffing season because it is believed that singles desire to be cuffed or tied down to a serious relationship and to bring a significant other back home during the holidays. There is no reason why singles should be expected to become cuffed to someone during fall and winter to please their family or society during the holidays.
What Is Cuffing Season?
It is interesting that dating relationships equate to cuffs during this season. In contrast to the values of the single life, romantic relationships take away peoples’ freedom and flexibility to be with another person. By spending time with that person; they take time away from personal development, self-discovery, and improving their professional skills as an individual. The energy that would go into advancing yourself as a person are now spend wholly with someone else.
The hypothesis behind why cuffing season exists is because as the weather gets colder during the fall and winter months and people stay indoors more, they want to date someone to cuddle and spend time with instead of being alone. This is a fascinating theory for cuffing season because the number of social events increase during the fall and winter holiday season. Singles can find events to attend in there city and that does not require having a plus one. By spending time with others, the desire to get cuffed this holiday season may decline because it is healthy to be around people. There is also nothing wrong with watching Netflix and drinking hot cocoa on your couch in your house or apartment. It is actually healthy to spend time alone. Singles should not feel shame or pressure to get cuffed into a relationship.
Be Free During Cuffing Season
There is pressure to get cuffed and to have a date for New Year’s and Valentine’s Day. These are unhealthy expectations for singles. In fact, the pressure for singles to get cuffed for the holiday season is just wrong. Singles are now the majority of the American population and are a rising demographic in industrialized countries. Society’s assumption that people are best coupled stigmatizes singles and is singlism. The holiday season should be a time where people spend time with family and friends. There should not be pressure for singles to get date during cuffing season.
Singles should be happy and uncuffed during cuffing season because there is nothing fun about being tied down to a bad relationship. Singles should spend time exploring their city or going home to their families during the holidays instead of seeking out a romantic relationship. Remain free and uncuffed!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Being single is awesome! And here is why. During this holiday season, we remind you of some special benefits only singles have. Being around friends and family during Christmas and New Years just got even better. When you are single, you have many doors open for you to experience new things and to also take time to go at your own pace when it comes to life, relationships, and career status. Being single is the time you have to ‘figure it all out’, but of course that is a lifelong journey. It is just easier when you’re a single-mingle guy or gal. Here are five ways that remind you the holidays can be exciting. Here’s how you can be even better during it all. Here are five ways to be your best single self during holidays!
5 Ways To Be Your Best Single Self During Holidays
Travel Is Affordable
When you are single, like many of us millennials, then you’ve got a more affordable travel ticket. Most 60% of millennials do not have any children, which means that over half of millennials don’t have to worry about purchasing children tickets, or even their spouses’ ticket.
You Can Drink
This may be one of the most fun parts of the holiday season. You can drink and be merry! Often times, you may have a significant other (S.O.) who works to constricts what you can/can’t do, or has an agreement with you that makes you have certain boundaries. As a single, you can break free, and do what pleases you!
You Can Have 1-on-1 With Your Family
Without dragging along a significant other, you can be present with all your family members to greet them, help in the kitchen, and spend quality time playing card games. You have a special time to spend with your family, and can do so without distractions.
Dress How You Want
Sometimes couples dress alike, or your significant other tries to tailor what you wear. Don’t worry about that this season, because being single allows you to be an individual, with no ball and chain. This is why you can be even better as a single person, without worrying about what to wear. So what if your dress is a little short, or your clothes just don’t match. Wear what you want without having an S.O.’s opinion guide you.
You Can Become More Emotionally Stable
Many times when you date someone, you become emotionally enthralled with the other person. You depend on them emotionally, and sort of lose your sense of independence. The holidays can be an initial time for many of us, and when we have our independence to be emotionally stable, we don’t have to worry about a significant other to depend out emotional well-being on. You can be better by being independent.
Summary
This holiday season, be even better as a single person by being independent and working your butt off to appreciate what you have. Work to love your single life and the independence it brings to you. Enjoy your holiday season, and have fun with your family, drinking and being merry, and being emotionally independent.
Cheers,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Being single is a universal state that everyone can relate to, because at one point or another everyone has been single. During this holiday season, we all know that if you are in your 20’s and 30’s without a significant other, then people are going to be asking what’s up. The key is to keep calm and carry on. Here are some tips to keep your cool while being a charming guest at any dinner party over the holidays.
Relate Being Single Back to the Person Asking the Question
Feeling singled out for being single? Reverse the question, and ask what your family member or friend enjoyed most about their single times. Make it relate-able. You can keep it light and friendly, there is no need to sweat. I am sure everyone can relate to a time in their life they enjoyed while being single. It is deemed one of the most important times when you make decisions. You might also add in that you enjoy what you have going on at the current moment, and are happy for your fiends and family members who have a significant other. Appreciation goes a long way.
Benefits of the Single Life
Single + Freedom are two words that go together nicely. Not to say that some couples have freedom, it just is easier when you have one person to look out for. Think about the positives: you can live wherever you choose, you can travel where you want, you can change careers, you can freelance and work 12 hour days and not feel guilty about it. You also tend to have a larger group of friends when you are single. Hey, rejoice that your happy about being single! It’s all about focusing on the positives.
Express that You are Taking Time to get to Know Yourself
No person will rightfully make you feel guilty about being single. Perhaps you’ve taken a break to clear some emotional air, and need time to develop your spirituality, your career, and your values. We are all in this together. If your friends are understanding, they will love you no matter what. If they judge you, then hey you might need to find friends that celebrate you. Just be yourself, and let people know where your at. Sometimes people just need an answer, and as the confident single person you are, you can say that you are gearing up to backpack across Europe while you build up your freelance career and find yourself. Wahoo!
Summary
This holiday season don’t have the blues. Remember that you are a fantastic human being and are worthy of love and appreciation. Being single is great, and you should appreciate what you have right now. Life should be an exciting adventure, so live it up, find your passion for career, and take it to the next level. During this time, allow yourself to make discoveries about yourself. When you love and appreciate who you are, and make progress towards accomplishing career and health goals, you might just meet someone in the same walk of life. Enjoy your life, and love what you do, it will make this time being single a lot more fun – and trust me, you are worth it to be able to enjoy your life. Live it up!
Cheers,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
There are many reasons why singles should be thankful not to be in a relationship or married this holiday season. You get to enjoy the holiday season alone, with friends, or with family. It is up to you how you want to celebrate the holidays. Here are ten reasons why being single during the holidays is great and why you should be thankful that you don’t have a significant other this holiday season.
Save Money
One of the great things about single is saving to prepare for your future or for that gift that you want to give yourself this Christmas. If you were dating someone, you would have to buy them a gift this Christmas. Depending on the person who you are dating, that gift may be expensive along with the other gifts that you have to buy for both your family and their family this Christmas.
Avoid Family Fights
Holidays. The time once or twice a year where families come together and have family fights. As a single, you can choose if you want to go home to participate in this annual event or find a way to celebrate in the city that you live in.
Don’t have to Buy Gifts for a Significant Other
Gifts often cost money. There are things that you have to pay for from student loans to rent to food each month. The cost of gifts cut into the money that you can put towards those necessities that will provide you more freedom once they are payed off or you are prepared to move towards the next step in your adult life.
Kiss Anyone Under the Mistletoe
Another fun reason to be single during the holidays is that you don’t have to only kiss your significant other under mistletoe, if you had one. You can kiss anyone who is under the mistletoe with you at Christmas parties this Christmas. Get practicing now and get some under the mistletoe this holiday season.
Christmas Parties
Christmas and holiday parties are everywhere! You can hang out with friends who are hosting a party. You can visit a bar or club that is having a party. This is a great chance to explore your city, try new places, and enjoy the festivities of the holiday season.
Learn to Make Eggnog
Real eggnog is a punch. It uses a couple different types of liquor, milk, sugar, and ice cream. It is creamy and delicious. Learn how to make it this holiday season and show it off to your friends at your next holiday party. You will become everyone’s favorite friend during the holidays after you learn to make traditional alcoholic eggnog. It is that delicious.
Stay Home or Travel
No significant other. Check. Family. Sure. You’re an adult so you get to decide where you want to spend your holiday. You could stay home in your city or go visit your family. You could also travel and explore the world during the holidays. It is your Christmas, You can decide where and with whom you want to spend it with on your own terms.
Relax
Christmas time can be hectic. It is fine to choose to relax and stay inside with a hot cup of cocoa (spiked is optional). You can watch your favorite tv shows, read, or work on projects that you have meaning to finish but never got around to finishing on time. Relax from the holidays.
Free from Couples
The single life offers freedom and flexibility. Being is a couple means restraint and unadaptable. As a single you are free from couples, except for friends and family who are couples. But you are free to do your own thing because you are not dating and are uncoupled! You get to decide how you want to celebrate the holiday season on your own!
Free from Obligations
Besides any family obligations if you go home for Christmas, you are free from holiday obligations. You are able to spend the holiday exactly how you want. You can go to as many or as little Christmas parties as you want. You can be happy during the holidays or you can be a Scrooge or Grinch this season. It is up to you since you have no holiday obligations, you can plan how to spend Christmas.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
There are many reasons why people are single. Some love being single. Some really just want to be in a relationship. For singles who desire a relationship; but who are currently single, they are single by circumstance. There is nothing wrong with being single and those are single by circumstance should wait until the right person comes along to date again.
Being single is often portrayed as being sad and lonely by the media and society. The single life’s values include independence and flexibility. Those who are single by circumstance can use the single life as a time of personal self-discovery, to learn more about themselves, and to prepare themselves for a future partner. While you are single, learn to take care of yourself and how to do basic home essentials from shopping to cleaning the house. This and other basic life skills that will better prepare you to assist your partner with household chores.
Those who are single by circumstance should take the opportunity of being single to learn more about themselves and go on life journey of self-discovery. The journey of self-discovery will allow singles to learn more about their likes, dislikes, and their life values. After you know what those you, you can determine if you are ready and find a compatible partner and want to no longer be single. This journey of self-discovery will help single prepare to find a compatible partner and they will know more about who they are as a person and mature in preparation for a potential life partner. Embrace your time as a single and prepare yourself for the one. Ultimately “the one” does not exist.
Soulmates are a myth. There are no soulmates. It is best to invest in yourself. If you choose to eventually date and marry, recognize that there is no perfect partner or spouse. “The one” is an illusion.
The single life provides flexibility and freedom. Singles can travel and explore the world while they are single by circumstance. Singles can also save, invest, and develop their professional skills to be able to provide for a partner and possibly a family. The single life is a great time to gain confidence and to build social skills so that you can talk and read nonverbal signals well from potential partners at social events. For those who are single by circumstance, take the opportunity and single life values to grow and mature in preparation for dating and finding a partner.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with being single and singles should not feel pressure to jump back into the dating scene. Those who are single by circumstance should be patient, focus on their career, and develop themselves and enter the dating scene only when they are ready and able to commit to a potential partner. Until that time comes, singles should enjoy the single life and not view being single as a negative life experience. Being single has plenty to offer and those who are single by circumstance can take advantage of all that the single life offers while single.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Thanksgiving is often thought to be a time to spend with family and if you are unable to spend it with family, then you spend it with friends and have a Friendsgiving. But why should that remain the case when the majority of the population is single and dining out alone is becoming normal? This Thanksgiving singles should not be afraid to dine out alone to celebrate the holiday if they will not be spending it with family or friends.
What Society Says You Must Do
The common narrative for Thanksgiving is that it must be spent with family, but if it is not spent with family then it must be with friends for a Friendsgiving. Those are both good options, but the other option is enjoying Thanksgiving alone. There is nothing wrong with being alone or spending time alone. It is actually healthy and OpenTable has seen an increase of reservations for one by solo diners. Why not check out a new restaurant and enjoy Thanksgiving by yourself? That is what I will be doing and the day has plenty to offer singles.
What Singles Can Actually Do for Thanksgiving
Singles have the opportunity to watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade in the morning. The parade features large balloons of holiday features, live music, and crowds watching the parade in New York City. You can relax watching the parade with your favorite drink in hand and check out your friends’ posting pictures on social media. After watching the parade and seeing what your social media friends are up to, you can check out the Black Friday and Cyber Monday deals.
After you see if there is anything that you want on sale for Black Friday and Cyber Monday, get ready to go to the restaurant that you made the reservation at to celebrate Thanksgiving. There is nothing wrong with dining by yourself or to celebrate Thanksgiving alone as a single. Singles are increasingly making reservations for one on OpenTable and it is great to do something on holidays instead of staying in your apartment or house. Try a new restaurant this Thanksgiving and celebrate being single!
However, if you are not interested in exploring a new restaurant, then help out at a local food bank this Thanksgiving. Find a local food bank or church that is having a Thanksgiving meal for the homeless in your city and volunteer. Singles volunteer more than couples and it is good to help those who are less fortunate by giving your time to assist with a Thanksgiving meal at a food bank. Volunteering to help on Thanksgiving and at organizations that provide help to the homeless will give you a different view of the world that is both healthy and helpful for singles.
Depending on how you plan your day and who your football team is, enjoy watching the Thanksgiving game. You can watch the games online, on the sports, channel, or by going to a local sports bar that is playing the game. Sit back and watch football this Thanksgiving.
There are plenty of things for singles to do on Thanksgiving and ways for singles to enjoy the holiday alone. It is healthy to spend time alone. There is no reason for singles to be sad that they are not celebrating the holiday with family or was not invited to a Friendsgiving. This Thanksgiving be thankful for being single and that you are not in a bad relationship where you have to travel to your significant other’s family to have those awkward Thanksgiving dinner conversations.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Headed home this Thanksgiving? Don’t fret if you’re single. We’ve got a survival guide on how to feel less pressured by your family interrogations. Remember that it is okay to be single. If your family is understanding, you will be just fine, if not, it’s time to pull those adulting pants up. Ready? Here we go!
Step 1: Plan Your Trip Home
Make sure wherever you travel this season that you are prepared to make a safe journey flying or driving home. On your prep list, make sure to have plans to be with your family most of the time, and to also call up your neighborhood friends so you can catch up and take a break from being at home too much.
Step 2: Stand In Your Truth
If you are single and reading this, be proud of who you are. Make sure that you are comfortable with yourself as you are, and that you don’t let anyone make you feel bad for being single. Student loans, self-discovery, and taking time to mature before getting in a relationship all factor into a patient single person. You should never rush to date someone, especially if you aren’t ready. Don’t let anyone push you.
Step 3: Combat Interrogations
Most millennials are single anyhow, and it is a different world today than it was for your grandparents and parents. You may need to remind your family of this, and also let them know that there are pressing economic factors of why most millennials are single. You may feel like you are at a debate, just take a deep breath – it will be over shortly.
Step 4: Take A Break
This is where planning to see your neighborhood friends comes in handy. If you’ve having a tough time adjusting to being back home and getting slack for your relationship, then call a friend. You can go for coffee, watch football, see a movie, or go for a walk.
Step 5: Workout
While this may seem counter intuitive, working out during the holidays will both keep you in shape while people are eating their 2nd’s and it will boost your endorphin’s – this will make you feel instantly better. Look great, feel great, and hey – be great. Look sexy while you are doing it, and be proud of your single self.
Now armed with knowledge, you will feel prepared to go home and be with your family as a secure single person. Feel proud of who you are and flaunt your stuff – you’re not tied down and you are as free as a bird to do as you please.
Stay securely single this holiday season,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
The holiday season is the time of year where you may travel to see family or visit a significant other’s family. The bottom line is that the holidays bring on additional expenses when you are in a relationship. Here are five ways being single during the holiday season saves you money.
Money
It is no surprise that the holidays push for people to buy their friends, family, and significant others gifts. Seasonal holiday jobs appear during this season so that people can make an additional income to spend on gifts during the holidays. This holiday season save money instead of spending it on a significant other.
Travel
Travel is another major expense during the holiday seasons. Depending on your work schedule and your relationship with your family, you may not be able to or want to go back home for the holidays. While your family may be understanding, a significant other would put more pressure on you to visit their family during the holidays so that you can meet their family. The cost of going home during the holidays or visiting a significant other’s family include transportation to and from airports food and drink at the airport terminal, and flight tickets. There should be no pressure to travel during the hectic holiday season and being single gives you the opportunity to make your own decisions about where you want to spend your holidays.
Dining Out
Relationships are expensive, especially dating relationships, because you have to pay for another person when you dine out. It is no longer a meal and a drink. It is now two meals and two drinks. Food and drink quickly add up when going out. But if you went home with your significant other for the holidays, they want to take you to their favorite places in their city. This means that you will need to include additional money in your holiday budget to dine out with your significant other. However, by being single during the holidays, you only have to pay for yourself when you go out. If you want to save money, you can cut back on going out and put it towards gifts or put the money that would originally go towards dining out into your savings account.
Gifts
Gifts can be expensive depending on what type of gifts you like to give people. If you have a significant other who you want to impress at Christmas, you may buy them some nice jewelry or bottle of their favorite spirit. While some families want to cut back costs of gifts by doing a white elephant gift exchange, you may not be so lucky with your significant other’s family. Being single means that you can save money again by having to get gifts for your one family instead of for a significant other and their family too.
Holiday Parties
Holiday parties start around Halloween and peak during New Year’s, but won’t end until after Valentine’s Day. That means you may be go to parties with friends or a significant other at least once for each holiday. Depending on the type of party and where it is located, parties may require purchasing tickets in advance and events for holiday parties can get expensive. Instead of being pressured to go to holiday parties and spend money that you really don’t want to because of a significant other, embrace being single this holiday season and go to holiday parties that you want to or save money by not going to any parties.
These are the five most common ways that you will spend money during the holidays. If you are single and are not obligated to visit a significant other’s family this holiday season, be thankful because not being in a relationship is saving you money. Is being single during the holidays starting to look better now? Happy holidays and enjoy being single this holiday season!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Singles already are a major part of the population, but that is only discussing those who are 40 and under. Many of the ageing and elderly population are also single. Their spouse may have died making them a widow. They may have divorced their spouse. They may remained single their whole life. Some may have been long term singles. However, all three of these different ageing singles face the same problem. As they age, who should care for them and who will care for them? Elders are an important part of any society since they contributed to their country, helped their community, and payed their dues to their nation and family. The priority for caring for these ageing singles should come from fellow singles family members and from their different communities.
Friends and Family
Research has found that the single and unmarried have stronger support networks which consist of family and friends compared to their married counterparts. Singles are more likely to volunteer and to assist their family and friends when they need help. This is because single have autonomy and the flexibility to help their relationship networks while those who are married are busy helping their spouse and children. For this reason, elderly singles should not be afraid to reach out to their family and friends who live nearby to ask for assistance. Similarly, family and friends need to also make a point to assist their ageing single friends and relatives. Close friends and family who are near should be the first resources for the elderly and should have their ageing family, relatives, and friends backs.
Community Living
Family and friends cannot always be there to help because life happens and there may be some bad family dynamics. The next network level that elderly singles should consider is to look if churches or nonprofit organizations offer senior. It is becoming more common to find Catholic Churches that are adding senior housing to parishes and the archdiocese in cities. Certain nonprofit options are typically connected to religious orders, community groups, or fraternal organizations. For any single ageing singles who are involved with any types of community groups or organizations, consider looking into nonprofit options if you want to remain connected with a mission driven organization that shares their same values.
Elderly Care Home
The final option is to consider elderly care and a senior living facility. They should decide if they want to go this route and if they, or family, have money prepared to spend on finding a senior living facility that meets their needs and that they could picture themselves staying in. The single who is looking should make sure to visit the different facilities to ask about what the price is per month, ask any questions, and to talk to any of the seniors who are currently living at that facility. Once the senior single has decided on a place, they should be sure that everything is in order and prepare to move anything that they can bring from their home to their facility. The facility will then be able to take of them and have someone to help them with any specific health needs that the single may have that the facility should be aware of to assist the senior.
Ageing and elderly singles should not be afraid of the next part of life. It is natural. Family, friends, and a close-knit community are the most important structures to have in life and they should be the first ones to take care of senior singles. For any singles who have an ageing senior (single or not), please talk to them about the options that are available to them. But most importantly, let them know that you and their family will be there for them to help them through this part of life as much as you are able.