In order to live a complete and fulfilled life, it is essential to have strong and deep meaningful relationships with the people who bring us up and bring out the best in us. Millennials are in the constant grind of completing college and getting established in the workforce. It can be a rat race, and our lives can be stressful and lonely. To combat those low-level feelings, we need a team of people we can count on emotionally. Good relationships bounce us backup after we have fallen. It is up to us to nurture and foster a loving environment for our relationships to become deep and meaningful. Here are three ways you can improve your relationships today!
Spend Time With Loved Ones
Time flies by, so spend time with your friends. Make time to be with your friends and plan activities around relaxation, being in nature, and working out. Drinking is nice to do if it’s a special holiday or birthday, but alcohol tends to make things worse if you are working to improve relationships. Be present, be attentive, and stay focused. These are important relationships you need to work, to try your best to be completely present for each person who is special in your life. It’s important, and you need to be emotionally available to help your friends when they need you!
Be Honest About Your Life Experience
Too often, we keep secrets from others because we are afraid of what they will think. Take a moment to meditate on why you do this. Is it because you are afraid others will not like the real you? If so, why are you pretending to be someone else? Come as you are and welcome your authentic, non-ego self into the present. You will feel more comfortable in your skin. By being open and honest about your life experiences, you are being your authentic self. You are being, you! In truth, you will attract the right people if you are yourself, and if you are not being yourself then you will attract people who are not like you and may not ultimately approve of yourself. Be you, do your best, and know that you are a diamond!
Trust Your Friends
Until proven differently, work hard to trust people you care about. It can be hard to trust if you grew up in a household where you weren’t loved, or even had a lover or friend you trusted deeply break that trust. To live complete, begin to trust again. Being hurt is temporary, so learn to let go and focus on what is happening now. Do not worry if you are uncertain of the future, you have absolutely no control over the future, you only have control over the current moment. Holding on to the past or worrying about the future will only keep you from loving and enjoying the present moment. Learn to let go, learn to trust, and learn to love life and enjoy it to the fullest. You are worthy of love and trust, so start today to show your friends you love them by trusting them completely.
Start today by intentionally making an active effort to do your best to improve relationships by being attentive and being your true self. When you open up and trust life, life tends to be there for us. Make sure you do your best every day, show up on time, make things work, and be happy. Every day is a new day for a fresh start. If is your life, so take back control today!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
There are many reasons why people are single. Some love being single. Some really just want to be in a relationship. For singles who desire a relationship; but who are currently single, they are single by circumstance. There is nothing wrong with being single and those are single by circumstance should wait until the right person comes along to date again.
Being single is often portrayed as being sad and lonely by the media and society. The single life’s values include independence and flexibility. Those who are single by circumstance can use the single life as a time of personal self-discovery, to learn more about themselves, and to prepare themselves for a future partner. While you are single, learn to take care of yourself and how to do basic home essentials from shopping to cleaning the house. This and other basic life skills that will better prepare you to assist your partner with household chores.
Those who are single by circumstance should take the opportunity of being single to learn more about themselves and go on life journey of self-discovery. The journey of self-discovery will allow singles to learn more about their likes, dislikes, and their life values. After you know what those you, you can determine if you are ready and find a compatible partner and want to no longer be single. This journey of self-discovery will help single prepare to find a compatible partner and they will know more about who they are as a person and mature in preparation for a potential life partner. Embrace your time as a single and prepare yourself for the one. Ultimately “the one” does not exist.
Soulmates are a myth. There are no soulmates. It is best to invest in yourself. If you choose to eventually date and marry, recognize that there is no perfect partner or spouse. “The one” is an illusion.
The single life provides flexibility and freedom. Singles can travel and explore the world while they are single by circumstance. Singles can also save, invest, and develop their professional skills to be able to provide for a partner and possibly a family. The single life is a great time to gain confidence and to build social skills so that you can talk and read nonverbal signals well from potential partners at social events. For those who are single by circumstance, take the opportunity and single life values to grow and mature in preparation for dating and finding a partner.
Ultimately, there is nothing wrong with being single and singles should not feel pressure to jump back into the dating scene. Those who are single by circumstance should be patient, focus on their career, and develop themselves and enter the dating scene only when they are ready and able to commit to a potential partner. Until that time comes, singles should enjoy the single life and not view being single as a negative life experience. Being single has plenty to offer and those who are single by circumstance can take advantage of all that the single life offers while single.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Whoopi Goldberg on The View summarized a recent survey that found 61% of women prefer being single than to be in a relationship. The same survey found that only 49% of men prefer to be single.
The View hosts speculated that the reason why women prefer being single is because they are generally better able to take care of themselves and their living area while men generally learn those skills later in life. While it may be true that men may have more difficulty in learning to how clean and to care of their living space, it is a skill that can be learned by single men. Singles, both men and women, should know how to do basic household chores and how to shop for one person so they have the freedom of the single life.
“As it turns out, I am not normal and that is something that I have come to accept.” – Whoopi Goldberg
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Cybersecurity is a booming field with not enough people entering the it for a career, despite there being a new cyber attack almost every other week. You do not net to be tech savvy to protect yourself and your information from potentially being stolen or your privacy invaded by a hacker. These are five cybersecurity practices that singles should use now to secure themselves against malware that can infect their computer and network.
Internet Security
Antivirus and malware is an essential first step to keeping your computer, network, and Internet activity secure. There are different cybersecurity programs that will help to secure you from viruses, malware, worms, Trojans, microphone and webcam recording, and password protection. If you do not have a cybersecurity program on your computer, you are at high risk of malware and ransomware being able to enter your environment if it is not already there. Bitdefender is an excellent program and has received high ratings and reviews over the years.
Bitdefender also makes Bitdefender Box that secures any smart devices that you may have that connect to your wireless network.
Webcam Covers
Webcam covers are important to place on any devices that has a camera: computer, laptop, tablet, smartphone. Hackers are able to control the webcam and view you without you knowing. This means that they may be able to see you at some of your most private moments. A webcam cover simply covers the webcam and you slide it open when it needs to be used for a video call. Protect your privacy. Install a webcam cover on all of your devices.
Don’t Click on Suspicious Links and Files
A major problem in cybersecurity is phishing. An attacker sends an email with a link, document, or invoice and wants you to click on the link or open the document. These hackers have grown more sophisticated and will research friends, family, and coworkers and then send an email that appears to be from them. It is really from a hacker. Once you click on the link or open the file, they have access to your computer and it may also install ransomware on your computer. It is a best practice to have an antivirus installed on your computer such as Bitdefender, back up your computer, and only click links and open documents from people who you trust after you verify that the email address is correct.
Setup a Private Network with a WPA2
Wireless networks are by default set to public. This means that there is no password required to access the network. Your wireless network should be made private, require a password, and use WPA2. These three things will help to make it more difficult for your network to be hacked. A private network will need to be found before it can be hacked. The password should be a minimum of twelve characters that uses letters, numbers, and symbols to make it more difficult to crack. WPA2 adds encryption to your router making it more difficult for a hacker to exploit the router. These steps to secure your router will give you added security while increasing your privacy.
Use a VPN
Virtual Private Networks (VPNs) are important to add privacy and security online. VPNs change your devices IP address to a new IP address that is not associated with your device. This adds privacy by changing your IP address so that third-party advertisers and websites cannot get your devices IP address to store into their databases. It also adds a layer of security by making it more difficult for hackers to find your device’s real IP address that they can use to learn about your device to exploit it. The best VPNs allow users to switch between twenty to thirty countries for the privacy and security reasons mentioned. If you do not have a VPN, you should get one immediately to increase your privacy and security online.
Cybersecurity is a current issue that affects everyone today. It is important that you use basic cybersecurity practices to protect yourself online and offline. An Internet Security program will protect you against viruses and malware that can track your online activity and infect and control your computer. A webcam cover will give you privacy from a voyeur hacker who may be watching you through your webcam. By being smart and not clicking on phishing links or files, you are protecting yourself from a hacker gaining control of your device and network. By changing the security settings on your wireless router, you are making it more difficult for a hacker to access your network. By installing a VPN on your device, you are increasing both your privacy and security online from websites and hackers who want your IP address to different reasons. Stay safe and secure in the cybersecurity age singles.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
