This is a simple list of fall activities for singles. Fall is officially here! Autumn is a time to enjoy seasonal activities and festivities of the season. Here are ten fall activities for singles to do this autumn. Here are ten fall activities for singles!
10 Fall Activities for Singles
Corn Maze
Find a corn maze and go alone or with friends. Get lost in the corn maze and have fun. Be careful to not run into any Children of the Corn or to find any Signs in the corn fields.
Hot Air Balloon Ride
Go on a hot air balloon ride! Get up in the air instead of staying on the ground this fall. You can search “hot air balloon rides” where you live and go for a ride today.
Carve A Pumpkin
This is a classic fall activity. Carve pumpkins alone, with friends, or plan a pumpkin carving party. Have fun scooping out the pumpkin guts and cook the pumpkin seeds.
Pumpkin Patch
Visit a pumpkin patch in your area and find a pumpkin to carve for Halloween.
Haunted House or Corn Maze
There are many fun fall activities for singles during autumn. Halloween is quickly approaching so go to a haunted house or corn maze. Fear is healthy and dictates your actions, but choose to embrace it and to direct it in the most positive way that you can.
Oktoberfest
Craft beer has boomed throughout the United States, but Oktoberfest is a historic event. Oktoberfest is a sixteen to eighteen day festival in Munich, Germany and is an important event in Bavarian culture. Oktoberfest is one of many fun fall activities for singles to participate in this fall. Find an Oktoberfest happening where you live this fall.
Fall Festivals
Attend a fall harvest festival. Harvest festivals are an event that celebrates the harvesting of crops and happens during different times depending on the climate and region. Research fall harvest festivals and experience something different this October.
Bonfire
Invite friends and have a bonfire. Build a bonfire and cook s’mores with friends. You can also dance around the fire and do any other fire-related activities that you want to do with your friends.
Hayride
The same places that have pumpkin picking often offer hayrides too. Go on a hayride with your friends and breathe in the fall air.
Movie Night
The weather is getting cold outside making it a good decision to stay inside. Invite friends over and have a movie watching party. You can also watch Netflix, Hulu, or rent a movie for yourself. Stay inside and watch a movie.
Summary
There are plenty of fall activities for singles take part in to engage in the changing of the seasons. You can do these activities alone or with friends. Embrace being single, the single life, and the changing of the seasons!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
This Fourth of July singles in America can celebrate Independence Day and singles independence.
America commemorates its freedom and independence from Great Britain and becoming its own nation each Fourth of July. The holiday can also be used as a day to enjoy singles independence and to remember the values of the single life for singles. Singles independence day commemorates the independence, flexibility, security, and diversity of the single life.
Independence and autonomy are values that are honored in the United States. The United States citizen praise being independent and not being under the thumb of government, as the colonies experienced with Great Britain, The United States approved the final wording and version of the Declaration of Independence from Great Britain on July 4th, 1776. Singles can declare their own independence and choose to thrive as a single person as society tells them they must couple up to be happy.
Singles independence is a wonderful thing. Singles independence allows singles to choose how to live their own lives without being constrained by what society, culture, and politics says singles they must do to enjoy life. Being single is a time to enjoy the single life. Being single is not a time to mourn not being in a romantic relationship that is what society says makes singles happy. There is more to life than dating, romantic love, and marriage. This year marks the year of singles independence and singles can live a wonderful life without a significant other, partner, or spouse. Singles independence is about enjoy the single life and being freed from the chains and obligations that romantic relationships place upon people.
This Fourth of July can be celebrated as singles independence day. Singles independence is a vital part of being single and singles can fight to maintain it each year from society, culture, and politics that worship at the effigy of dating, romantic relationships, and marriage. Singles independence is a quality to be cherished—not looked down upon— like the Fourth of July in 1776 when the United States formally broke up with and chose to go its own way as a nation without Great Britain. These fireworks this Fourth of July are for you singles!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Memorial Day is today and it is a day that celebrates and remembers what the veterans have done to protect America. The holiday is celebrated with barbecues, relaxing by the pool, drinking most often beer, and hanging out with friends and family. Here are three ways singles can celebrate Memorial Day this year while remembering those who have died while serving to protect the United States.
3 Ways Singles Can Celebrate Memorial Day Alone
With Friends
Hang out with your friends who are hosting a BBQ. This is a time to enjoy the company of your peers. If you are invited to a friend’s BBQ, be sure to bring something to the BBQ like a pack of beer.
With Family
It is a great day to relax and spend time with your family. The Memorial Day BBQ is a classic way to celebrate the holiday. If you have anyone in your family who served in the military and died protecting their country, it is also a day to remember them.
By Yourself
If you want to do something but don’t have any family or friends to spend it with, cities often host events for the holiday or you can find events happening where you live on social media. There is nothing wrong with celebrating a holiday alone. Be sure to enjoy this Memorial Day with some BBQ while remembering those who have fallen protecting our country. Remember those who have fallen serving their country and to protect the freedom that Americans values and often take for granted this Memorial Day.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Saint Patrick’s Day is a fun holiday for many reasons. The modern version of Saint Patrick’s Day is now an excuse to drink Irish drinks and to wear green. While Saint Patrick’s Day was originally a religious feast day to Saint Patrick; it has changed into a celebration of Irish culture, parades, and enjoying Irish food and beverages. Saint Patrick’s Day is a great holiday and here are five ways that singles can celebrate Saint Paddy’s Day this year.
How Singles Can Celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day In 2018
Green
Green is the official color to wear on Saint Patrick’s Day. The color green was traditionally associated with Catholics while Protestants wore orange. That is what those colors were historically connected to, but it does not matter now since green is the color to wear on Saint Patrick’s Day. It is now a cultural holiday and not a celebrated feast day, except in certain circles. Wear green today.
Saint Patrick’s Day Parade
Look up the route for the Saint Patrick’s Day parade in your city. The Saint Patrick’s Day parade features Irish costumes, dancers, floats, and people usually start their festivities—read drinking—early so it is also a great people watching opportunity. Singles can watch the parade in their city and then enjoy the rest of the day with other holiday activities.
Irish Restaurants
Irish restaurants, pubs, and bars will be crowded with people celebrating Saint Patrick’s Day. Find an Irish restaurant or pub where you live and enjoy some green beer, Jameson, and food like corned beef and cabbage. If you leave your house or apartment, remember to wear green.
Block Parties
There may be block parties in having Saint Patrick’s Day parties this year. Block parties are when whole blocks are closed off in a neighborhood or an area of a city for a special event. This is a great way for singles to celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day while getting to know their city better and to meet new people. See if there are any block parties happening in your neighborhood or a neighborhood near you.
Irish Dancers
Irish dancers can be found performing at Irish bars or events on Saint Patrick’s Day. Irish dancers may dance inside or outside, depending on the location and the event. Watch some Irish dancers this Saint Patrick’s Day and get your dancing shoes on to dance along while you hold pint.
Summary
These are five easy things that singles can do to celebrate Saint Patrick’s Day this year. Have some fun this Saturday and watch the Saint Patrick’s Day parade or go people watch at an Irish pub. But most importantly, enjoy your Saint Patrick’s Day and be responsible singles.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
It is that time of year. 2018 is a few days away and that means that you need to make a New Year’s Resolution for New Year’s. A study found that only 42.4% of everyone succeed in keeping their New Year’s Resolution each year. Here are eighteen New Year’s Resolutions for 2018.
18 New Year’s Resolutions For Singles
Health
Go To the Gym
A classic resolution. Go the gym more and lift weights or do cardio to become a better healthier person.
Start Doing Yoga
Start doing yoga to becoming more flexible, work on your breathing, or to try something new.
Learn to Cook
Learn to cook to cut back on spending money going out. Cooking at home is healthier too than going out and saves you money.
Lose Weight
Lose x number of pounds this year by exercising, working out, and going to the gym.
Finances
Follow a Budget
Actually make and follow a budget this year. Cut out any unnecessary expenses that you may find while making your budget.
Cut Back On Credit Card Expenses
Review your credit card statements and cancel any memberships, subscriptions, or costs that are costing you money each month.
Pay Off Any Debt
Direct more money towards paying of any debt that you may have or consider getting a second part-time job to pay off your debt.
Save/Invest Money
Save more of your money and consider investing it into the stocks, bonds, or a Roth IRA.
Save Money for a Down Payment
Save more money each month to go towards a down payment to move into a permanent house instead of paying for rent each month.
Social
Spend More Time with Friends
Go out with your friends more often or attend activities that your friends are involved in to see them more often.
Spend More Time with Family
Visit your family more often to spend time with your family more or call them more often than you did last year.
Attend More Events
Find fun and interesting events to attend where you live to meet new people and to learn more about the world.
Society
Volunteer
Find somewhere to volunteer this year. Singles volunteer more than couples so this is a great one for those who are single.
Career
Take a Certification Test
Study for the certification that you need to pass to move up in your job to get paid more and to stand out more on your resume to employers.
Go Back to School
Go back to school to get a degree in a field that you want to get into or to change fields.
Spirituality
Pray More
Set a goal for how much you want to pray each day and what type of prayer it is for next year.
Go Back to Church
Start going back to church or explore another religion.
Travel
Go on a Trip
Travel to that destination next year where you have always wanted to visit or travel more than you did last year.
There you go singles. Eighteen New Year’s Resolutions for 2018. Celebrate New Year’s alone, with friends, or attend an event to bring in the New Year. Happy New Year’s singles!
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
The holidays. A time for awkward family conversations on top of it already being cuffing and engagement season. When singles go home for Christmas and the holiday season, they can expect a family or extended family member to say something along of the lines of “he/she is the next to be married in the family.” This happened to me this Christmas so it probably has happened or will happen to you too during the holidays. Families, extended family, and friends please stop pressuring and assuming that single family members are interested in finding a partner and getting married.
Families Stop Pressuring Your Single Family Member To Find A Partner
Teach Your Family On Different Types Of Singles
The holidays already place pressure on singles to bring home a significant other during the holidays, but when someone in your family says something along the lines above, it adds an expectation on the unmarried family member. Families should stop saying things like this during the holidays to single family members. Extended family and friends can quit as well.
When your family says that you are next/last to be married off in the family, they are implicitly single shaming you for your singlehood. There is nothing wrong with being single. Statements that single shame singles and make being single lesser than being married do not fit into the Christmas and holiday spirit. Instead, families should accept the person who is single and ask more about if they plan to stay single or if it is merely an impermanent state for them. This is a more polite tact that families should take during the holiday season to single family members instead of presuming that you will get married. Families should be aware of the three main types of singles and singlehood today this holiday season.
There are those who are single by circumstance want to eventually get married. There are other singles who are single again. There are also those who are single by choice. These are only the most basic and common types of singles. Single by circumstance means that the person is temporarily single but wants to date and later get married. Those who are single again may have been dating, been divorced, or are a widow. These singles may want to get into a relationship again or they may be content being single after experiencing a relationship already in life. Finally, there are those who are single by choice. These singles plan to remain single for their lifetime and do not have an interest in dating or marriage. The concept of single by choice is incompatible with the usual family statement during the holidays to singles. Put simply, these singles do not want to put a ring on it.
As a single, you should educate your family and friends on these three main types of singlehood. After you break down the differences between single by circumstance, single again, and single by choice, give your family a quick quiz. Once they understand the terms, let them know where you fit among those three kinds of singlehood. This will help make your journey home for Christmas and the holiday season next year and help to prevent the family pressure to partner up this holiday again. Educate your family and let them know that you can thrive as a single person. A partner or marriage is not required to flourish in life.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Merry Christmas Secure Singles!
Secure Single would like to thank and wish everyone who supports and reads our content a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year’s. The site exists for you and to help singles thrive and flourish. Be prepared for Christmas dinner when they ask why you are still single or enjoy Christmas alone. Both are great options depending on your Christmas plans. Thank you again for your support and Merry Christmas to our readers and those who are single, single again, and unmarried. Thrive as a single person and enjoy the single life this Christmas!
Best,
James Bollen
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
On the twelfth day of Christmas my true love gave to me… You don’t have a true love and there are no soul mates, so screw that lyric to the song. There is nothing wrong or pathetic about being alone, solitude is actually healthy. You will also miss the awkward Christmas dinner conversations that you would have had, if you had gone home this year. Here are twelve ways to enjoy spending Christmas alone this year.
12 Ways To Enjoy Christmas Alone
Sledding
Do you have a sled or something that could work as a sled? Great! Find a hill and go sledding.
Read
Reading a book is always a good idea. Consider reading a classic, picking up a popular novel, or diving into some philosophy.
Watch TV Or A Movie
It’s a holiday. Why not chill and watch your favorite TV show or a movie? It’s fine and there is no reason to feel sorry for yourself while doing it today.
Text A Friend And Catch Up
Text a few friends who you are close to or who you want to catch up with and wish them a Merry Christmas. Instead of spending Christmas alone, spend it with friends. It may lead to a short conversation and provide a chance to reconnect with friends who you have fallen out of touch with in your life.
Work Out
It is always good to be healthy, even on a holiday. Most gyms are open twenty-four hours now every day. Get your gym card and go work out.
Make Eggnog or a Christmas Cocktail
Follow a simple holiday eggnog recipe to enjoy a classic Christmas drink or make a Christmas cocktail on Christmas. Cheers!
Get Together With Friends
You may not be the only person in your social group who is alone on Christmas. Get together with your friends and play games, watch movies, and catch up. Have fun with your friends!
Find An Event In Your City
Yes, it is Christmas. However, depending on how big the city is that you live in and the demographic makeup of the city there may be some events going on. Find an event this Christmas.
Volunteer
Don’t be a Scrooge, instead be generous with your time on Christmas and volunteer this holiday.
Attend A Christmas Church Service
Christmas is a Christian holiday so there are many Christmas services and masses going on in your city. Be adventurous and explore a new faith this year or just go for the experience.
Christmas Brunch Or Dinner
There are restaurants that will be open on Christmas. These restaurants will have Christmas brunch, dinner, or both for those who prefer to go out instead of to cook and stay in on Christmas alone.
Prepare For Next Year
Prepare for the New Year by cleaning up your house or apartment and make a list of what you want to accomplish next year.
These are twelve things that singles can do on Christmas day, if you will not be travelling to see family or friends this year. It is great to be alone. So don’t be sad that you are alone on the holiday. You are probably not the only one alone today. Make the most of being alone on Christmas and enjoy it instead of being a Grinch today.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Christmas dinner during the holiday can be awkward with family, extended family, in-laws, and friends who will ask you all questions that are on all of their minds. After all, this is normally the one time of the year where you all see each other. They will ask, why are you single and why are you not seeing anyone? You are handsome or gorgeous after all. Here is a Christmas conversation guide for how to respond to the Christmas Scrooge at Christmas dinner this year.
4 Responses To The Family Scrooge At Christmas Dinner
Why Are You Still Single?
I’m single because the single life has much to offer. In fact, why it is a problem? Why is your concern if I’m unmarried? Would you like if I asked you, why aren’t you divorced yet or how your marriage is going? Great, glad that we are both on the same page now.
When Was Your Last Relationship?
The values of the single life are not recognized by this question. It assumes that being in a relationship is always the best thing that could happen to me, which is false. How is your marriage going? Are you considering getting a divorce? Maybe you would enjoy being single again.
Is There Anyone Who You Have Your Eyes On?
Why should I have my eyes on anyone? Sure, I see handsome men or beautiful women, but that doesn’t automatically make me interested in them? I very much enjoy being single. If you truly care about me, you should be happy for me. Why is this such a concern to you? I hope you get visited by your ex of your past, your ex of the present, and your ex of your future just like Scrooge for asking me these questions.
I know you recently got married, how is that going for you? Have you got your eyes on anyone else besides your partner? Since you were the one who brought this up, I thought I might ask as well.
Do You Plan to Have Children?
How is that an acceptable question for you to ask me? I have never asked you about your sex life, how it is in the bedroom, what your favorite position is, and whether or not the children you have were planned. Plus, many of my friends who are single by circumstance don’t want to date anyone who may want to have children. They are childless by choice. Can you respect that? It’s not like the human race is going to die off anytime soon.
These are four short and simple response recipes to help you this Christmas, should that uncle you see once-a-year ask you an impolite question and become the Scrooge at this year’s Christmas family gathering.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Tis the season this Christmas to get engaged! Just kidding, but for real, everyone is getting engaged during the holidays, so it seems. What do you do when everyone around you is getting paired up? Here are the top five ways you can feel amazing about your singlehood when everyone else has an engagement and are getting ready to get married.
5 Ways To Navigate Engagement Season This Christmas
Singles Have More Time To Do What They Want
A time study conducted found that singles have more time to take care of their health and workout, advance in their career and invest in educational activities, and stay in touch with friends. When you are single, you have just one person to manage. If you are a single parent, then it’s you and your kids. Nonetheless, not having a romantic partner will definitely free up a lot of your time.
Singles Have More Leisure Time
You don’t have to worry about pleasing another person, you just have to please yourself. Relationships can be sticky and messy when you have the responsibility of taking care of another person’s needs. When you are single you have the liberty to be leisurely when you want to without your other half persuading you to do something else or to take care of a shared obligation. Now that your friend has an engagement, they will have less leisure time compared to you as a single person.
Singles Have More Time To Themselves
The meaning of life is one of the most mysterious questions throughout history. As a single person, having more time to yourself can allow you time to ponder what life has in store for you and how you can become the greatest version of yourself. Taking time to yourself allows you to take care of yourself, to reassess your values, life projection, and so on. Get lost in thought and have fun with it.
Singles Have A More Fulfilling Social Live
Singles have more of a fulfilling social life than their coupled counterparts. If you have ever been in a relationship, you tend to fall into a routine. Singles tend to have more of a social life and go out more, hence the term, “Single and Ready To Mingle!”
Singles Have More Opportunities For Success
Too often, women face the marriage or career orientation trade-off. Women who choose the career path over family are more ambitious to make their own money and living. Single women are on the rise and many of the notable women in history chose their careers over marriage, and the majority of them were single.
This Christmas, remind yourself that you are perfect just the way you are. You can thrive as a single person knowing that you have more freedom to change your life, do amazing bucket list items, and thrive as a single. Enjoy your life to the fullest, because you are worth it to make it an amazing journey! Take inventory and make your life fun, loving, exciting, and wonderful as a single person. Be happy in our singlehood and enjoy your life! Navigate the engagement waters of your friends by being supportive while feeling confident in yourself that you’re an amazing person. Have fun this Christmas, and remember to enjoy and love your journey instead of worrying about your friends’ engagements!
Cheers,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!