What comes to mind when you hear about involuntary celibacy or incels? Do you think of the propaganda from the mainstream media about lonely men who become terrorists? Or could there be more to this than the media wants to tell you? Involuntary celibacy is only one reason why someone could be single.

What Is Involuntary Celibacy?

According to Urban Dictionary, an involuntary celibate is “someone who is celibate but doesn’t want to be.” It may also be called involuntary virginity. An involuntary celibate is someone willing and able to have sex but who cannot find a partner to have sex with. They may also have long periods where they cannot find someone to have sex with. Being an involuntary celibate means that someone is likely a virgin or has never had sex. They may want to have sex, but they have been unable to, even if they want to experience or have sex with someone.

Is It Bad To Be An Involuntary Celibate? 

Despite the negative stigma, there is nothing wrong with being an involuntary celibate. Society pressures people to be sexually active. While there is nothing wrong with sex, if someone cannot access sex through the sexual marketplace, they are deemed lesser than those who are. There is now a global sexual marketplace which makes it even more competitive. More people, especially single men, are becoming involuntary celibates since they cannot make enough to prove themselves, let alone make enough to date or provide for a spouse.

Negative Stigmas Of Involuntary Celibates 

Involuntarily celibates are often negatively referred to as; Incels. It is a cultural term that has a negative stigma attached to it. It is often negatively referred to as the incel community or movement. Involuntary celibates, or Incels, have falsely been equated with terrorists. A group of people who do not all know each other come from different backgrounds but only have in common that not being able to have sex for whatever reason is not a reason to demonize people. It further demonstrates society’s obsession with sex and romantic relationships.

Unrealistic Expectations 

There are now even higher societal expectations, particularly those of Western men. A man must have the six sixes: a six-figure salary, six feet tall, a 600 horsepower car, six-pack abs, six months since the last romantic relationship, and at least a six-inch tool below the belt. This is ludicrous since the average salary for men is $54,004.

What Has Made People Become Involuntary Celibates?

One of the core causes, at least for single men, is the cost of entry to enter the sexual marketplace. According to the Institute for Family Studies, male sexlessness has risen among the male 22-35 population, which increases with the education level or if they are living with their parents. According to Pew Research, 52% of young adults live with their parents.

Another issue is that more people now have debt from going to college or are in some other form of debt. This makes them less likely to be able to pursue a romantic relationship if they want it actively. Then add on top of that credit card debt and auto loan debt, and people can’t pursue a romantic relationship if they want one. Society has many debt traps to ensnare young people in.

Why Would Someone Be An Involuntary Celibate?

Someone may be an involuntary celibate because they cannot have sex for whatever reason. Today, many societal factors contribute to involuntary celibacy. Debt. Cost of living. The rising cost of living. Rising inflation. Home unaffordability for younger generations.

Regarding social issues, men and women are having more difficulty getting along due to the consequences of modern feminism. While feminism has given women more freedom, it has harmed relationships. Men have been called toxic. One of the responses to modern feminism has been Men Going Their Own Way or MGTOW, where men decided to avoid women and work to improve themselves. However, these two factions, and the people in the middle, are stuck in a growing war between the sexes. None of these things help to build relationships between the sexes. They only hinder relationships. Feminism doesn’t want women to embrace their femininity and womanhood. A gynocentric society does not want men to embrace their masculinity.

Then add all of the problems related to identity politics. Identity politics makes people view people who do not agree with their political views or identity as enemies.  If someone does not agree with you, instead of having a friendly conversation or rational debate, it is now acceptable to verbally attack someone by calling them any number of ists or isms. These further divide men and women. It makes it more difficult to have relationships with people, let alone romantic ones.

Where Are Involuntary Celibates From?

Involuntary celibates can come from any background. They can be from anywhere in the world.

Who Can Be An Involuntary Celibate?

Both men and women can be involuntary celibates.

When Can Someone Be An Involuntary Celibate?

It can be subjective since we live in a sex-obsessed society. If someone cannot hook up or have sex for a day, a week, a month, a year, a decade, or a lifetime, does that make someone an involuntary celibate?

How Can Someone Make the Most Of Being An Involuntary Celibate?

An involuntary celibate can work to improve where they are in life. That means working to raise their net worth, health, and relationships. They can work to build up their net worth by following a budget and saving money. They can then invest money. They could even decide to invest in their own business.

Another way is to focus on personal health. This means following a diet. Exercising. Going to the gym. Exercise and going to the gym also teach self-discipline, which will help you in other areas of life.

Regarding relationships, you don’t need to focus on dating. You can work to develop soft skills. These are non-verbal and communication skills.

Conclusion

Contrary to the fear-mongering and negative stigmas attached to involuntary celibates or Incels, these are simply singles who cannot have sex. They may not meet the rule of sixes to be able to attract a partner. Even though society says otherwise, there is nothing wrong with being an involuntary celibate or an Incel.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

People may be single for many different reasons. What does it mean to be perpetually single? This article will answer seven questions that someone may ask regarding what it means to be a perpetual single.

What Does It Mean To Be Perpetually Single? 

Perpetually single, or perpetual single, combines the words “perpetual” and “single.” Perpetual means “continuing forever” or “occurring continually: indefinitely long-continued,” according to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary. According to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, single means “not married” and “an unmarried person and especially one young and socially active —usually used in plural.” Combining these words, you get the definition below.

Being perpetually single means that someone remains single for an extended period or forever. They may or may not want to be a perpetual single. They continue to be single, even if someone may want a romantic relationship. They may not have found someone to settle down with yet. A perpetual single may be single for most of their lives, even if they want to date or marry.

Why Would Someone Be Perpetually Single? 

Someone may be a perpetual single because they cannot find someone to date. They could always enjoy being single, but they have not yet made it a choice to be single. If it is the first option, they continue to be singles even if what they want is a romantic relationship. For the second option, they have not yet made a conscious decision to be single by choice. They remain in a middle area where they are always single, yet they may want to date or not know that being single by choice is another available option.

Is It Wrong To Be Perpetually Single? 

There is nothing wrong with being perpetually single. Similarly, there is nothing wrong with being single. It is natural to be single. However, society pressures people to date. Each person has their reasons for why they may currently be single.

Who Can Be Perpetually Single? 

Anyone can be perpetually single. Both men and women can be perpetually single. It will depend on where they are in their life and what may be the reason why they are a perpetual single. Each person has their circumstances and reasons for why they may be a perpetual single.

Where Can Someone Be Perpetually Single? 

Someone can be perpetually single anywhere around the world. As long they have been single for a length of time, then they can be considered a perpetual single.

When Can Someone Be Perpetually Single?

Someone could be perpetually single if they have always been single, but they have always wanted a romantic relationship. If someone recently has gotten out of a romantic relationship and has been single for a long time, they can become a perpetual single. The length of what is considered a long-time depends upon each individual’s time frame.

How Can Someone Make The Most Of Being Perpetually Single? 

A perpetual single can make the most of being single by learning to enjoy being single. Instead of always trying to date or pursue romantic relationships, they can use their time being single to work on themselves. They can invest in themselves. Perpetual singles can learn about their weaknesses, strengths, and passions and develop hard skills. They can work to develop their skills to make them valuable to employers in the job market.

They can learn soft skills to improve their relationships with co-workers, friends, and family. They can save money. It is a time to learn to follow a budget. Work to pay off any debt. They can learn about investing. Perpetual singles can solo travel.

Being single is a time to focus on yourself. It is a time to work on your self-development. It is an opportunity to level up your soft and hard skills, travel, improve your health, and build your net worth. There is nothing wrong with being single.

Conclusion 

A perpetual single is someone who continues to remain single even if they would rather be in a romantic relationship. If they enjoy being single, they may not have decided to move from being a perpetual single to being single by choice. While someone is perpetually single, they can focus on themselves to improve different areas of their life.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

Society pressures singles to date. Is dating the answer for singles? Contrary to what friends, family, and society may have told you, dating is not a solution. When you are anti-dating, you can focus on yourself. There are twenty reasons for singles to embrace anti-dating.

Anti-Dating: Dating Is Not The Answer For Singles

The Problem With Dating 

Dating is a way to meet someone you may be interested in romantically. Today, dating can mean anything from short-term to long-term romantic relationships. Singles are pressured to date by their peers, family, and society. The dating industrial complex further feeds the need to date.

The problem with dating is that it is a form of external validation. You are getting your validation from someone else. Specifically, you are getting approval from what your friends and family think of your significant other. You view yourself through how people view you and your significant other as a couple. This type of external validation is superficial because you could break with your significant other anytime. Internal validation that comes from you is more important than external validation you receive from dating.

Recommended Article: 3 Ways Singles Can Survive The Dating Industrial Complex

Anti-Dating 

Instead of always dating and getting your approval from your relationship status, you can stop dating. When you date, you waste your time, money, and resources dating someone when the relationship may not even work out. There are better ways that you could spend your time, money, and resources than always dating someone. You can thrive as a single person!

Recommended Article: What Singles Need To Know About Wedding Season And Wedding Industrial Complex

20 Advantages Of Not Dating For Singles

Dating Is Not The Answer For Singles 

Society pressures singles to date. Are dating and romance the best use of singles time? It will ultimately depend on your goals. There is more to life than dating. Singles can use their time to work on themselves rather than always trying to find a significant other. Dating is not the answer for singles. Remember, the best investment is in yourself. Here are three ways how you can begin to invest in yourself.

Invest In Yourself 

You are your own best investment. You must develop your skills and apply your knowledge to make yourself stand out among your peers. Here are two ways how you can begin to invest in yourself. Invest in yourself by always learning. Invest in yourself by always working to improve yourself by breaking bad habits to developing good habits. Focus on yourself.

Self-Education 

College is a waste of time and money. Self-education is more critical to your success than going to college and getting an overpriced college degree. Discover what you are passionate about, then find ways to make money from it. There are many options today as the world has grown smaller because of the Internet. You can learn by reading articles online. You can learn by watching YouTube videos. You can learn by buying a digital course on a subject you want to learn more about or to improve your skillset.

Applied Knowledge

College only teaches you the information you must regurgitate back to your professor to pass a test. Knowledge is not practical if it does not help you daily. Applied knowledge is done by learning hard skills. The most helpful form of applied knowledge is entrepreneurship and the knowledge you need to do your job.

Soft And Hard Skills 

To get ahead, you must make yourself valuable. Hard skills are how you build your skills and give value to an employer. Soft skills are only the icing on the cake, but they won’t get you anywhere regarding a successful career. Below is a combination of nine hard and soft skills you can learn.

Trade Skills

You could learn a trade. You learn to work with your hands and to fix problems that people need to be fixed with a trade. As Baby Boomers are preparing to retire, this will create more open positions if you are interested in learning a trade skill.  There are a variety of different trades that you can choose from. Some of the trades that you could learn are:

• Electricians
• Welders
• Machinists
• Construction Occupations
• Heating and Cooling
• Civil Engineers
• Mechanical Engineers
• Industrial Mechanics

According to the Universal Technical Institute, specific trade jobs are in high demand. These trades include:

• Welder
• Aircraft Mechanic
• Plumber
• Home Inspector
• Licensed Practical Nurse (LPN)
• HVAC Technician
• Construction Manager
• Legal Assistant
• Respiratory Therapist
• Dental Hygienist

The best thing about learning a trade is that you don’t need to go into debt or waste four years or more of your life going to college. Trade school is only for a year or two; you find an apprenticeship to apply your learned skills.

Tech Skills 

You can also learn tech skills. Technical skills involve applied knowledge and expertise in information technology, cybersecurity, computers, engineering, research, programming, design, marketing, analytics, blockchain, and artificial intelligence. You could consider learning tech skills if you are good with computers and technology. Technology continues to be vital today. It will only continue as people have become reliant upon it to operate and run their lives, from finding a new restaurant to encountering technical issues with their car. The tech field is a great field to consider if you are interested in learning about and love all things tech. According to Indeed, there are currently fifty-one in-demand tech skills for technology careers. Here are the top ten in-demand tech skills:

• Artificial Intelligence (AI)
• Cybersecurity
• Cloud Computing
• Software Engineering
• Software Development
• Project Management
• UI/UX Design
• Data Analytics
• Data Science
• Programming

Regardless of your specialty and niche in information technology, tech skills are hard skills. Hard skills are the essential skills you need to work on developing from day one. Or, in the case of cybersecurity, from the zero-day. Bad cybersecurity joke. I know.

Business Skills 

If you are entrepreneurial and interested in learning business, then there is no better time than starting today. There is now a low cost of entry to creating an online business. However, you will need to learn to manage and deal with employees, contractors, or freelancers depending on how you decide to hire your workers.

Delegating 

You will need to learn to delegate. According to the Corporate Finance Institute, “In management, delegating refers to sharing or transferring responsibilities. And typically happens from a superior (or an employer) to a subordinate (or an employee). Delegating is a critical skill for supervisors at any level. It can be a major challenge for them to learn, due to concerns of giving up control or the lack of confidence in the abilities of others.”

Delegation is a vital business skill for an entrepreneur to learn. When you delegate responsibilities and roles to people with the skillset and experience, your business will become more efficient. When you delegate tasks to others, it will save your time so you can focus on higher-level tasks. It also develops trust between the employer and the employee by improving communication. Delegating enhances the efficiency, productivity, and time management of a business. As a business owner, your first and ultimate priority is to find ways to create revenue streams for your business.

Delegate. Delegate. Delegate.

Managing People 

It is also vital for a business owner to learn how to manage people. Whether you have an in-person or an online business, it is a skill you will learn. It will only be done differently if you have a physical or an online business. According to What Makes A Good Leader?, there are eighteen essential management skills:

• Be passionate about managing people
• Control your emotions
• Provide more feedback than you think is necessary
• Provide one on one feedback sessions with your employee(s) or contractor(s)
• Don’t be afraid to overcommunicate
• Make work fun
• Be polite
• Listen more than you talk
• Thank your people for their suggestions
• Always give negative feedback in private
• Develop a keen eye for the doable
• Be persistent
• Tell people what they can do
• Create passion for your product or service
• Set objectives
• Align your leadership behavior and communication
• Motivate your employee(s) or contractor(s)
• The proper amount of planning

Any small business owner will learn these skills whether they want to or not. It comes with the territory of managing people. Managing people follows from delegating tasks to allowing you to focus on the most critical parts of your business and where your time and skills are best spent to grow your business.

Finding New Revenue Streams

You must always find new revenue streams for your business to grow and become profitable. You can even get a business running on autopilot once you have all the roles filled to keep it going and bring in revenue for you. An online business has a lower entry cost than a physical business. To start an online business today, you need a website, email list, YouTube Channel, and products and services to sell to your customers. While working to create your products or services, you can join affiliate programs and get ads on your website or YouTube Channel to start generating revenue streams.

Not every business will succeed or become worth a million dollars. But, since businesses require more risk, the reward is higher than being an employee or being self-employed financially if you are successful.

Money 

Money is required to live. Money is a tool. You can use it to improve your quality of life. Here are three ways to improve your financial education.

Budget 

The first step to better managing your money is to set up a budget. A popular budget to follow is the 50/30/20 budget. The 50/30/20 budget allocates fifty percent of your income towards your needs. It then gives thirty percent of your income towards your wants. The final twenty percent of your income is allocated towards savings and paying off payments.

You will spend fifty percent of your budget each month on fixed items like your rent, mortgage, and other things that don’t change. You then need to calculate how much you spend on your wants. You don’t need these things to live or survive, but they make your life more enjoyable.

Thirty percent will go towards wants. It could be entertainment like going to the movies, Netflix, YouTube Premium, or buying a new blazer or summer dress that you want but don’t need since you already have an entire wardrobe. Finally, you want to include your budget money to go towards savings and to pay off any debt you may have.

That is the 50/30/20 budget in a nutshell.

Trading

When you get more advanced, you can consider learning how to trade. Investopedia says, “Trading is the buying and selling of securities, such as stocks, bonds, currencies, and commodities, as opposed to investing, which suggests a buy a hold strategy. Trading success depends on a trader’s ability to be profitable over time.”

You will need five things to start trading. You will first need to open a trading account. You will need to decide on an online broker to open your account with before you can begin trading. Second, you will need to start to understand and read the markets. You can read books on the stock market and trading, financial articles, website tutorials, and YouTube Channels that cover trading the market. Third, you will need to learn and analyze data by understanding the basics of technical and financial analysis. Fourth, you will need to practice trading. Fifth, you will learn best by trading through your own experience, although you can find online classes on trading too.

Currencies 

You can learn strategies to trade or invest in other currencies. Currencies are traded on foreign exchange (forex). Currencies increase or decrease in value over time. You can make money by shorting or going long against different currencies. For example, you could short the Dollar and go long the euro, then sell when the euro is worth more relative to the dollar.

Cryptocurrencies 

You can also look into cryptocurrencies like Bitcoin. You can go short and long on cryptocurrencies too. You can go along with a cryptocurrency, say Bitcoin, by buying and holding it for an extended period or choosing never to sell. According to Bite My Bitcoin, you can also short cryptocurrencies by “borrowing an asset [cryptocurrency] with the expectation that its value will decline.” According to International Man, Bitcoin has absolute scarcity.

Manage Yourself

It is essential to learn to manage yourself. You will become more productive. This will better help you to reach your life goals. Here are three ways how you can manage yourself.

Time Management 

There are only twenty-four hours in a day. There are only three hundred and sixty-five days in a year, except for the leap year. It is up to you to learn how to manage your time. According to ProofHub, there are twenty-two effective time management strategies. Here are ten time management tips to get you started:

• Know how and where you spend your time
• Prioritize your time and tasks
• Make a to-do list for each day of the week
• Make a to-do list for each month
• Make a to-do list for big goals you want to achieve each year
• Focus without distractions
• Time block your day
• Prioritize your tasks from high to low
• Record your daily routine
• Automate your workflow

You will find when you better manage your time that, you will begin to reach your goals. Stop making excuses. Start to prioritize and manage your time. You can achieve more than society tells you that you can do.

Build Your Resources 

When you don’t waste time dating, you can build your resources. You can work to develop your hard skills, which will make you more valuable in the job market. You can learn to allocate your resources by saving, investing, and speculating. You can run on autopilot if you can make most of your financial resources through passive income.

Manage Your Resources 

After you have built your resources, you want to start to manage them. You can begin to manage your resources to help you to achieve your goals. You can set aside the amount you know you need each month and year to cover your cost of living expenses along with your wants, then save the rest. You can start to plan and use your resources in such a way that you can begin to prepare for your future. When you properly manage your resources, you will feel more confident about your future instead of living paycheck to paycheck.

Travel 

For singles, there are many advantages to traveling alone. Here are two reasons to travel.

Travel Alone 

Travel also plays a critical role in your personal development. You can gain valuable experiences that will set you apart from your peers. Those experiences, and stories, are worth more than any college degree. According to Sky Refund, there are ten benefits of traveling:

• Achieve peace of mind
• Enhance your creativity
• Improve your communication skills
• Broaden your horizons
• Boost your confidence
• Real-life education
• Memories and experiences
• Understand and learn about yourself
• Have fun
• Improve your health

There is nothing wrong with traveling alone. You don’t need to travel with a significant other, a partner, or family. Find a location that is of interest to you. Figure out what you need to go. Plan your trip. Enjoy your trip by yourself!

Recommended Article: Solo Travel: Tips for Trip for Singles to See the World Alone

Move To A Less Expensive Country 

If where you are currently living is too expensive, and you can move to another country, then you can raise your living standards by going to a less expensive country. There could be other factors that could go into your decision as well when it comes to moving to another country. It is best to travel to a country you are considering before you decide to move there, get a second passport, temporary or permanent residency, or second citizenship. Sovereign Man has a cost of living index that you can look at to compare six main factors for countries: cost of living, safety, climate, air and water pollution, English proficiency, and taxation type.

Relationships

Relationships are important for singles, but you don’t need to date. Here are two types of relationships you can focus on that are not romantic relationships.

Connections 

When you are not focused on dating, you can work to build your connections. Connections are essential for networking, building professional relationships, creating business relationships, and finding new jobs before publicly publishing them on job websites. According to Indeed, there are five reasons why building connections are essential:

• New job opportunities
• Mentorship
• Professional development
• Expanded customer reach
• Faster promotion

The best way to start building connections is to participate in your industry. You can go to networking events. You can also participate virtually on professional websites like LinkedIn. You will then want to provide value by providing your expertise by publishing your content from your website, YouTube Channel, and newsletter. You can also provide value by showing that you can work with others. Finally, develop an online presence. This is especially vital today. Make your online presence professional on sites like LinkedIn. Show off your work and expertise that is professional without being salesy.

Friendship

When you are not wasting time dating, you will have more time with friends. You can invite them over to your apartment, condo, or house. You can go out with your friends to your favorite bar or restaurant. Friendship is essential since humans are social creatures. Your friends will often share common values and goals with you. However, it is critical to avoid toxic superficial friends.

Recommended Article: Learn How To Remove Toxic People From Your Life Like An Expert

Conclusion

There is nothing wrong with being against dating, whether for a time or life. Being single is a time to work on yourself. You can focus on yourself by improving your professional and financial life. If you can, traveling alone can also benefit you since you will gain life experiences that you will never forget. In short, being anti-dating is fantastic because you can focus on yourself!

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

It is important for singles to learn self-love when the dating and wedding industrial complexes want them to date and marry in society. Self-love is important for singles to practice in a society that pressures singles to date. Self-love is knowing that you are complete as a person and that you don’t need a significant other or a spouse to complete you.

What is Self-Love And Why Is It Important For Singles?

Self-love, or the love of self, is regard for your well-being and personal happiness. Self-love means fully accepting yourself for who you are and treating yourself with kindness and self-respect. It means that you love yourself fully to know that your value does not come externally from other people or from being in a romantic relationship.

You love yourself fully and know that you don’t need to sacrifice yourself to please others. When you fully love yourself, you can fully be the person you are rather than thinking that you need to please others in your life. When you love yourself, you only need to satisfy yourself and be happy with who you are in a society that wants you to conform to it.

Society pressures people to date and marry. This pressures singles to get into romantic relationships and externally find their value by having a significant other or a spouse. This pressure comes from the dating industrial complex and wedding industrial complex on people. The dating industrial complex is visible from the stress placed on singles to date, from dating websites and apps to even getting a dating coach. Singles can see the wedding industrial complex with bridal and wedding magazines and websites for marriage preparation for couples who are about to marry.

It is vital for single to learn and practice self-love. If you don’t love yourself, you are more susceptible to believing what society tells you that you need to be in a romantic relationship. Society pushes the narrative that you must be in a romantic relationship with someone to be happy through the dating industrial complex. If you don’t have that, then you are incomplete. This pressure from society and the dating industrial complex makes singles date and get into romantic relationships when they may not want to be in one. Rather than succumbing to the pressure from society and the dating industrial complex to receive your value from someone else externally, you can learn to value yourself for your innate value as a unique person—that why self-love is essential.

When you learn self-love, you can better listen to yourself and pay attention to the things you say to yourself. It is essential to pay attention to the type of language you use in your thoughts and how you view and talk about yourself. Are you negative? Are you highly critical of yourself? When you listen to yourself, you will better understand what you need by what your body, mind, and spirit are telling you that you need. When you hear and pay attention to yourself, you are taking care of yourself.

Self-love is about treating yourself nicely and being able to love yourself. Treat yourself with kindness. Self-kindness is vital because rather than being hard on yourself, you are kind to yourself. Self-love helps with your mental health and your mental well-being. If you suffer from depression or anxiety, consider learning and practicing self-love.

Self-love is a way for singles to love themselves better and get to know themselves by practicing mindfulness rather than getting into a romantic relationship. You can practice mindfulness with techniques such as meditation. Mindfulness is the practice of focusing on the current moment with all of your attention and not getting distracted. Mindfulness helps you to decrease stress and anxiety. When you practice mindfulness and self-love, you will reduce your anxiety and have better relationships with your friends and family. Self-love will help you to be less concerned about what others think about you. Self-love and mindfulness can also help to reduce loneliness.

Self-love is a way for singles to love themselves and it helps singles stand up against society’s pressure to get into a romantic relationship. There is nothing wrong with fully accepting yourself and treating yourself with self-respect. However, some may confuse self-love with being selfish. Singles can practice self-love to overcome loneliness and stand up to society’s pressure to date and marry.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

Many benefits come with the single life. The single life allows singles to be in charge and to live their life how they want. These are five reasons to stay single and to enjoy the single life!

5 Reasons To Stay Single And To Enjoy The Single Life

Reasons To Stay Single

Freedom

The first reason to stay single is freedom. You have the freedom to do as you please. You can travel, work to improve how you want, and work to become the best version of yourself. There is no obligation to be with a significant other or with a partner or worry about a family. You are free to live as you choose according to the values that guide your life.

Flexibility

The second reason to stay single is flexibility. You can do things that make you happy rather than being stuck with a romantic partner. This flexibility allows you to go where you want to and do as you please without worrying about a significant other or a spouse.

Focus on yourself

When you focus on yourself, you give yourself time to understand yourself better. However, some people may mischaracterize it as selfish when it is good to focus on yourself. Being single is a time for you to focus on yourself and to learn about who you are as a person. That means fully understanding your weakness and your strengths. You know what you need to develop to improve yourself and which skills you must develop to stand out in your job or career. You will know what things give you enjoyment in life. When you focus on yourself, you learn to understand better who you are as a person.

Work to know yourself better

The fourth benefit of the single life is that you can work to know yourself better. You can do this by asking yourself questions. You can also better understand yourself by knowing your values, interests, temperament, body around-the-clock activities, knowing your weaknesses and strengths, and setting yourself meaningful goals and a life mission. However, if you want to know and challenge yourself, you must confront your shadow. You can only become conscious of the dark aspects of your personality by seeking out your own shadow. The shadow is the part of yourself that you keep repressed, parts of yourself that you don’t like, or what you think society won’t accept. Shadow work is the process of making your unconscious conscious of yourself. Will you face your own shadow?

Live your life to the fullest

The fifth reason to stay single is you can live your life to the fullest. Whether you like to travel or want to work to achieve your life goals, you can live your life to the fullest. You don’t have anyone holding you back from living your life to the fullest or preventing you from pursuing the things you want to do in your own life.

These are five reasons to stay single and to enjoy the single life rather than getting into a romantic relationship. There is no need to date because you can stay single and thrive as a single person.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

People are single for many different reasons. There may be some singles who would like to date and marry eventually. Some singles are single by choice. This is a look at the single life versus the dating life.

Dating Life Versus Single Life

Single people are single for a variety of different reasons. There are some single who may want to date and others who have no interest in dating. This is simply a comparison between the dating life versus the single life.

Dating Life

You may choose the dating life instead of the single life if you want to regularly spend time with a romantic interest. You may want to have a significant other that you can go to new places with and do activities together.

You may prefer the dating life if you want to have someone to spend time with where you are both mutually attracted to each other. When you are dating someone, you are romantically interested in the other person. This allows you to get to know the other person intimately and talk about ways you may want to plan a future together. When you are dating, romantically interested in each other, you may want to choose to live with each other or marry eventually. Dating makes it easier to find someone to hang out with since they are invested in the relationship compared to regular friends.

You may choose the dating life because you don’t have to worry about your friends or family asking you awkward questions during the holidays. You can bring back a significant other to your family for the holidays or visit your significant other’s family for the holiday season. When you are in a romantic relationship, you also have someone you can invite to any special events you are interested in.

Single Life

There are many advantages to the single life versus the dating life when it comes to being single. You can make use of the single life values, especially freedom and flexibility. As a single, you have space compared to being in a relationship. You have the freedom to go and to do as you please without restraint. You can freely pursue your interests without distraction. You are free to live and direct your own life according to your values as a single. There is also flexibility since you don’t have a ball and chain with a romantic relationship. Your time is your own, and you can choose to use your time how you want.

The single life gives you the ability to choose how active you want to be involved in your community. There are many different ways that singles can find and develop a community, from volunteering to hanging out with your friends. As a single, you can volunteer in your community. You can build and strengthen your social network and community when you volunteer. Volunteering can also help to end loneliness and social isolation. It is crucial to find people in your community who share your values. You can find these people by going to events, Meetups, or places where like-minded people congregate to meet others. This is a way for singles to build and develop their community. You have more time to hang out with and spend time with your friends compared to if you were dating. It is up to you how much time you want to spend volunteering in your community and spending time with your friends, but you have the freedom with the single life.

The single life allows you to spend the time to work to become the best version of yourself. You can build self-confidence. Since you are not focusing on romance, you can develop self-love as a single. You can love yourself by starting to do what your gut is telling you. Another way is to list all of your accomplishments to have a visual list of everything you have done in your life. It is also vital to learn to say “No” to things that come up in your life, from events to being pickier about the people with who you choose to spend time. When you develop self-love, you know yourself more, and you can choose to spend time studying, exploring, and spending time doing what you love.

Conclusion

Secure Single is here to help singles to thrive as a person, and it does not matter what type of single you are or why you are single. There are different reasons why people are single. The single life is different from the dating life. This is a simple comparison between the dating life versus the single life.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

There are many reasons why you should stay single in your 20s. Being single in your 20s is a time to learn, explore, and take risks. When you date and get into a relationship, you have less freedom to try things that could change your life or change how you view the world. These are seven reasons to be being single in your 20s instead of chasing a romantic relationship.

Single In Your 20s

Time to Learn

When you are in your 20s and single, you can use it as a time to learn. As a single in your 20s, when you learn, you expose yourself to new things, thoughts, ideas, and views of the world. Being single in your 20s is a time to learn as much as you can about the world, from history to things that operate in daily life. When you learn, you fight boredom because learning is refreshing and excites your mind. Sir Francis Bacon said, “Knowledge is power,” and when you acquire knowledge, you gain power that you can use in life.

Ask Questions

When you learn, you also learn how to ask the right questions. Asking questions teaches you critical thinking and makes people feel that you are interested in them. A famous way to ask questions from history is known as the Socratic Method. The Socratic Method is a method that asks a series of questions that question assumptions and fallacies. Being single in your 20s is a time to learn to ask questions to learn about the world.

Explore the World

You can explore the world when you are single in your 20s. As a single, you can explore and discover things that you would not know if you stayed in one place. Exploring the world can range from visiting new stores or restaurants where you live to plan a solo travel trip. You will have unique stores to tell your friends, family, and people you meet. You will build self-confidence and learn to appreciate making your own decisions. As a single in your 20s, you will meet like-minded people who can add to your friends’ circle. When you explore the world, you will learn self-discovery and what you are capable of in life.

Meet and Talk to Others

Make a point to meet and talk to others when you go out. Everyone has skills, experiences, and life stories that they can tell you, and you can learn from them. People like talking about themselves, so use that to your advantage to learn the art of conversation. There are six simple rules to the art of conversation: making a compliment, use small talk, ask questions, be nice and friendly, let the other person do the talking, and keep the conversation light and cheerful. As a single in your 20s, learn the art of conversation and don’t be afraid to meet and talk to people wherever you may be meet people in the world.

Take Advantage of Opportunities

Your 20s is a time to take advantage of the opportunities that are present themselves to you. As a single in your 20s, you have energy and more freedom because you have fewer responsibilities than adults with a full-time job, house, family, and bills to pay. Take advantage of opportunities because you get out of your comfort zone, meet new people, network, build your resume, and develop your life experience.

Take Risks

Being single in your 20s is a time to take risks instead of playing safe. It is essential to take risks because you will benefit and grow as a person. When you choose to take risks, your self-esteem and confidence grow. By taking a chance, you are forcing yourself to learn new skills that you may be able to use at another time. You will also meet people and make friends with people you would not have met because you got out of your comfort zone by choosing to take a risk. Risks teach you to learn from your failures because you won’t be successful or achieve what you aimed for every time. But when you do succeed, you will likely be more successful or stand out from your peers in some way because you chose to take that risk.

Learn About Yourself

The time of being single in your 20s is a time to learn about yourself. Use your time as a time for self-exploration by taking action, asking questions, and self-love. When you take action, you will learn things that you are not good at or discover something you love. When you ask questions, you learn to think critically, learn from others, and can have a rational debate to seek knowledge. Your time as a single in your 20s is a time to develop and learn self-love.

Conclusion

These are seven reasons why you should enjoy being single in your 20s instead of looking to date. You will learn more about yourself and build self-confidence when you do these things in your twenties. You can thrive as a single person in your 20s.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

Community is essential for singles. The first layer of society is your direct family. A family is your parents, or parent, and siblings. The meaning of family for singles is that family is the first tier of people you know in life.

Meaning of Family for Singles

Who are the first people that you get to know and interact with when you are born? Your family. Family is foundational in life. You can’t choose your family, but you will have to learn to get along with your family members. No family is perfect because everyone has problems that they have to deal with in life. Individuals, then family, are the building blocks of society. Everyone is born single. It is natural to be single.

Family is essential for singles because they are your direct and extended family. Your immediate family is the people you are related to through birth. In contrast, the extended family is your cousins, in-laws, uncles, aunts, and grandparents. Whether you recognize it or not, your family directly or indirectly influence you. Your family also supports and protects you. You have spent the most time with your family, so they love and understand you the best.

Time

Your family raised you from your first steps to shaping you into the person that you are today. Research has found that the first seven years are vital to developing a child’s social skills and life development. The first seven years and how your family raised you from your first steps to help you discover some of your life interests. The time that you spend with your family helps to create bonds between parents and siblings. The time that you spend builds memories that you remember about your childhood. Your time is essential, and the time you have finished with your family has played a role in influencing you to be who you are today.

Support

The family has been there to support you from birth to when you became an adult. Family helps develop your self-esteem until you know who you are and are ready to challenge the world when you become an adult. As the first social group, you interact with growing up, your interactions with your family play a part in who you are today. This support lays a foundation for fundamental beliefs that you have about the world. This foundation helps you to find your sense of self. This support provides you the opportunity to learn more about your interests, hobbies, and what you enjoy doing from a young age to entering adulthood.

Influence

Your family influences you until you are old enough and able to think for yourself. This influence is both directly and subconsciously. Your family influences your personality, values, beliefs, and behaviors which affect your life today. Birth order in your family does affect your personality. The family that raised you influences your values and ideas when you are young until you think for yourself. For instance, you could come from a religious family and later in life question the worldview and become agnostic or an atheist. Your family may have raised you a certain way, but once you were old enough and able to think for yourself to change your worldview. Family plays a role in influencing your behavior. Family affects your lifestyle, nutrition, and your identity.

Conclusion

The meaning of family for singles is vital because your family, direct and extended, has played a role in forming who you are today. The time, support, influence from your family, and your birth order in your family played a role in developing who you are today.  You may have a range of different types of communities today, but your family was the first community.

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!

There are good habits. There are also bad habits. Good habits can change your life for the better. Bad habits help to keep you stuck where you are. Bad habits can even make your life worse. Below are twelve life-changing habits that happily people do every day.

12 Life-Changing Habits Singles Do Every Day!

Money

1. Start to follow a budget. A budget helps to teach you financial discipline.
2. Save money each month. Work to build an emergency fund to cover at least one year’s expenses.
3. Invest your money in the stock market. The stock market is one strategy to help you to grow your money over time.
4. You can find ways to increase your income. Your living expenses will likely rise as you age due to health problems or lifestyle inflation. Find ways to keep making more money.
5. Live below your means. There is no reason for you to keep up with your friends, neighbors, or the Joneses.
6. Work to build passive income. You can make money online today with the Internet in many ways. You just need to put in the work. You can then have the option to leave the job you hate and experience financial freedom.

You use money every day. Why not learn how to use it to improve your life? Financial literacy is not taught in schools. Your financial health is an essential aspect of life. You want to not be in debt. You want to have a positive net worth. If you can, constantly work to find ways to create new passive income streams and ways to build your income.

Self-Care

1. Exercise is critical to your mental and physical health.
2. Make sure to get enough sleep each night. At least eight hours of sleep is recommended.
3. Follow a healthy diet.
4. Spend less time online. Set boundaries when it comes to social media and using the Internet.
5. Drink more water. Make sure to drink at least eight glasses of water a day. More if you exercise.
6. Write down your main life goals. You can work to break down your goals into short-term, medium-term, and long-term.

Conclusion

There are more goals that single people can practice. The sooner you develop good habits. The faster your life can begin to improve. You can work to develop good habits throughout your lifetime. It is up to you to put in the work. These are twelve life-changing habits singles can practice every day!

Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!