Everyone knows that Tinder is a completely ruthless hookup app. In our millennial generation, having meaningless-pleasurable sex out of wedlock is super common, and increasingly becoming more popular. There have been rare cases of people finding ‘the one’, but it does happen. If you are just looking to hookup, here is how to honor your emotional boundaries. Tinder is good for bouncing back after breakups, or just getting some goodies if you need it. We live in the insta-now decade, so when in Rome do as the Romans do. Right? Here are five easy ways to use Tinder without getting emotionally involved with someone by learning your boundaries and using the app to find sexual pleasure.
5 Ways Singles Can Use Tinder Emotion Free
No Strings While Traveling
Travelling is something that absolutely necessary. If you have not found a way to travel yet, do so immediately. You need to see as much of the world as possible. So while you are on your travels going solo or in a group, there is no harm in using Tinder to meet other singles on the road. As long as you know this is a one-time instance, go into the initial meeting knowing that you may never see this person again. Be safe and aware of ALL your surroundings. This is a great way to leave no-strings-attached because you are ultimately in a different zip code.
Post-Breakup-Hookup
If you just broke up with your significant other, there is absolutely every reason to be emotionally unavailable. You probably still have needs: company, companionship, physical touch, and sex. You will probably meet other people on Tinder that feel the same. You may even just want revenge sex. After all, the best way to get over someone else is to get on top of another. Forget getting under someone. Get on top. Do what you need to, in a healthy manner, to get over your lover.
Lonely Persons Colonic
If you are a workaholic, then you probably feel lonely from time to time. Work on fulfilling your sexual or companionship desires by using Tinder or other sex websites and apps. You don’t always have to have sex when you go on Tinder to find dates. Sometimes you just need a companion to join you on a simple date. Surrounding yourself with people is a good way to cure any sort of loneliness. Work on serving what serves you and others. Be good company. For moments when you just want to relax and breathe have a conversation with a stranger. This makes Tinder a good way to get connected to new people who may also be looking for a fresh new experience without unnecessary commitments.
Love ‘Em And Leave ‘Em
You might just want to sow your wild oats and whey. As long as you are clear with another person what your intentions are, and if their intentions align with yours, no harm will be done. Just know yourself, and work to understand how you will feel after having a sex with a complete stranger. Use protection, always. If you are okay with this sort of behavior, then go forth with confidence. Some people are just wired this way. Make sure you go into the situation with a strong and healthy mental attitude. Sowing your wild oats may just be a phase, so enjoy it and then talk about your wild adventures when you’re older. We all need good campfire stories.
Summary
Think about it in this way, Tinder is quite a useful app! Know yourself, know your worth, and prepare yourself for any situation that may arise. When your values align with who you are, then you can enjoy life more by doing activities that align with who you are. Singles have the opportunity to be emotionally unattached if is a stage in our lives, so enjoy it. Whether you are recovering from break up, wanting to have company, or just need a lot of sex, be clear about your intentions to yourself and your sex partner. Get ready to have fun!
Securely yours,
Danielle
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
It is no secret that men are dating less and that men are giving up on dating women. Single men are giving up on women and giving up trying to please their unrealistic expectations when it comes to dating. There are many reasons for this can include classic fights between the battle of the sexes. However, there are other reasons men have given up on women in the 21st Century and why dating is declining. These are fifteen reasons men are giving up on women and why men are deciding that it is preferable to stay single rather than deal with the hassle of dating and marrying women.
15 Reasons Why Single Men Are Giving Up On Women
Why Are Single Men Giving Up On Women?
Change Men
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women always trying to change men and making men into their pet project. Once men get into a relationship with men, after a while, the man they are dating becomes their project to change. Women tell men that the changes that they are making are for their benefit and will make them better people to everyone they encounter. Is that true? Possibly. Is that right for them to do? Probably not. Should men put up with it? Only if men see themselves putting up with this person for their lifetime and are willing to compromise who they are for the person. Otherwise, men should not put up with this, which is why men get tired of women.
Make Men Into Their Pet Project
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women making them into pet projects. They didn’t make these changes when they first met or began to date, but once their relationship becomes more serious women want to improve their man by making him their pet project. Men, single or not, should not put up with this and should be upfront that they will not put up with this or draw a compromise line. Bottom line: men are sick of being made into a pet project.
Not Communicating What They Want
Single men have given up on women because they do not directly communicate what they want and expect men to know by correctly reading body language. Women most often blame men for not communicating enough. Men are tired of always receiving the blame while women get away blame-free.
Decided That Women Are Not Worth Their Time
Single men have given up on women because they have decided that women are not worth their time trying to develop any type of relationship. Women have continually ignored them. Women have not been willing to get to know a guy as a friend. Women have stopped communicating with men when even when men are nice. Men have tried their best to be friendly, nice, and sociable and yet women still act those ways by following the bandwagon fallacy that all men are animals who are not worth their time.
Related – What Is Men Going Their Own Way?
Thought Of As Animals
Single men are giving up on women because they are sick of being thought of as animals. Women characterize men as being lowly animals who have human characteristics and are only necessary to put up with on a daily basis. This treatment implicitly makes women who think this way only view men as animals and damage their relationships with men. Men are tired of being thought of as animals and rightly should not put up with it.
Men Are Disappointing
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as a disappointment. If men are friends with women who believe this about men, they will likely not remain friends for long because it is detrimental to their friendship. These types of thoughts, values, and statements hurt men, yet it is perfectly acceptable for women to say things like this, while if men did something similar, they would be called sexist or misogynist. This is a double standard that is acceptable to society. For women that think this about men, men are tired of hearing these things and putting up with them. It is no surprise that men continue to leave women. Men are sick of it.
Man-Child
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as man-children. Women think that men are merely grown children. It is true that men take longer to mature and for men’s brains to develop than women’s, but that is not why women call men this. This term assumes that men are immature and incapable of being adults and are still children. Men are tired of being portrayed as only grown children by the media and treated as such by women. If a man said something similar about women, they’d get called out on it. Are you starting to see a pattern and double standard here?
Losers
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as a loser. Since they are a man-child, they must be a loser too because men must not have a great job or something else that is thought to make men a winner and a real man. Even if men may be smart and tech-savvy and have great jobs for today but lack social skills, so they fall into the “never had a girlfriend stigma’, women will still most likely call them losers. Men are tired of this thinking from women.
Rescue Men
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women believing that they need to rescue men from themselves. Once single men start dating a woman and marry a woman, women think that it is their job to rescue their man from whatever they think is wrong with them. Women like to shape men into their own image. Men can only do their manly things in the “man cave” once they get into the relationship and partner stage. Single men are fed up with having women compartmentalize all men as needing to be rescued. Single men continue this trend of not dating women. You don’t need to be rescued and formed into someone who you are not by a woman.
All Men Are The Same
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of women thinking that all men are the same. Men are only the same in that they share xx chromosomes; beyond that, men have different interests, goals, and views on life. In short, all men are not the same. There are nice men. There are bad men. There are successful men. There are men with traditional values, and there are men with progressive values. All men are not the same. This false box that women put men into is yet another reason men have given up on women and do not want to get into a relationship. It’s not their fault. Relationships are two-sided so women need to take a look in the mirror as well.
Trash
Single Men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of and treated as trash. Men are thought of as trash. Enough said. Treat others how you would like to be treated.
Tired of Being Told There Is Something Wrong With Them
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being told that there is something wrong with them because they are male.
Blamed For Relationships Ending
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of always receiving the blame for when a relationship ends. Relationships are a two-way street. This is true of friendships to marriages, yet men often are the ones who are blamed for a relationship not being successful. Stop blaming others and take responsibility when it is the fault of one or both parties in a relationship.
Related – The Myth Of Toxic Masculinity In A Gynocentric Social Order
Their Fault If Women Are Not Happy
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of it being their fault if women are not happy. If they cannot make women happy or are unhappy for some reason, men receive the blame even if they try to help. Most men don’t have the emotional dynamism that women want men to have that they think will make them be happy in a relationship. Men are sick of these unrealistic expectations and obligations that women believe men must fill in their lives.
Evil
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of being thought of as the evil gender. This follows from the idea of men being animals, men-children, and trash. Women are thought of as the good and perfect gender while men always are portrayed as the evil and inferior gender. Again, thoughts lead to actions and how people treat others. Men are tired of being thought of this way and treated as such.
Conclusion
Single men are giving up on women because they are tired of how women characterize, treat, and try to change men from the list above. All Men are not guilt-free, but not all women are guiltless either. It would be more beneficial if women tried to get along with men instead of attacking them. The same can be said to men about their relationships with women. Regardless, single men are learning to enjoy the single life, and single women are too. Stay civil singles with each other and learn to work with each other because the world would be really boring if it were only made up of men or women.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
People are staying single longer today. Single women are remaining single longer compared to past generations. Single men are being bachelors for a greater period of time compared to their fathers and grandfathers generations. Being a bachelor and bachelorhood are often presented as being a bad time of life and a negative state for single men. That is not the case. Single men should enjoy their time being a bachelor while they have it instead of pursuing relationship after relationship. Bachelorhood is an important time in the life of single men.
Why Single Men Should Enjoy Their Bachelorhood
People and society look down on bachelors and the bachelorhood of single men as an unimportant time in the life of men. Bachelorhood is presented as a time where single men need to work to fix themselves to attract a woman to marry, then have two-and-half kids and a white picket fence. They need to learn how to take care of themselves, get a good job, and finally attract a woman once they have gotten their life together. Society and people question the sexuality of single men because they are bachelors and are not dating anyone. Stigmas that society attaches to single bachelors is that they are lazy, are selfish, are immature, or are gay when neither of those options may be true about a bachelor. It is simply single shaming. Bachelorhood is an important time in the life of single men and it is becoming more common with the increase of divorce and people staying single longer.
Single men should not listen to the messages from society and people that say that you are a failure for being a bachelor or that question your sexuality because you are single. Single men can thrive as a bachelor and enjoy their bachelorhood to the fullest! Bachelors can use their time being single as a time of self-reflection, as a time to invest and diversify personal finances, as a time to explore the world, and as a time to save money to buy a house or condo. Bachelorhood offers bachelors with the freedom to go and to do as they please without the pressure of a relationship. Bachelors can use the freedom and flexibility of bachelorhood as they will it. They can hook up on a regular basis or remain celibate. There are many ways to successfully be a bachelor. Single men are not obligated to live bachelorhood one way. Single men need to not view bachelorhood as being a burden, but rather as a time to take advantage of all that life offers and be a happy bachelor.
Summary
Bachelorhood is a vital time of life. Everyone is born single. All men are single some time, whether by circumstance or by choice. Single men need to disassociate the negative stereotypes that society has attached to bachelorhood and choose to thrive as a bachelor. There is no reason for a bachelor to find someone to date when there is much more to life than romantic relationships. Enjoy life to the fullest and savor your time being a bachelor.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Single men are not dating. They are not asking women out as often compared to the past. While many in the dating, wedding, and marriage industries see this as a problem, single men are breaking free from the pressure to date women to pursue other interests is a valid choice. There are many reasons for why single men are not dating today. With the cost of living rising in cities and many men having debt along with working long hours, it makes sense to not date and to enjoy the single life. Single men are not dating and are dropping women like they are hot, dangerous, and are not worth their time to date for the freedom of the single life.
Single Men Are Not Dating Women For The Single Life
Studies have found that men work more hours than women. Working long hours for men has become a form of social signaling and of importance in today’s busy culture. Missed a phone call while working? Too busy working. By not answering it signals to the caller that you are doing something that is more important than answering their call. Similarly, too busy working to pay the bills or to save up to buy a cool condo in the new trendy neighborhood to date? Nothing wrong with that. Work for what you want in life because romance is secondary when there are more pressing matters on men’s minds. It is healthy to work and it is beneficial to be single. Men are able to pursue their goals without having someone who they are dating get in the way of their dreams. That is a good thing. It is good to have goals in life and another person, especially a romantic relationship, gets in the way of achieving personal goals.
Single men often have more debt than women. This means that single men have to prioritize paying off student or loan debt or a mortgage compared to women. This discourages men to date because dating is expensive. The financial costs of dating would get in the way of paying off debts single men may have to pay to work to become financially free. These financial burdens rightly take priority over dating. Single men should not feel bad for putting financial objectives over finding a romantic relationship. It is a wise decision for single men to pay off their debts instead of getting entangled in the dating scene.
Single men are frustrated and are tired of dating, online dating, and speed dating. The dating industrial complex is prevalent in society from dating sites advertisements on television to popular dating or hookup apps. Why look to date someone when you are burned out from dating? Why spend more money going on dates when the relationship likely fail? Why pay for a dating service when that money could be better spend in other ways? Why not work on improving your personal skills instead of becoming emotionally burned out dating someone? The dating industrial complex would not like the answers to those questions because it wants people to spend money dating that will later be spent on the wedding industrial complex. However, the answers to those questions are legitimate and many men are sick of spending money on dates on a relationships that most likely won’t succeed, then having to get over a person. Single men are beginning to recognize that women are not worth the time or effort to pursue for romantic dating relationships.
Single men tend to live in western states such as Colorado, California, and Oregon while single women live in eastern cities such as New York, Washington D.C., and Florida. Single men and single women living in different states makes it harder to meet someone for those singles that may want to date. It also makes it easier for single men to explore their city and state instead of navigating the rough oceans of the dating scene. Living in states more like Colorado allows men to get out in the mountains while enjoying metropolitan areas such as Denver. Men should focus on staying fit, being healthy, and exercising over seeking dating relationships. These states offer those men and it makes sense that men outnumber women in these Western states and cities.
Single men are also dropping women because of the immense pressures to ask a woman out on a date. The right time and place to do so may never arise. Some men may also be afraid of women. The phobia is called gynophobia. While not all men have that phobia, men are often more socially awkward than women, which makes it more difficult to ask a woman on a date. Men normally are not as socially adept as women. The combination of single men having less sophisticated social skills, pressure to as a woman on a date, and the fear of women rejecting you all contribute to the decline in men dating. These social, psychological, and personal reasons are all legitimate reasons for why men are not dating women and why women can’t find men to date. Single men may simply enjoy being single and all that the single life offers them.
Men enjoy being single because they are not tied to and restrained by a woman in a romantic relationship. They have the ability to do as they please without being told that they can’t do something because their girlfriend does not approve of something that they want to do. Single men are able to embrace and utilize the values of the single life as they please. Single men can use autonomy to work more, travel, or to hook up with women without the concerns of a girlfriend.. Single men have flexibility to best use their time and direct their life as they best believe fit to move up in their career or to seek what they want from life. Single men are diverse in their life goals, sexual preferences, and what they think of the single life. Single men are secure not being in a relationship because there are many other things that can fill in the time and the status that is given to romantic relationships by society.
Summary
Men are not dating and are dropping women for the single life. Women are doing the same. Single men are staying single longer for a variety of reasons. Society and politics at the very least portrays single men delaying marriage as unfortunate and at worst single shames men for not dating. Single men do not need a woman, or a significant ether to be happy in life. Single men do not need to find their mythical better half to have a prosperous life. It is good that single men are not dating women, whether it is temporary or permanent, because there is so much more to life than dating. Single men should not succumb to society’s dating industrial complex and its fetish with marriage. Keep on enjoying staying single instead of being pressured into a bad romantic entanglement that entangles men.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Whoopi Goldberg on The View summarized a recent survey that found 61% of women prefer being single than to be in a relationship. The same survey found that only 49% of men prefer to be single.
The View hosts speculated that the reason why women prefer being single is because they are generally better able to take care of themselves and their living area while men generally learn those skills later in life. While it may be true that men may have more difficulty in learning to how clean and to care of their living space, it is a skill that can be learned by single men. Singles, both men and women, should know how to do basic household chores and how to shop for one person so they have the freedom of the single life.
“As it turns out, I am not normal and that is something that I have come to accept.” – Whoopi Goldberg
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Thank You, Secure Singles!
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There are many different ways that someone can become single again. These ways include break ups, death of a partner or spouse, or your partner or spouse deciding to walk out on you. These all are hard things to deal with. These are difficult life circumstances, but the most important step is to slowly move on in your own way. The best choice that someone can make after a partner or spouse leaves them is to live their life on their own terms and to learn to enjoy being single again.
The ability for you to enjoy the single life provides a third solution amidst a society that presents people with a false dichotomy. Society says that there are only two options. The first option is to fix yourself for your partner or spouse to move on and meet new people after they leave you. The fatal flaw of both of these options is that they place the need for a romantic relationship above all else when a relationship is what just hurt you. The better solution is to take a break and to enjoy spending time alone instead of dating and trying to immediately get a partner or a spouse again.
During this break you may decide that you enjoy being single again and that it you may be too far in life to want to get into a relationship again. By acknowledging this, it give you the ability to fully embrace the autonomy and freedom that the single life offers individuals. This step will help you to choose what is best for you after your partner or spouse left you. Once you have tried the single life again after having to work and negotiate with a partner or spouse, you have the capability to fully embrace being single again.
These are the four values of the single life that you should embrace now that you are single again.
Security
Become secure again in yourself as an individual. There is nothing wrong with being single and you should not feel pressured to date or to get married again. Your human dignity does not come from external circumstances or relationships, but is inherent to you as an individual. You can rediscover who you are again outside of a relationship, your sense of purpose, and confidence in facing challenges on your own. Security is your anchor as a newly single person. Let it be your foundation.
Diversity
There is a broad spectrum of the types of people who are living as singles. You are just one of those many different types of singles by being single again. The reasons why people are single vary from person to person, circumstances, and life choices. You are now among other types of singles in the ocean of singles. There are a huge variety of singles in life just as there are a variety of sea creatures in the ocean.
Autonomy
You had to share the direction the ship went with your partner or spouse, but now you are the captain of your own life. You can now direct the course of your own life according to your own beliefs, values, and preferences. Your own inner compass as a single will help direct you and the type of single life that you want to live now that you are single again.
Flexibility
You now have the ability to make your own decisions and to embrace opportunities that were unavailable to you when you had a partner or spouse. You now have the flexibility and freedom to captain your ship that is your life as a single according to the flow of life’s winds or to harness life’s winds to go towards a specific direction. You are the captain of your single life and you now get to direct the sails of your own life’s ship to navigate towards the experiences and opportunities that you seek as a new single.
Now that you know the four options that are available to you after your partner or spouse left you, is now up to you to take the necessary steps and to embrace the four values of the single life now that you are single again.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
More men are making their ways to the grocery stores to buy food to cook for themselves. Grocery shopping is an important life skills. Marriage is being delayed or put off completely resulting in more single men having to learn how to shop at the grocery store. It is important that men know how to shop because it is a life skill. All adults should know how to shop wisely and how to best spend money while at the grocery store. There are some best practices that single men should use when going to the grocery store that save time and money.
3 Best Grocery Shopping Practices For Single Men
Know How the Store is Organized
Single men should know how to navigate a grocery store. Grocery stores can be broken down to roughly six different sections. First, there is the vegetable section. Second, is the deli and prepared food section features side dishes and prepared chicken. Third, the meat section where you will find seafood and a range of different types of meats in the store. Next, the dairy section is where milk, yogurt, and cheese can be found and is often in the back of the store near the frozen food aisles. Fifth, the frozen aisle is often one the left side of the store and this is where the prepared frozen food can be found. Finally, the canned meat and pasta sections that are in the middle of the store. Those are the main parts of a grocery store.
Navigate the Store
After learning how grocery stores are set up, it is important to know how to be efficient when visiting the grocery store and to buy what is on your list. An important rule to save when going to the grocery store is to stick to a shopping list and not to go to the store when hungry. The simplest way to navigate a grocery store is to start at the fresh vegetables section and then work through the different sections. After all the groceries are picked up, it is time to go to the checkout.
Save Money
There are a few different ways to save money when going to the grocery store. If the produce and meat will be cooked in the day couple of days, buy vegetables and meat that marked downs prices. These reduced priced vegetables and meats should still be inspected before making the purchase, but often times they are fine. This will lower the grocery bill since meat is often the most expensive product at the grocery store. Another way to cut back costs and save money at the store is buy the store’s brand instead of major brand. The grocery store’s white label product is very similar to the branded product and sometime the store’s brand uses the very same source for its products as the name brand. Buy the store’s brand instead of the name product and save anywhere from a few cents to a few dollars. These two steps will help to save money on groceries at the store.
Grocery shopping is a life skill. It requires being committed to a grocery list and not spending more at the store than is required for the week. Single men can follow the three steps to assist them on their next shopping trip. It does not matter if it is the first time or one hundredth time shopping alone. Go in with a plan. Navigate the store. Be effective and get what is needed for meals that week. Purchase products that are listed at reduced prices and buy the store’s off brand.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
Bill Maher just released a video that included a segment on singles. He presented singles in a positive light and asked, why do single people not have their own holiday? Bill Maher presentedd a nice summary of facts about the single demographics that Secure Single has covered on the site. It is nice for someone who has mainstream recognition to finally acknowledge singles. This is a step in the right direction. Society needs to realize the reality of the single population in countries and make a holiday that celebrates singles’ contributions to society.
In the five minute video, Bill Maher summarized data and studies about singles. He told his viewing audience that singles now outnumber those who are married and that singles are the new norm. Singles do have a smaller carbon foot print than their married counterparts. Society needs to stop with the negative stereotypes of those who are unmarried and face reality. Maher also told viewers that society and people need to stop believing that those who are single are incomplete and suspect. He explained that being single can be a rational decision (for those who are single by choice). Bill Maher told his audience that compared to couples; singles exercise more, are healthier, have less debt, have stronger social ties with family and friends, and that not being married should not be a shock. This is the 21st Century after all
Bill Maher asked for a holiday to be made for all single people since holiday are made for those who are married or who have a role to their children. His name for the holiday was “I Didn’t Reproduce Day.” While that name is comical, it still is negative to singles. There is a National Single Parents Day, but there needs to be a National Singles Day that celebrates being single. Here are some other Single Holiday, or holidays, name ideas:
- Secure Singles Day
- National Singles Pride Day
- Single By Choice Day
- Happy Singles Day
- Single Life Day
Since I first started Secure Single, I am happy to see that someone who is recognized by the mainstream is finally bringing the truth about singles out of society’s closet. There is nothing wrong with being single. No one is incomplete if they are single. No one should be held suspect by someone because they are single. There should not be any pressure for those who are single and unmarried to have children if they do not want to have kids. Being single is a healthy lifestyle choice or stage in life and society needs to begin to acknowledge that fact. This is a step in the right direction, thank you Bill Maher. The Secure Single Team will continue to move society’s pendulum to change the perception of all singles.
Views expressed in this article are the author’s opinions and do not necessarily reflect the views of Secure Single. It is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not investment or financial advice. James Bollen is the author of Thriving Solo: How to Flourish and Live Your Perfect Life (Without A Soulmate). Now available in paperback and for the Kindle on Amazon. Subscribe to Secure Single’s Substack for free!
9 Sex Technologies Singles Should Consider
In our series on technosexuality, we thought you might enjoy reading about the types of sex tech available for you and your single nights from software to artificial intelligence sex dolls. Don’t get me wrong, sex with a partner is a lot of fun – but when you are on the go and stressed out with no time for a significant other or a hook up, you might want to invest in some sex tech to lower your stress and make your life a more enjoyable. There are many different types of sex tech available for both men and women. If you are too afraid to ask someone, fear not because at Secure Single there is no topic we aren’t afraid to blog about.
Here are the top sex tech toys currently booming in the industry.
1. Lush
This item is so tech savvy that it is even compatible with iPhones and Apple Watches, the inventor calls this communication ‘teledildonics’. The interesting part about this toy is that it can also be controlled by a partner through the app. You can expect a fun afternoon delight if you’re using it for a long distance relationship with your partner...
2. VR Porn
Yes, this is totally a thing now. First VR, and now VR porn. This new tech makes a porn scene viewable from the first person perspective. You look like you are the guy sitting in the chai while a porn scene goes on right in front of you through VR. Have a favorite porn star? There may be a VR video of them now.
3. Eva Dame
This sex tech toy was invented by two women who wanted a wearable item for women to use as they please – the item is also hands-free. This was a response to the male-oriented vibrator rings. This tech was even a sensation on IndieGogo.
4. First ‘gender-neutral’ toy: PicoBong Transformer
This item can be creative in a lot of ways. There may be a manual that goes with this, as there are so many uses for both male and female. It adds a dimension to spice up the bedroom. It is essentially a double-ended vibrator. For more info check out the description for details.
5. The Remote Control Lelo Tiani
The Lelo Tiani is not only remotely controllable but also ultra-responsive to motion. You can tilt and motion the controller to change the vibrator’s frequency. This tech is pretty fancy.
6. The Pulse Hot Octopuss ‘Guybrator’
The Pulse Hot Octopuss delivers high-amplitude waves to stimulate the male anatomy. The wings on the sides are adjustable to make it more fitting for each individual’s measurements. It also expands when the guy has more blood flowing due to stimuli.
7. kGoal: Smart Kegeling
Kegeling is probably one of the most overlooked exercises. One should practice for good sex. This tech invention was named the world’s first smart Kegel trainer and comes with an app. It is a personal trainer for Kegel muscles and tracks pelvic floor exercises.
8. Limon: Smart Squeeze
Limon is a vibrator that, when squeezed, adjusts its’ vibrations based on how hard it’s squeezed.
8. Hello Touch
This device is dynamite in a small package. The design has two compact vibration pads that are encased in silicone. To control the device, there is a toggle on the wristband included in the package.
Now you have the scoop on the latest and greatest in the sex tech industry. For more information, check out the Sex Tech Annual Conference in San Francisco. Spice up your bedroom life at night. There are a lot of new items for both men and women. There is no reason not to be curious. Take the leap, and try one out. Best of luck Secure Singles!