It’s another New Year and here is another article on New Year’s Resolutions
2019 is here! The New Year is here singles! There are many New Year’s Resolutions that singles can choose from and studies have found making you are ten times more likely to succeed in achieving your goal. Here are 19 New Year’s resolutions for singles for 2019.
19 New Year’s Resolutions For Singles For 2019
Diet
Starting a diet is one of the most common New Year’s resolutions, but it is a good one and there are a number of different diets that you can choose from today. Some of the most popular diets today are the Keto, low-car, and vegetarian or vegan diets.
Exercise
This is another popular one for a New Year’s resolution. This could mean going to the gym more or simply doing five exercises that the military uses to stay fit for combat.
Travel
It is important to see other places and to experience other cultures and societies other than the country in which you live. Here is a basic travel guide for singles.
Spend Time with Loved Ones
Make an effort to spend more time with loved ones this year. Loved once can include family, friends, or a significant other if you have one.
Money
Work to improve your money spending habits by making an effort to better know how much is coming into your account and how much is going out each week, month, and year. Find creative ways to bring in more money this year or grow skills to move up where you work or into a field that pays more than where you currently work. Those are a few different money goals.
Budget
Get control over your money this New Year. There are budget apps and budget plans that can help you to create a plan to get control over your spending habits and to help you to save more money.
Save
Make a plan to save money from each paycheck that you receive to grow your savings account.
Pay off debt
Make a plan this New Year to pay off any debt that you may have from student loans to a home mortgage.
Invest
If you are good in the savings and have control over your money, make a New Year’s resolution to invest your money into an investment portfolio or find a startup to invest in that could return more than standard investment options.
Start a Business
Have you always wanted to work for yourself? Take a risk this year and work towards your dream of starting your own business this year. Start small and work to make it grow. Once it grows and becomes self-sustaining you can slowly transition from your current job to managing it full time.
Learn a New Skill
A new skill could be to move up in your field or a new hobby. Learn a new skill to improve yourself daily by reading a book or new strategies for life and work. Do hard things and master the things that you find difficult.
Embrace being Single
Become a Secure Single this year. Choose to ignore people who look down on you for being single and make your New Year’s resolution to thrive as a single person!
Don’t get into a Romantic Relationship
There is pressure from culture, society, friends, and family to get into a romantic relationship and to eventually marry. Stay strong and don’t date until you are ready to. If you have no interest in dating and are single by choice, tell your friends and family this year.
Learn to Enjoy Solitude
Solitude is healthy and there have health benefits to spending time alone in solitude. Make an effort this New Year to spend more time in solitude whether that means taking a short quite break, time praying, meditation, or a white noise machine. Learn to enjoy solitude and to savor your time alone.
Say “no” to People who treat you badly
Just say “no” to people who treat you badly this year and make an effort to leave people behind who do not affect you in a positive way. People cannot change unless they want to. If you don’t like how someone treats you and they have continually treated you in a bad way, move on and find new friends who treat you like you want to be treated this New Year.
Say “yes” to People who help you grow
As you begin to say “no” to people who treat you badly begin to say “yes” to people who help you grow and who treat you with dignity. The people who you say “yes” and who treat you nicely will likely share your same values, goals, and aspirations when it comes to worldview or business.
Volunteer
Volunteer at a nonprofit, food bank, church, or for a cause that you are passionate about.
Get Politically Active
Get politically active this year by getting more involved with a political party. The two biggest political parties in the United States are the Democratic and Republican Parties. Other political parties that are growing are the Independent Party and Libertarian Party. You can become politically active by volunteering, donating, joining a party, or running for office on the different levels of government that are open during election season.
Get out of your comfort zone
One of the ways that you grow as a person is by getting out of your comfort zone. This New Year make a point to get out of your comfort zone by attending events, learning new skills, or taking risks that you would not do otherwise this year. Get out of your comfort zone and take a risk this New Year.
Summary
There are 19 New Year’s resolutions to bring in the New Year singles! You may have one that was not included on this list but work to accomplish your New Year’s resolution this year. Happy New Year’s from Secure Single!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
There is an extensive and hedonistic history behind the New Year’s Eve kiss tradition.
The holiday season and all of the major holidays are couple-centric. This is a problem for singles who enjoy their own company. The New Year’s Eve kiss at midnight has a problematic origin that singles today can cite as a reason to not participate in the tradition if they wish. The main problem with the New Year’s Eve kiss tradition is that it is believed to determine your fortune in the next year. This thought conflicts with the values of the single life.
A Concise History Of The New Year’s Eve Kiss Tradition For Singles
The New Year’s Eve Kiss Tradition Starts in Rome
The New Year’s Eve kiss tradition began in ancient times with the Romans who celebrated Saturnalia. The Saturnalia celebration was a festival done to Saturn who was the Roman god of sowing and seeds. During the Saturnalia festival, the Romans participated in debauchery from drinking, group sex, and wore costumes and masks throughout the Saturnalia festival.. This is also where the masquerade has been traced too as well. The origin of the New Year’s Eve kiss is rooted in a hedonistic Roman tradition.
The New Year’s Eve kiss tradition, or Christmas sex, continued into the Renaissance. Masquerade Balls were popular events that happened towards the end of December and, again, participants at these balls would often end in kinky sex parties after taking off their masks at midnight. There is a long history of kissing and sex to bring in the New Year.
This tradition continued in a Scottish celebration called Hogmanay. This tradition was brought to the Scottish after the Vikings invaded Scotland and influenced the Scottish culture. The historical Hogmanay tradition was to kiss everyone who was in the room to make a connection to bring in the New Year. That was a kiss to everyone in the room, not just one person or date.
Summary
This is a short concise history of the New Year’s Eve kiss tradition. There is nothing wrong with singles participating in this long and ancient tradition, but kissing someone at midnight will not bring you good fortune or a clean slate for the next year as these traditions believe. You may get lucky after popping some champagne and dirty the sheets afterward with someone who you met or brought to a New Year’s Eve party. The single life is about celebrating security, diversity, autonomy, and flexibility and those values will help you to find and work to make fortune come to you. A significant other, or a one night stand, will never bring you happiness or fortune. You are responsible for working to make those a reality in your life, whatever happiness and fortune mean to you. This New Year’s Eve celebrate being single while everyone is kissing around you at midnight and cheer again to the single life and to the New Year!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Nothing screams “It’s The Holidays!” like the family tradition of gathering around the yule log for Hallmark Christmas movie (unless you’re single).
If this is the case, you’ll cringe at the sight of soul mates bumping into each other while being stranded in an airport. You’re going to need plenty of snarky responses for your besties love of cheesy “film.”
Snarky Responses To The Worst Hallmark Movies (Every Single Will Love)
So if you’re not the best at snarky responses, what are you supposed to do?
Why come to the expert original snarker or course! I’m here to give you some gems of wisdom or (something like that). Some people may think these snarky responses are downright horrific. But I know that you will appreciate every single one.
We’re going to start with the Hallmark channels beloved, um “Ice Sculpture Christmas.” Really? How could this even be a movie? I mean, who came up with this tortuous movie concept. Actually, I don’t also want to know.
How could country club lovin’ Princeton Graduate fall for the dishwasher of a much lower class than him in the first place? Aren’t people of similar socioeconomic backgrounds get together? I wouldn’t wish this movie on my arch nemesis.
Going back to good old’ 2004 Single Santa Seeks Mrs. Claus
This movie makes me not want to believe in Santa or romance for that matter. Even the soundtrack is unbearable. The composer might have more money in the bank than me, but at least I still have my dignity fully intact.
Santa (who never dies) is past retirement age (shocking, I know!). He wants to stop working and hand down the candy cane to Santa Jr. But there is one problem. Santa Jr. is single. How inappropriate!
Santa Jr.’s girlfriend thinks he’s a nutjob. How could he be the real Santa?
He is single, and this wasn’t in the job description. He must be a fraud
He’s not as much as a fraud as swooningly handsome bar manager who doesn’t believe in love. His good looks make her question everything. She’s causing me to question the thought of ever getting married. Singledom doesn’t sound so bad even during engagement season, now does it?
Who wants to run away with a playboy in a Snowstorm? Not me. Or how about falling for a fake creepy stalker Sants in beloved New York City?
I do . . . I do . . . I do not (that’s just another snarky response)
However, the lead Christmas tree saleswoman in “Fir Crazy” thinks it’s a great idea after being harassed by New York City’s overly dressed public school teacher more times than once.
I think tenacity is excellent for business, but when it comes to Hallmark, perseverance from a creepy man always seems to get the girl. Way to go Hallmark. Thanks for promoting doormat tendencies to little girls all over the world.
Keeping in line with every woman’s dreams let’s get started with some snarky responses to “A Boyfriend For Christmas”
I know that’s what I always asked for when I was a little girl too. Because I didn’t know any better. But luckily this gal is only a character in a bad Santa movie. She told Santa about 19 years earlier and didn’t get a gift receipt for her long-awaited “present.”
Thank goodness movies aren’t real, and we can create our own fairy tales — even when we’re single, and even during the holidays.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Choose to be part of the single men who go their own way during the holidays.
The holiday season is a time with additional pressure date and to get engaged. Single men can make the most of the holiday season and New Year’s by choosing to go their own way rather than succumbing to a relationship. Single men who go their own way during the holidays are confident men who realize that a relationship does not give meaning or happiness to life.
Single Men Who Go Their Own Way During The Holidays
You Can Choose to go Your Own Way this Holiday Season
A survey found men feel the most pressure during the holidays to find a partner. This is most likely because cuffing and engagement seasons take place during the holiday season. There is added pressure from friends, family, and society to date and to propose to someone during the holidays. Single men can free themselves from these societal pressures and choose to go their own way during the holidays. It is better for men to go their own way during the holidays instead of getting tied down each holiday season.
Single men who go their own way during the holidays can travel, save money, volunteer, and fully enjoy the holiday season how and with who single men want. For single men who go their own way during the holidays, they can spend the holidays exactly how you want rather than having to go visit a significant other’s family during the holiday season. Single men can travel to see the world for the holidays to learn about how other cultures celebrate Christmas and New Year’s. Single men will save money when not being a relationship during the holiday because they don’t have to visit a significant other’s family, go out on holiday dates, and go to a New Year’s party to have a midnight kiss. Single men can volunteer during the holidays –and the rest of the year– by volunteering their time, money, and resources to charities and nonprofits. Volunteering is a way for single men to give back to their community. Single men who go their own way during the holidays are able to choose exactly how they want to spend their time and who they want to invest their time in during the holidays. For some single men, this may mean helping their local church or bringing in the New Year by attending a New Year’s party exactly how you want to end the year. Single men can choose to spend the holidays alone, with friends, or make new friends at events they attend during the holiday season.
Summary
Single men who go their own way during the holidays should not be afraid to stand up to society’s norms of cuffing and engagement seasons during the holidays. Single men say “no” to dating and make the priority of the holiday season anything that they want that are not romantic relationships. This holiday season is the time for single men to go their own way during the holidays!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Christmas can be filled with family, friends, or with loneliness, if you let yourself feel that way. I’ve been alone on Christmas alone before, but I don’t always make a habit of it. But I’ve come up with a list that will make your single Christmas fill up with joy or something a little spicier.
Instead of wallowing in self-pity about being alone on Christmas, as my mom would say, “Suck it up buttercup.” I think it’s fitting for this. There’s no need to have a little pity concerto of one. Instead, make it a party of one. You’ll be fabulous at Christmas, no matter what.
Survive Christmas Alone
Get in touch with your inner piece to help you survive Christmas alone
A piece of pie that is, or heck, even a whole cake! Make sure you eat at least one thing you love, even if you’re on a plant-based diet or any kind of food. Make sure you treat yourself to something special in the tastebuds department. Comfort food isn’t a bad thing especially when it’s engagement season for everyone else.
Hang up Christmas lights
Do this for at least one day. I recommend leaving them up at least until New Years Day. Let the holiday twinkle lead the way at the wee hours of the night and all night. Christmas lights just make things look pretty and festive.
Write your own snarky Christmas carol as I did
Even if you hate Christmas music, this tactic will help you survive Christmas alone. Here’s a link to my Christmas carol lyrics: And there’s one more thing you’ll need.
One of my favorite tools to use for this is called the rhyme zone
You can type in any word at RhymeZone and find the perfect or almost perfect word that can replace the word or words in your once-was-a-carol song. This is an excellent way to use your creative mind and have a little fun with words, (one of my favorite things to do!).
Have a naked day
Crank up the heat and have yourself a good old time. Unless your an exhibitionist, make sure you’re close up the curtains.
Participate in at least one random act of kindness
Check out RandomActsOfKindness.org for more ideas you can do yourself this holiday season. Give a homeless person a meal. Make your neighbor cookies. Plant a tree. Stick a sweet message on 5 cars on the street with post-it notes. When you do something kind, it’ll make you feel good!
Use amazon prime for yourself (I’m sure you’ve never done that!)
Now that you’ve done your good deed for someone else give yourself something that’s been on your wish list for a while. Don’t go bankrupt ordering a $90,050 Niagara Chandelier even if you do want it. Order something great that’s in your budget and makes you feel pampered.
Go to Christmas Eve candlelight service
Even if you’re not a religious person, there is something extraordinary about people in the dark lighting hundreds of candles together in a church. It’s beautiful, even to a non-believer.
After that, switch things up and go have yourself some drinks
Now that you’ve got your spiritual on, it’s time to let loose!
Summary
Embrace the fact that Christmas isn’t just a birthday for Jesus and a reason to buy a bunch of gifts. It can also be your day. Enjoy the peace, while you have your piece!
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Surviving the holidays as a single parent can be a challenge. Your children may be spending Christmas with the other parent or maybe even out of town for the week. How you face the holidays as a single parent can make the difference between scrolling through social media posts in your pajamas or enjoying the joys of the season.
Surviving The Holidays As A Single Parent
Here are 10 ten tips to help you survive the holidays as a single parent.
Remember the Reason
No matter which holiday you celebrate, the holidays are about spending time with people we love and sharing the warmth of the season.
Be Flexible
If you aren’t with your children on the holiday, exchange presents the night before or split the day so you can celebrate with a festive breakfast before sending the kids off to their other parent.
Acknowledge Your Feelings
Accepting change is a process. It’s okay to feel sad. Write down your feelings or talk to an understanding friend.
Be Your Own Best Friend
Surviving the holidays as a single parent means not being too hard on yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, blow dry, or an afternoon wandering around a museum. Take an exercise class or browse in a bookstore. Spend time doing something you enjoy.
Make New Traditions with Your Children
Spend an afternoon ice-skating or watching a favorite Christmas movie. Put on your favorite holiday music and dance.
Throw a Party
Invite a mix of guests, from friends and family to coworkers and neighbors or gym buddies. Spend time planning the menu and decorating for the party. Wear something festive that makes you feel good.
Give Back
Volunteer to serve Christmas dinner or to help out in a toy drive. Collect groceries for families in need. Bring cookies to first responders.
Take a Social Media Break…
If you find yourself envying other people’s family celebrations, power off. But if you’re home alone and need a listening ear or sounding board, reach out to friends.
Spend Time with Friends or Family
If your family is far, join a friend’s celebration or make plans with other single parents.
Toast the New Year
Focus on what you do have: your children, friends, freedom to pursue new interests and adventures.
Summary
Surviving the holidays as a single parent means being resilient to embrace change and make new traditions, which is a valuable lesson for your children, as well as for you. While it may take some time, you can not only survive but thrive as a single parent during the holidays and all year long.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
The nights are getting cold and the nights are long. Cuffing season is upon us.
I’m not too excited about the blistery East Coast eves, or days for that matter. I just got back from a ski resort at 5000 feet yesterday. It was like this — I was wildling on that cold dark and snowy mountain this weekend. Brrrrr . . .
It’s so enticing to get hitched up when the weather takes a vicious turn. People become desperate, like the hungry squirrel that didn’t save up enough nuts for the winter.
Cuffing Season
Instead, it’s already here. When you’re holed up with your cat and Netflix is when cuffing season begins. It beckons to hold your hand like the ghost of Christmas past (or the Grim Reaper of your dating life).
In 2017 Elite Singles surveyed 1500 singles, and they proved cuffing season is real. 70 percent of those singles said they were more than likely to look for something serious when it gets cold outside.
There are real benefits to being single during this cuffing season.
If you’re happy being single, seeing couples in matching ugly sweaters can supercharge your eye rolling capabilities. This is another (not-scientifically-proven-at-all) fact.
Rachel Perlstein, LCSW, told Bustle, “It can be detrimental to look for a partner just for the winter if you feel like you ‘have to’ or to avoid some kind of negative emotion.”
Wintertime blues season isn’t always the best time to snuggle up to someone new.
If you have unresolved emotional “things” rolling around in your heart, it can take a toll on your emotional well-being. If you’ve got that lonely feeling instead of looking for love, you may be better off taking care of yourself.
Seasonal affective disorder is real.
According to the Mayo Clinic, seasonal affective disorder (also known as SAD) is a type of depression. It starts around the same time every year.
Guess when SAD starts?
You guessed it — during cuffing season.
It can suck your energy, make you feel sluggish, hopeless, give you sleeping problems, feel depressed and make you feel moodier than normal. And a few other things . . . I had a helluva a crying session today myself.
I’m ready to go to Florida to soak up some rays again. But until then, I’ll be going to the gym for some red light therapy and hitting the tanning bed here and there.
If you feel SAD, it is treatable.
When you don’t have the time to hit the beach, pretend you’re there.
You can get a light therapy box that mimics sunshine. 30 minutes a day will do it! 30 minutes a day will trigger your circadian rhythms and suppress the natural release of melatonin according to Everyday Health.
Feel your best when you are ready for a partner (if that day ever comes). You might be the happiest single for life.
Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you have to be alone for the holidays.
Feel free to date casually. When’ you’re carefree all year, and not just in the heat of summer, you can have fun year round. If you’re looking for short-term, just keep your communication open with your fling.
Summary
When you’re single, embrace your alone time. Read a book, meditate and learn something you’ve always wanted to learn. Curl up in your favorite big sweater and be thankful that you don’t have to wear a matching one.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Singles do not need to find meaning in life from relationships because there is more to life than relationships.
Society defines people by if they are in a dating relationship or if they are single. This is a false dichotomy that society and popular culture is susceptible to that single should not fall for today. This is a problem as Thanksgiving and the holidays approach. There are many different ventures, values, and objectives that singles can choose to pursue while being single. Singles need to know that there is more to life than relationships despite what people and society tells you this holiday season.
More To Life Than Relationships This Holiday Season
The elevation of romantic relationships does not mean that it needs to be the top priority for singles. There is a range of viable options that singles choose to focus on for a time or to make it their life’s goal: family, religion or spirituality, education, politics, advocate for rights (positive or negative), career, friendships, relationships, etc. These can be adjusted, placed up or down, according to where you are in life and the values that direct your life. It is up to you to discover what your life priorities are and to place them according to the order of how you want to live your life. This will better direct you in your life choices while decreasing the need to pursue society’s elevation of romantic relationships to please people.
As the holidays approach this year and your friends and family wonder why you’re not dating someone this season, know that it is alright to be single. There is more to life than relationships. You can tell your family that you enjoy what you are doing right now and are focusing on something that you are passionate about. This gives your life purpose and meaning. You can use this opportunity to move the discussion from dating to how to improve society and life for the greater good and common good. This will lead to more hot topics such as politics, philosophy, and economics but those discussions are important to have since they influence people who live in society. Please just remember to be polite and civil when the discussions do arise.
There is more to life than relationships and singles do not need to seek the American suburban dream which consists of being married, a house most likely in the suburbs, white picket fence, and having 2.5 kids. You can point out how being single is on the rise while marriage is on the decline. With the decline of marriage, that means that the parts are not following like the once did since there has been a shift in culture about relationships and societal norms. Being fine with singles and people who are single by circumstance or by choice needs to be included as viable lifestyles in a society that claims to be inclusive and tolerant.
Summary
This holiday season make it known that there is more to life than relationships. Singles have the ability to make a difference in a society that shuns the unmarried by working towards the greater and common good. Being unattached allows singles to hone skills and to advocate for causes that they want to see changed by society and their nation. This holiday season don’t be afraid to get into difficult discussions to advocate for changes instead of getting tied down into discussions about your relationship status.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
If you’re single during the holidays instead of being joyful and incredible — sometimes it’s more like an awkward interrogation.
“Why didn’t things work out with boyfriend number 17?” Or “How are you still single?” And the age-old annoying comment “You’re such a catch.”
Maybe you don’t want to get caught. Or you could be in the camp of not wanting to be single. Either group you fall in, there are bound to be questions or whispers about you over the cookie tray.
How are you supposed to deal with all the questions you really don’t want to answer when you’re single during the holidays?
Single During The Holidays: Thanksgiving Advice From A Dating Coach
16 Snarky Burns for when You’re Asked why are you Single During the Holidays
If you’re single during the holidays, I say “kill em with sarcasm.”
Not kill em literally of course, but blow them over with your wit or mine will get your fam to hush it for once.
I love self-help advice as much as the next person, (and give plenty of it myself). But today is a special day. It’s a kill em with Thanksgiving sarcasm kind of day.
This is the one day of the year where you just want to enjoy your turkey, and watch football. And after that take a well-deserved nap on the couch with the cousins you only see twice a year.
Show your family the love and how much you love yourself.
This holiday season I think sarcasm will be the best annoying uncle repellant. Ever. However use it wisely. Your family doesn’t know you’re as funny as Steve Harvey . . . just yet. But soon, very soon they will.
But I guess no matter what you say, they’ll still be your family and love you (hopefully).
Here are a few answers I’ve come up with for you.
Q: Why are you still single during the holidays?
A: I did have a great boyfriend, but he discovered my tail and things just fell apart after that.
A: I’m not single I’m married to my freedom.
A: The first thing I do when I see a hot guy is I avoid contact and hope he’ll leave me alone.
A: I started wearing a wedding ring because when I walked down the street guys wouldn’t leave me alone! It was getting exhausting.
A: Being single during the holidays is the best time I’ve ever had in my life.
A: Most people just bore me.
A: Becuase I think it’s awesome. You should try it sometime.
A: The only person I have to check in with is my cat.
A: Most people don’t know how to handle how awesome I am.
A: I’m kind of a big dill. You know, like a pickle.
A: I hate it when people ask me, “why are you still single!”
A: I love living in the void, but you probably wouldn’t get it.
A: When I was online, I thought I found “the one.” He ended up being a catfisher and stole all my money. Can I borrow $1000?
A: Nobody can handle my addiction to Fortnight.
A: I don’t know. Do you have any guesses why I’m still single?
A: When did you become so nosy?
Of course, I write these answers in jest, (sort-of). But I hope you have fun with them and however you choose to use them. This should give you plenty of ammo to use when your family tries to pry into your life on Thanksgiving.
I like to choose my weapons wisely. And my partners.
Lots of Love,
Dina Colada
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Do you have any Thanksgiving dinner plans yet? Here are some options.
Thanksgiving is approaching and singles may already be making Thanksgiving dinner plans, or singles may have no Thanksgiving dinner plans. There are many different ways that singles can celebrate Thanksgiving. There are five main ways that singles can have Thanksgiving dinner plans this year and enjoy the holiday.
Thanksgiving Dinner Plans: Singles Can Celebrate The Holiday
Family
Thanksgiving dinner with family is the traditional choice when it comes to making Thanksgiving dinner plans for the holiday. If you are going home for Thanksgiving or visiting extending family for the holiday, be confident about being single around your family. You can also roast your family with responses when they ask you, why are you still single and why didn’t you bring anyone home this year?
Friends
Friendsgiving is another option for singles who are making Thanksgiving dinner plans. Don’t be shy, ask around your friend groups and ask if anyone will be having a Friendsgiving this year. If not, you could choose to host your own!
Group
If you’re not going home for Thanksgiving and none of your friends are planning a Friendsgiving, look on Meetup or social media groups to find a Thanksgiving event to attend. You can also look to see if any churches or nonprofit organizations are having Thanksgiving dinner.
Volunteer
You can also volunteer at a church, homeless shelter, or a nonprofit that is putting on Thanksgiving dinner for people who can’t afford a meal or have nowhere else to go. If you don’t have any plans this Thanksgiving, consider volunteering this year.
Alone
There is also nothing wrong with eating alone, dining alone, and celebrating Thanksgiving alone. It is considered a family holiday, but that shouldn’t stop you from finding a restaurant that is having a Thanksgiving dinner special. You can also cook your favorite Thanksgiving items for yourself. You don’t need to make the entire Thanksgiving feast. You can cook a Turkey leg, mashed potatoes, and buy a pumpkin pie.
Summary
Singles have a range of options when it comes to making Thanksgiving dinner plans for the holiday. Singles are not tied down or obligated to visit family or to go to a significant other’s family for Thanksgiving dinner. Choose to embrace the single life this Thanksgiving and find the way that reflects how you want to celebrate the holiday this year.